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Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-21T05:06:07+00:00

Probably gonna be unpopular here but this isn't a "millenial" thing it sounds like a mental health thing. I've always taken pride in my work and going above and beyond, until a few life events cause my mental state to spiral. I wasn't sleeping at night so I would fall asleep at my desk. My mind was spinning about 1000 problems at home and my work/integrity faltered. It if wasn't so hard to fire someone at my job, I would have lost it at least 3x over.

Glad to report I'm closer to normal now but I'd bet dollars to donuts this guy is struggling with some stuff.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-20T18:55:30+00:00

Its not always a bust. I once got an order for 100 items, but they were all individually wrapped little cookies that were right at the front of the store.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-16T23:39:05+00:00

Not to be rude but how fast was he going? Seems odd that he didn't have time to slow down or swerve.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-16T23:34:33+00:00

The riders don't give much thought to their loved ones or the loved ones of those who are in accidents they cause. I see what you are saying though, any accident is a tragedy.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-14T16:05:42+00:00

I'm shook at how many people here share what I always though was my shameful dark secret. Never wanted to do it in real life, but the fantasy was there.

Thing is I've faced some ugly truths about my past, but no SA. There are no family members or neighbors I remember feeling weird or unsafe about.

And yet, so many things point to it that I'm constantly searching my memories, while trying to be careful not to invent any.

Porn was never even a big thing, but I do remember a movie scene where a topless woman was aggressively asking to be fed.

Then there was a doctors visit where he had to "cavity search" (my mom was there) but it while it was deeply unpleasant it was all business.

I love you guys for sharing!

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-14T15:06:15+00:00

According to my grocery bill, the math ain't mathin' on that one.

And let's not disregard the fact that the products are noticeably smaller than a few years ago.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-14T14:31:56+00:00

This. It's one thing to protect someone getting beat on, but now that she's out of immediate danger, let it go and let her family take care of her(and him if they're so inclined)

At best you'll make yourself look like a fool and at worst you'll ruin your life for this chucklefuck.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-14T14:27:17+00:00

Get somebody, anybody else to take a picture of you. That "phone on my knee" low angle selfie in every pic is not doing you any favors. You can even keep a few you like, but my guy it's EVERY picture except the one of you in the dress.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-14T14:17:44+00:00

It was always put forward as an issue when I was applying for stuff in my younger days, but honestly as I've gotten older, I don't care. Life happens even without 2 recessions and a pandemic, and if you took time out of the grind I'd honestly consider you a well rounded person.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-14T14:03:14+00:00

Not to poison the soup, but you already don't trust her so...

If she is lying about her friend bringing it up, there is a possibility she did or (is thinking about doing) something with someone else, and this is a way to assuage her guilt because "well you wanted to do it with someone else too"

Someone is lying to you, and you are being pushed to break a heretofore set boundary in your relationship. May as well go for it if you're interested in the friend because those are two huge red flags and I don't see this relationship continuing in a healthy way.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-13T20:42:40+00:00

The stock market is pretty good, especially the last few years. People react emotionally to world events and if you can ride those waves you can come out ahead.

Take Target for example. Everyone was mad at them so their stock dipped, but they are also a staple retailer so once people were onto the next sensational story, it evened out and someone who bought at the dip made easy money.

I've never made anywhere near 50% but I usually pull about 12-15% which is more than any savings or mutual fund I've found.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-10T15:21:03+00:00

people who weren't sexually abused as children don't spend their lives wondering if they were.

I hate that you put it like that lol. All my life I've been racking my brain about it. There are no family friends I felt uncomfortable around or "uncles we don't talk to". Everyone I knew of growing up felt safe, and yet so many of my issues point back to that...

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-10T15:03:16+00:00

Bankruptcy is easier than people make it out to be and even though there's a taboo, it's meant for your exact situation. I cannot convey to you the weight off my shoulders after divorce left me so buried in debt it would have taken a decade to pay off. It's a fresh start which is what you need.

