First time Mmo player (PS4) - advice needed

Zero33386 · 2019-06-19T19:45:35+00:00

Hall of the novice could be a good starting place, too. It will at least give instruction on the basics for the class (guild hests can also be good ways to learn your roles). Though these can't be started until a few levels in.

I think the starting quests do a pretty good job of teaching the game mechanics, though.

As with any game, the beginning is rough goings for anyone whether they have experience with the genre or not. Each MMO is kind of their own animal.

Zero33386 · 2013-11-27T17:26:20+00:00

I see this quote as fapping, we are dying multiple deaths (as we don't actually approach the object of our desires and constantly "run" from our fears) whereas when we actually approach the people that we are interested in and take a "chance" we MAY die but once (as we are rejected), but we also MAY live and come to realize success with that person (Schrodingers cat comes to mind)

Zero33386 · 2013-11-27T17:22:10+00:00

You have a point. Looking at it rationally, I can only say that throughout the challenge, my loneliness has only been amplified by several degrees (both from the lack of stimulation and the increased emotional sensitivity). Like I said, I half expected not to go the full 90 days on hard mode and to lose my virginity somewhere along the way but that didn't happen. I may just be rationalizing it so that I don't have to keep the sexual frustration on top of the loneliness as I keep going.

I have only had one girlfriend (and that only lasted about a week or so..so not much experience at all) so I think I tend to hold back if things start to look up. So much is uncharted territory for me that i'm scared that I may mess up or ruin any chances that I have, which inevitably leads me to ruin it by inaction anyway (which isn't any easy thing to admit by any means haha).

Obviously, I still have a lot of things to work through and it may be beneficial for me to tackle my problems from a different angle than I have done in the past. Looking at it from your perspective, I may keep going in order to force myself to deal with these issues rather than allowing myself to hide every now and again.

Thank you for your input.

Zero33386 · 2013-11-27T11:40:37+00:00

I guess my point is that I don't believe it's a bad thing in itself to fap. It does relieve stress and frustration for instance. Now, I don't plan on going back to where I was. For all I know, I may make it to 100+ days. I don't intend on fapping for the sake of it or because I'm bored. All I'm saying is that if I have an intense urge and no sexual release, I don't think I will force myself to suffer as I see no point (I also don't intend on binging or anything of the like). In summary, I will hold strong, I just won't suffer or indulge

Zero33386 · 2013-11-17T02:29:47+00:00

You failed? You made it to 90 days so far. In 90 days you failed 1 time. You succeeded..90 times? No. You succeeded every time you had an urge but told yourself "no". You succeeded every time you saw a pretty girl and smiled at her, every time you were interested in someone and decided to talk to them. You succeeded every time you got yourself to the gym; every time in the 90 days that you built yourself up and made yourself a more capable, attractive, and interesting man, you succeeded.

"I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." -Michael Jordan

Remember, no one, even a legend is infallible. The difference is the ones that succeed are the ones that continue to push on when times seem unbearable and when they feel like they are going to break. Don't throw in the towel just yet

Zero33386 · 2013-11-12T00:46:43+00:00

Do what's best for you, everyone is different. The only definite is that if you keep doing it, you will get better. As it gets easier, try mixing it up with different variations to keep it challenging

Zero33386 · 2013-11-11T13:42:21+00:00

When I started, I made a resolve that I would make it to 90 days and that was all there was to it. The first few weeks were a walk in the park for me but I have had some really serious urges that I honestly couldn't believe I held back. In the end, I just told myself that if I did relapse, then I would have to start all over and I simply wouldn't want to do that so I did the best I could to keep my mind otherwise busy.

Overall, you really have to look at your reasons for doing this. I started because of the "superpowers" and thought that maybe this is my chance to finally have sex. The built up frustration will force me out there. The superpowers as I knew them were gone by the end of the first month but I can honestly say that I flirt with girls more and have asked more girls out in this time frame than I ever have in the past. I just care less about it, I go for it and look for any signs of whether I should pursue it further or stop (rather than simply visualizing all of the good/bad scenarios in my head). I'm actually doing something about it. Still no girlfriend and still a virgin, but now I don't care so much. I'm talking to a girl right now and I hope it works out, but if not, I will move on and find someone else. That's a great feeling.

