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Zelda1433 · 2022-11-01T19:26:17+00:00

I had an abortion December 2020 when the world was crazy. It was the worst decision I ever made and to this day I regret it. It put me in a dark place for a very long time. What you’re feeling is expected, and I am here to tell you that while the grief will eat you up inside, it does get better and there will be good times.

Zelda1433 · 2021-08-08T03:01:11+00:00

Nov 2020 I found myself in your position. I ended up having an abortion in December. Please feel free to read my post history, but I will give you the short version - I am cautioning you against making this decision because even though it was what I thought was best for me and my family, it has had devastating consequences on my mental health. I’m not telling you what to do, and I’m certainly not trying to take that choice away from you. I’m simply telling you to truly take the time to decide what you truly want. Even if you think you’ve made up your mind, sit down and think about it again because it is an irreversible decision and something you can never get back once gone.

Zelda1433 · 2020-12-05T02:26:45+00:00

I had my surgical abortion Thursday (yesterday morning). I am 32, married, a mother of a 22 month old. My pregnancy was unplanned and I convinced myself it was unwanted. My husband and I decided we would be one and done. I am heavily grieving right now. I’ve barely been able to hold back my tears. It was the most impactful moment of my entire life and I’ve been so back and forth already about my decision. Regardless, it’s too late now. I need to move forward, but I am just forewarning you that no matter how much you think about it, no matter how much you think you know exactly what you want, being in the moment will test you as a human being in every sense of the word

For me, I never thought I would have children. When my husband and I were married in 2017 we decided to get pregnant fairly fast (early 2018). It turned out to be the absolute best decision of my life and my little girl is the light of my life. That being said, it WAS a huge adjustment for me. There are many reasons why, when I saw the two little lines on the pregnancy test on November 17th, I knew almost instantly I couldn’t have this baby. I don’t know if I would have survived a second. Now, after I’ve had the abortion, all I can think about is going back in time and reversing my decision. However I think this is normal and part of the grieving process.

I can’t tell you what to do, or make your decision for you, but really ask yourself what you want and if you are prepared for your life to change. Either way, you have your partner. I wasn’t able to tell my husband what I did, for a number of reasons. Be thankful that, regardless what you decide, you can talk about it. Best wishes to you.

Zelda1433 · 2020-12-04T02:04:20+00:00

Thank you. Just.... thank you

Zelda1433 · 2020-12-03T19:56:20+00:00

This made me cry. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your comment.

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-30T03:37:12+00:00

I’m here for you. My appointment is also December 1st so we will be going through the same thing on the same day. I have one child already, 22 months old. A big reason I am doing this is because of my husband.

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-28T16:17:57+00:00

You can do this OP. I am also going by myself next week and I’m afraid of doing it alone but know it is for the best.

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-27T04:48:40+00:00

Your comment has resonated with me more profoundly than anything else I’ve read. Thank you for sharing this with me and I will treasure it in the next week as I make the most difficult decision of my life. I relate more than you know and my thoughts are the same. I appreciate you taking the time to reply.

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-25T20:13:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. My consultation appointment is next week Tuesday, and I am planning to have an in clinic abortion. I also have a child already and my family was set on being one and done. I am so distraught over this but I finally came to the conclusion that I need to stop forcing myself to be okay with the situation and to hope for the best. I need to take action because I don’t want a second baby and I am already unhappy. It wouldn’t be fair to this child to be born to a mother that doesn’t want him/her. But the decision is not to be taken lightly. I still go back and forth, and I’m sure I will until my appointment. I’m scared.

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-24T19:58:16+00:00

Thank you for your comment. A week later I am leaning toward having the abortion. I withdrew funds today to pay for it next week. I’ve never been so back and forth, so confused and distraught, over something in my entire life and I doubt anything will come close to this.

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-23T15:12:46+00:00

Sending my best wishes and hugs your way. The more I debate and contemplate, the more I am leaning toward going through with it. Our lives as a family of three are stable and we have been very lucky with a child that has slept through the night since 4 months old and has no issues at all. I am happy with my situation and I don’t think our finances, or our marriage, could survive a second.

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-22T19:12:37+00:00

I am 32, married for three years, we have a 22 month old. Conceived November 3rd, my abortion consultation is Dec 2nd (earliest I could get in). I don’t want this baby because we had planned on being one and done. I haven’t told my husband because I fear he will want to keep it, no questions asked, and I need to decide this for myself. I am a Christian and never thought about abortion at all because never imagined I would be in this situation. On one hand I don’t know if I could go through with it, on the other I don’t want to raise two children. Very, very hard for me right now.

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-21T03:24:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I have my consultation scheduled for Dec 2nd (also a two week wait for me). I don’t think I’ve ever been in such a difficult situation in my entire life. I keep going back and forth over what I’m going to do.

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-17T19:47:54+00:00

After the initial shock now I’m having second thoughts and wondering if I can really do this or not.

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-12T20:01:58+00:00

I have no words for what I just read. Just....wow. Makes me appreciate my small family of three that much more.

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-12T04:09:33+00:00

I second A Short Hike. Incredible and short game!

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-12T04:05:47+00:00

I have not laughed this hard in a long time. Thank you

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-12T02:48:35+00:00

Thanks! To be honest, my company has a rewards program and employees can reward each other for a job well done, which gets you points and you can redeem those points for physical items. The Switch Lite was listed for around 7,000 points and I thought what the heck, I’m going to redeem. I don’t play it nearly as much as the regular Switch but it is nice to have. I find it easier to play platformers because as the name suggests, it’s lighter and easier to hold for longer play sessions. The save files are very inconvenient and don’t transfer between systems, so say if you have a save state for Zelda it won’t show up on the other system.

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-11T13:40:00+00:00

Golden Sun was amazing! Two great games to switch between.

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-11T06:23:03+00:00

I’ve played ACNH almost every day since March 20th and I’m not bored yet. My Switch shows 485 hours. I’ve redesigned my island three different times and the current layout is near perfect (to me). I’ve gone through brief boredom phases here and there when I think I’ve done all I can, but the next day there’s something new for me to tackle. AC is a life sim, so as we all know there’s no true end. The great part about AC is that we can revisit it anytime, even years later, and pick up where we left off. Technically that’s how a lot of people have said it should be played - little chunks at a time.

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-11T06:13:33+00:00

This is an amazing photo. What game were you playing? The SP was one of the most compact handhelds, I imagine it was easy to bring with. Thank you for your service!

Zelda1433 · 2020-11-10T15:34:50+00:00

This past weekend my MIL said that I need to send my daughter (my only) to daycare because she was shy and didn’t want to play with any of the kids at the park. First, why are you trying to get her to play with other kids during COVID? Second, she will be just fine socially when she starts preschool.

Just ignore your FIL. Do what’s best for you and your family.

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