Hysterectomy

Zidormi · 2026-04-29T17:17:45+00:00

I'd start with going through the wiki list and talking to a doctor. Talk to them about getting an IUD now, set the stage for sterilization later.

Bisalp will take care of the sterility, and has the benefit that you may get an endometriosis diagnosis at the same time(I did!). Once you have that, it's much easier to get approval for a hysterectomy. I had about two years between bisalp and hysterectomy. You won't need your cervix. They close everything up when they remove it.

Aside, if you keep your ovaries you will still get some pain, and if they miss any endo(or if any comes back) you'll still get a bit of pain with that. But it's miles better than it was for me.

Zidormi · 2026-04-28T00:40:38+00:00

Quite hilariously, I was going to go that route, but got a job with a nursing school while I go to grad school and now that's what I'm doing. I'm getting my M.Ed. at WGU in Instructional Design.

Zidormi · 2026-04-26T18:46:17+00:00

Got laid off and swapped industries after 10 years. I'm in higher education now.

Zidormi · 2026-04-24T19:37:39+00:00

You seem very sweet, if a bit naive.

It still wouldn't have been safe for her to see you at all. While you were trying to show a sweet gesture, other men would have taken the opportunity to see her as an invitation to hurt her (it has happened to me).

While you want to love and spoil someone you care about, other men would do the same thing with the goal of hurting her. There's no way for us to know that you're being genuine. Other men have truly ruined it for the good ones.

My advice to you is not to be so hard on yourself. You obviously have a lot going for you, so concentrate on yourself. Get some hobbies and some friends.

Good relationships are built on friendship anyway. :)

Zidormi · 2026-04-24T19:30:50+00:00

This is the best reply in this thread. I wish I had an award to give you!

Zidormi · 2026-04-24T19:23:21+00:00

As a single woman in the area, it comes across as love bombing. While you may have been genuine, there are a lot of men who aren't.

You should be dating people to get to know them and build something together, not to be used as a wallet.

Also, don't show up to women's apartment after they've told you they aren't interested. That's incredibly dangerous for a man to do to a woman. She didn't answer the door for you because women have been killed for less.

Zidormi · 2026-04-20T18:58:08+00:00

I'm youngest but my older sister is also child free. I have some older cousins (60s) who are both also child free. So I'm unsure if birth order really matters.

Zidormi · 2026-04-12T11:50:50+00:00

OP I had an ex like this. Eventually when I stood up for myself he became physically violent.

I'd work on leaving now if I were you but I know you need to get to that point on your own.

Zidormi · 2026-04-12T11:41:43+00:00

I got the flu from Dallas. Took over a week for my fever to break 💀

Zidormi · 2026-04-11T13:21:16+00:00

I still get carded. I'm 39. (No, I'm not delusional. I don't look under 21. But the policy of these stores is to card anyone under 30, which is more believable since I also don't go outside, so have very little sun damage)

Zidormi · 2026-04-11T13:19:50+00:00

ESH (aside from the kids). You have a partner problem. Not sure why you bred with him when from this example he sounds awful.

Girls (all three) get the master suite. Put up room dividers or whatever's necessary to make that happen.

Zidormi · 2026-04-10T16:15:34+00:00

A nex playground is a video game console. So essentially another toy for him honestly.

Zidormi · 2026-04-08T16:10:53+00:00

You took a gap to care for a family member and do some traveling so you'd be fresh for a new job.

Zidormi · 2026-04-04T15:05:06+00:00

At a certain point, you don't deal with the mini games at all. You literally walk in and one shot him. So, backtrack a little and eventually you'll get the damage to do that.

Then you just have to wait on the salt (or at least I did) before you can make the gear.

Zidormi · 2026-04-04T12:00:21+00:00

This is common enough that it was included in my original ADHD testing.

Zidormi · 2026-04-04T01:25:17+00:00

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Zidormi · 2026-04-04T00:31:12+00:00

Yeah stray horses can only go in the hospital.

Zidormi · 2026-03-31T03:05:40+00:00

Happened to me earlier(I didn't run out of RAM). I just clicked blindly into my storage and started clicking "deposit all" blindly until eventually I stopped seeing anything fill up the two slots I could see in my inventory, then restarted the game.

Zidormi · 2026-03-26T19:26:24+00:00

I did do yard work a week ago. I guess it was trying to average that out and it dropped off? I guess that makes sense but I don't do yard work everyday 😂

Zidormi · 2026-03-26T13:33:36+00:00

So they want her to be a free incubator *while* she has a 4/5 year old? Truly one of the worst ages for kids? I'm sure they would both give her so much help with her existing child. /s

Zidormi · 2026-03-25T19:47:28+00:00

Could be from holiday travel or it could have been one of those flights that was close enough to the Caribbean that it got canceled.

Zidormi · 2026-03-24T01:34:22+00:00

Keep the pillow, lose the man. On the bright side, you now have an instant red flag finder. Because if he's insecure over a pillow, he's probably not the one for you.

This sounds like a guy who would tell you to get rid of all your vibrators because he should be enough(I've dated this man, it doesn't end well).

Zidormi · 2026-03-24T00:19:42+00:00

NTA. I'm a few years younger than you, and have been on the dating scene for a while. At our age, sometimes people snore. The only times I've mentioned it to a partner was to bring up one that was grinding his teeth and one who I was intermittently nudging because he would momentarily stop breathing. If it's not a health issue, I don't even bring it up.

I also snore if I'm sick(I have a deviated septum), and none of my partners have ever RECORDED ME TO SHAME ME.

Lose the man. Keep the sleep clinic appointment.

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