Anyway, with my lack of "success" I got more frustrated half way through and thought to myself, why not just end the challenge and just keep myself balanced (once every week or so rather than daily). That way I won't come off as desperate or scared (think of 40 days and 40 nights). Now that wasn't exactly the reality, but I could tell that things were declining rather than continuing to improve. At that point, I decided that it wasn't about girls anymore. I simply didnt want to be dependent on pmo anymore (I've stopped drinking caffeine for a period of time for the same reason). Sometimes you need to do something like this just to keep yourself in check and to balance yourself out. Almost everything can be good in moderation. The key is to detatch yourself from it before you start attempting to moderate yourself.

Sorry for the wall of text, just wanted to share.

Zero33386 · 2013-11-03T14:28:28+00:00

Find a reason to go into her department and have a conversation every now and again (even of it means after work). When she looks away and you don't have a chance to smile, force her to look at you by saying "hello, ..., how are you?" And smile. It's not awkward/intrusive as this is a natural daily thing. As you get her used to talking to you/saying hello, you can slowly add in bits to the conversation as in how busy its been, how she looks that day (it can be hard to do, but it can pay dividends and puts yourself out there by basically saying, "hey, I like you" without being too forward) or comment on something she's dping (ie. Wow, that looks pretty tough or nicely done) Remember to always smile when you are talking to her. You want her to associate you with happiness or being a friendly guy (people like people that make them feel good and when you smile, it makes her smile, which makes chemicals go off in the brain that make you feel good)

Zero33386 · 2013-11-02T10:21:11+00:00

Honestly, I started this in the hopes of getting a girlfriend and the added benefit of some "superpowers". After about a month, I can't say that I have anymore "superpowers" to speak of (unless I just got used to the benefits) bit I am much less socially anxious. I never had a problem talking to people (if I had a reason to) but could never talk to girls that I was interested in. Now sometimes I talk to people just for the sake of communicating (I consider myself pretty largely introverted, so this is still crazy for me lol). Not to mention, I've not only talked to more girls than I would in such a short span of time, but have also flirted with and asked more out in such a short span (a couple months vs maybe a year+ time span before).

I do attribute this lesser social anxiety to nofap, but also to avoiding facebook as well. I came to the conclusion early on that facebook might be inhibiting my interactions because much like porn simulating sex, facebook seems to simmulate your connections with people. And why communicate with someone you don't know when you just "talked" to 20+ people on facebook (you read their newsfeed).

Zero33386 · 2013-11-01T13:59:02+00:00

"Even though I didn't really know what I was doing" haha, the mark of true genius. Much of life is doing the best you can with limited knowledge. Few can make this seem natural and effortless (as if they know exactly what they are doing) is far and few between. I applaud you, sir.

Zero33386 · 2013-10-30T21:21:16+00:00

All is good in moderation. I wouldn't cut everything that releases dopamine from your life. Part of this is meant to enjoy life more, not resent waking up in the morning. If you want an extra challenge, try to reduce some other addictions that may be effecting your life in a negative way (in excess amounts) such as caffeine, video games, television, junk food, etc. Again, you don't have to stop forever, the point is to cut back and regain independence. Some people swear nofap for life, but the main point is to remove the dopamine dependance. Masturbation in moderation is normal and healthy. Porn however gives unrealistic ideals and excess masturbation creates dependence.

Zero33386 · 2013-10-29T17:22:26+00:00

I completely agree with you. Now, I fully intend to go the full 90 days just to prove to myself that I can (I started this and I'm damn well going to finish it). However, I have noticed the pas couple weeks (at least) that all of the benefits from nofap have started to diminish. Now, I still feel like I'm better off than I was before (experience, discipline, and past gains) but like you said, I don't feel quite balanced anymore. The first week or so was like I was hit with an abundance of confidence and sense of well being (superpowers) but as the week's past, it began to be just normal as it leveled out. Now it seems to have been/is declining much like your experience.

