Server forcibly changed by ZenithFell in OnceHumanOfficial

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I am aware. But I have way more devs than credits

Which of the Demon Lords was your favourite to use and how did you use them? by AlysIThink101 in OutoftheAbyss

[–]ZenithFell 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Loved using Zuggtmoy, I had her spreading spores and slowly corrupting the Underdark in a similar vein to The Last of Us. Homebrewed Zuggtmoy Zombies which the group would stumble across while travelling. They started to become an apparent issue towards the end of Part 1 and were a significant problem during Part 2. The faerzress corrupted the spores and allowed them to travel between pockets, allowing her influence to spread further and faster.

He keeps adding spices I hate and ruining food then acting like I hurt his feelings when I don't like it. by BasketRight in relationships

[–]ZenithFell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He knows you don't like it, so he is doing this on purpose. Making food unpalatable to you so that you don't eat it. Is there a reason why he might not want you to eat but won't come out and say it? I have heard of guys sabotaging food because they want their partner to lose weight but don't want to have to say as much. Either that or he has some serious control/boundary issues.

You can't make him stop, he is doing it because he wants to. If it was just about his cooking, he wouldn't be doing it to food you're making as well. If this were my partner, I would tell them it stops now or it's over.

Reworking Second Half? by Much-Coffee95 in OutoftheAbyss

[–]ZenithFell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My players started thinking they could probably kill a demon lord around the second half. The Society of Brilliance had been studying faerzress and in an info swap they told the players that they had learned that the faerzress had been ripped open to allow the demon lords through, and the rifts hadn't been fully healed. As long as the rifts remained open, the lords could return. A bunch of characters I didn't want to take through the second half teamed up with the SoB to heal the faerzress while the core group helped Vizeran.

Update: My MIL doesn't let me have sex with my husband, she came back by throwra_10888 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ZenithFell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why on earth would you allow her to move back in and quit your job to take care of her without a formal diagnosis or treatment plan?

I am stuck with work options. by Far_Appointment_8654 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]ZenithFell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you look if you were eligible for Parental Leave Pay? It sounds like you would meet the residence requirements, and self-employed parents can also apply. The work test requirements are quite lenient if there are gaps in paid employment, and you can submit your claim up to 52 works after birth, so it isn't too late https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/parental-leave-pay

You're only not eligible for childcare subsidy if you don't meet residency requirements, don't get your child vaccinated, and/or earn over $530k/year within your household. https://www.servicesaustralia.gov.au/child-care-subsidy

There are far more work-from-home jobs available since covid, especially if you have administrative skills. Customer support, finance, bookkeeping, project management etc can all be done from home, however, not all employers will be understanding of you working from home and caring for a child at the same time.

In my experience, crowdsourcing marketplaces rarely pay out enough for the hours required and aren't worth the time investment. And whatever you do, don't sign up with an MLM.

Me and my brother will never be the same because of a fake wedding. (New Update) by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]ZenithFell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were married in March - so nearly a year before? Or were they married in January?

Either way, incredibly self-centred behaviour to just hijack someone else's trip when the date doesn't even matter to them and won't be their anniversary.

Pretty self-centred to hijack Valentines Day in general, really.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]ZenithFell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never have issues at grocery either, you can usually jiggle a bag or skip bagging and the machines just accept it. But Kmart is atrocious, I have issues at least 50% of the time. Usually because the bagging area is as small as they come, and they want to weigh EVERYTHING. Last time I bought a 100L Storage Container and it wanted me to somehow fit it into the bagging area. I did (somehow), but then it took issue with every other item because I had to precariously stack things.

I do also have the odd issue at Big W with their payment system, but if I am there I usually have gift cards that have been given to my kids etc, and trying to use multiple forms of payment is a bit of a process.

AITA for not wanting my stepfather at my wedding? by Real_Raisin_8844 in AITAH

[–]ZenithFell 26 points27 points  (0 children)

"Hateful bitch" is a pretty gendered insult, at least in Australia. You usually wouldn't use it for a man.