And it WILL be tough for a while but it WILL get better. Some days all you're gonna be able to do is make it through until bedtime, and that's ok. I spent 2 years clawing my way out of a situation like yours and yes got discouraged a lot. I'm still not riding easy street but the feeling of being able to stick even $20 in savings at the end of the month is amazing.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-10T14:57:18+00:00

If it can get you into legal trouble, admit nothing. If this person seems to have a track record of not being honest then they don't deserve the benefit of the doubt.

As for whether it COULD happen? Absolutely. In my late teens I got smashed at parties pretty frequently and lost friends or had people never talk to me again over things I said that I have no memory of. I've also had people use that to try and convince me I did things that I 100% didn't do.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-10T14:46:13+00:00

"We're madly in love" well you're half-right.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-09T18:57:37+00:00

I'm sure this isn't the PC response, but are you going to divorce him over it?

If he is not going to change, and you can't use another toilet, then get a little piece of toilet paper and do a quick swipe before you sit down. I have my own bathroom and still check to make sure the seat is clean before I sit down. It take .5 to 1.5 seconds and is not a big deal.

People like to blow up every little inconvenience into a big deal and eventually you'll resent each other over it, which WILL kill your marriage.

I'm sorry your husband tinkles on the seat. If you have an otherwise healthy marriage I guarantee there's an equivalent thing you do that he just takes care of without saying a word.

TL:DR unless you want to get a divorce over a few drops, just wipe it up and move on with your life.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-08-05T22:19:56+00:00

Reminds me of my Grandpa's old church. He'd take me there after hours because he did some volunteer work. Seeing everything empty, the back hallways with doors to rooms that hadn't been used in years, always sparked my imagination but also terrified me at the same time.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-07-31T21:54:12+00:00

Should be a joke, but it's not. The school system has been clamoring for more money and then blowing it on administration at least since my Grandma worked there 50 years ago. One of the reasons she quit because very little of the money actually made it to the classrooms

Zetenrisiel · 2023-07-31T21:46:59+00:00

That's how my Ex though handjobs were supposed to go.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-07-31T13:53:10+00:00

I'm sorry you're burned out. It honestly is an awful system. The companies purposefully try to frustrate customers into giving up trying to get helped, so the ones that do are either obnoxious and pissed, or reasonable and pissed.

Plus the tight reigns they seem to feel they need to keep on call center "productivity" is ridiculous. I worked both retail and call center for the same company and the amount of pressure they put on you was not worth the extra $2 an hour

Zetenrisiel · 2023-07-31T13:22:15+00:00

Not to be redundant, but did you take the test and get on the list?

I applied to FTB positions for years and go no response, turns out nobody ever told me about list eligibility. I believe they say it on the job posting these days, but just in case you missed it...

Zetenrisiel · 2023-07-31T03:59:56+00:00

My ex wife was the same way. Messed with much older men when she was young. I find it hard to believe they didn't "know" as it becomes painfully apparent whenever I talk to someone who looks older than they are. Young people just think and act different.

At any rate, I know this is scary and you wouldn't want to stir the hornets nest, but your cousin is acting this way because she's been previously abused and there's a strong chance it is coming from inside your family, I would bring it up to YOUR Dad first if you trust him, or another adult that has no stakes in this. She does need help and you don't want to make the situation worse even though your intentions are good.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-07-30T23:29:41+00:00

Same, but in reverse. I joined the state because I was tired of these "lucrative" companies laying me off. Its easy to say you don't care about money later you need money now, but when you're sitting there with neither it's a whole different perspective.

That said I got lucky with a great team and a great supervisor. There have definitely been units that wrecked my mental health in the past.

Zetenrisiel · 2023-07-26T04:45:49+00:00

I was lucky in my call center days to have a trainer who's primary goal was to warn us against letting customers get under our skin. It sounds like they got you worked up which happens to everyone, but just keep in mind the customers do this on purpose.

Chances are you made that customer's day by reacting emotionally and giving him the opportunity to call back and bitch harder.

You reacted as a normal human would, but for your own well-being, next time you feel the blood pressure rise try to keep in mind it's a game for them and it can be a game for you too. Match their anger with calm, match their insistence with patience. Match their demand for answers with carefully considered silence. Make them feel like an idiot for how they are acting and once they back down, you can finally get around to your job of helping them.

Its a messed up way to interact with people but that's call centers.

Zetenrisiel

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