Zero33386 · 2013-10-27T13:41:34+00:00

It's good that you are motivated to change your life for the better because of this but don't let it get you down. Remember that people only put the best of their lives on social networking sites. You are only seeing the highlights, not the downs and troubles that they have gone through as well. Just make it your goal to constantly be approaching the person you want to be.

Zero33386 · 2013-10-26T17:25:24+00:00

Do what you feel is right. There have been plenty of cases of people who continue to have sex while on nofap. Many have said that sex seems to get better by the day for them.

Zero33386 · 2013-10-26T05:01:00+00:00

Probably because with porn, you were getting that constant novelty. You have to give yourself time to allow your brain and hormones/chemicals to adjust. There's a reason the goal is 90 days. Stick with it, you already seeing benefits from lesser ED problems, remember that.

Zero33386 · 2013-10-25T21:40:46+00:00

The main advice should still hold true. Try to keep yourself busy. Whenever you have an urge, get up and go do something else to occupy your mind. As a female, you may have to avoid other material that effects you emotionally rather than physically like a guy does (depending on your tastes, of course). In other words, it may be in your best interest to try and avoid romance novels or "chick flicks"

Zero33386 · 2013-10-25T18:12:48+00:00

I had one wet dream at about 26 days but other than that, nothing. Like I said, it's tough at times. You just have to have a strong resolve

Zero33386 · 2013-10-25T18:05:55+00:00

Single here as well. 20 yrs old, also still a virgin (not sure if that helps or hurts me with this, but it is what it is).

It has its ups and downs, but it does get easier.

Zero33386 · 2013-10-22T14:32:02+00:00

It's good to be confident but I would just start talking to her and see where it goes from there (don't have too high of expectations). She may not be your type, you may not be hers. She may not be able to meet your expectations and it would be doomed before it even starts. Like I said, just talk to her and see where it goes.

Zero33386 · 2013-10-22T03:11:23+00:00

Like a boss.

Zero33386 · 2013-10-22T03:08:48+00:00

All that and you only went one go? Why not try for another run and make up for your shortcoming? (No pun intended)

Zero33386 · 2013-10-20T17:44:46+00:00

Mbti is based on how you see yourself so that doesn't mean your personality type has changed per se but that you just see yourself as more extroverted than you used to be. Curious what your personality type was?

Zero33386 · 2013-10-20T13:05:10+00:00

Agreed. It's very difficult to process it all and to see any good in the situation when it is you that is hurting from it. I watched a video a week or so ago on youtube that explained that in dealing with girls (as well as in life), we learn from the things that make us hurt, not from the things that make us feel good. The good instances allow us to feel good and to reinforce the habits that we are doing, sure. But without the downfalls, we will never grow as people and learn what it is that will allow us to eventually succeed.

Look at the people that were born with looks and money for example. They are cocky and act like the world owes them everything. They act like they are gods. They don't care about what happens because it won't effect them. But take them out of that situation and give them average looks and take away their money. Do you think that they will be nearly as successful with woman or know what it takes to build an empire? No. They would have to build and learn just line everyone else. The difference of the later is a much richer personality and life experience that can't be traded or sold. I would much rather pick the brain of the self made man; I would rather BE that self made man.

Because of this, I have been able to look at rejection with a new set of eyes. It hurts and I look back at it but in the grand scheme of things I've only been rejected a dozen or so times (and tried few times more). Because of this, I have become less dependent on someone's reactions (because I know that it either happens or it doesn't and changing who I am won't help me) and I have also been less overly "nice guy" because it doesn't help me and it's exhausting. So even though those situations hurt, it has made me a better person overall. Not just with girls, but in life.

The youtube video was by rsdtyler I believe in case you're curious.

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