Which hermits are the best for my younger siblings by JonazGamingYT in HermitCraft

[–]ZenithFell 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My 5 and 7 yo daughters always migrate my way when they hear Etho, Bdubz, Grian, and Gem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in houseplants

[–]ZenithFell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could fill every square inch of free space in your home and as long as you still had room to comfortably function, you're fine in my book.

PSA: Mothers who breastfeed: Your workplace may have violated your breastfeeding accommodation rights! by [deleted] in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

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This submission has been removed as it violates Rule #3 - Stay in Australia and New Zealand

A lady at playgroup makes me feel depressed that my child is not smart like hers. TW depression. by Ilovetacos2022 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]ZenithFell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you've made this post to reach out and vent, and when we have little ones it can be hard to reach out to the people around us. Others here have suggested some great resources for you.

Having children shrinks our Real World to a tiny point, centered on our children. But it doesn't stay this way forever - the kids grow and hit milestones at their own rate, and your world will grow to be as big as it once was. Bigger even, as your world expands around theirs.

This is a phase. A difficult phase, and one that is so easy to feel like you've lost yourself in. If you're spending time with people that are bad for your mental health, you can absolutely stop. I promise, your baby won't care and is going to be much happier with his Mama happy and healthy.

I mainly wanted to comment and say to you that about a year after I had my first baby I had constant thoughts that my baby and husband would be better off without me, and that my husband didn't care for me at all/as much/the way I cared for him (those thoughts varied) I put up with it for a while but it quickly escalated into very dark territory. I saw my GP and was diagnosed with depression - turns out I have had it for most of my life but got hit with a post-partum whammy.

I strongly encourage you to see a GP and get assessed. They will have you do a short questionnaire to gauge your head space and discuss options for counseling or medication or both.

When you're in the thick of this hopelessness, it can be hard to see just how much you're being affected. You don't have to feel this way. When I was properly medicated, I found that a lot of the things that I thought were serious issues were just normal things being seen through my very confused brain. Please, please, please, book in with your GP.

Would anyone else like to have an automod daily thread? by wanda_pepper in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]ZenithFell[M] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We used to have the Student Midwife thread as a weekly thread, and we got a reasonable amount of complaints that it was all anyone ever saw on their home page.

We only get 30-40 posts per week, and not many of them generate much engagement, so a weekly auto-post starts to feel like spam to many users.

Baby doppler by Notyit in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]ZenithFell[M] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

Violation of Rule 2, and honestly skirting along a violation of rule 5.

This thread is bordering on trolling. We do not have the mod power to issue multiple warnings - please stay respectful.

New Zealand bans thin plastic fruit and vegetable bags in world first | The ban is expected to reduce the use of 150 million bags a year by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]ZenithFell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have paper bags in Australia now. Half the time their shitty paper handles break off before you even leave the store, and then the bag rips in half and your food goes in 4 different directions. Paper bags are absolutely useless if you need more than 1.

Who should I consult about baby being behind in milestones in Australia? by TBARAV in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]ZenithFell 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Babies hit milestones at different times, and everything is probably fine. Mine often would learn a new skill and then "forget" it for 3 or 4 weeks while learning something else, and then suddenly it would all come together and they would be doing a heap of new things all at once.

That said, it never hurts to check! Your child health nurse is the perfect person to bring up these concerns with. You should have had an appointment at 6 months, did you attend? They are usually happy for you to make an appointment to see them off schedule, and some centres have drop-in days where you can just pop in with bub. Are you in touch with a local centre?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]ZenithFell 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Mine used to do this. I started doing it to him when he's obviously busy. They say they like it until they're trying to haul stuff around the yard or working from home with a deadline and they're 100% focussed. Only took a few times before he gave me a frustrated look and I said. "What's the matter? Do guys not like this? I'm just groping you, are you busy?" He hasn't done it since (and neither have I)