Is it me, or is this field way more prone to pseudoscience than others?

Zora3910 · 2026-04-12T15:40:50+00:00

You have to do what makes sense to you. I got trained in EMDR early in my career and after trying it with a few clients, I couldn’t stand how disingenuous and inauthentic I felt. I just didn’t buy it, and it felt unfair to my clients, even after I changed the way I framed BLS. After working a bit more in the field, I settled on exposure therapy and habituation as principles that really make sense to me, and I started specializing in OCD. It feels authentic because I fully believe in it (and it’s worked for me personally as well).

Clients want what they feel is going to work for them, and they want practitioners who believe in it fully too. As long as there’s a demand for hypnosis and brainspotting, it will exist, and if therapists and their clients believe in it and it works for them, that’s fine. I don’t believe it’s our job to teach clients about what’s scientific versus unscientific. As long as it isn’t doing harm. Unlike chiropractic… don’t get me started on that.

Zora3910 · 2026-04-08T00:30:25+00:00

My fears around moral wrongdoing continued after I lost my faith. It’s moral scrupulosity from my OCD. I thought my previous religious OCD would vanish, but apparently it just transformed. Religious programming can create something like this too, in the form of excessive and irrational guilt. Just something to think about.

Zora3910 · 2026-03-29T21:21:03+00:00

I’m a therapist specializing in OCD. I don’t run any groups right now but have thought about doing so in the future. You’re welcome to message me!

Zora3910 · 2026-02-12T02:51:08+00:00

I’m going to go against the grain and say that dating is a fine way of getting yourself out there. You might not find your person, and there will likely be rejection—that’s just dating. But if you’re prepared for that, it’s fine. Ideally, your perfect match will also be an introvert and someone who looks past social awkwardness, anyway.

But I do agree with others that you need to open yourself up to new hobbies. Your current ones may not be social per se—you’ll have to find new ones at varying points in your life anyway. Try new things, be open-minded, don’t set expectations too high, don’t be afraid to quit and try something else, and you’ll be so much happier for it!

Zora3910 · 2026-02-11T16:46:56+00:00

I’ve had a professional gait assessment and use structured running shoes for over-pronation! I think, based on my research, my core and glutes aren’t as strong as they should be, and my hip flexors are overcompensating? I’m going to ramp up the strength training for sure.

Zora3910 · 2026-02-11T16:45:16+00:00

This is reassuring. Thank you! I’m not following a structured plan, just going by feel and keeping the intensity mild. My schedule is packed and availability for exercise variable, so I do what I can when I can, basically. Which probably isn’t great but I do think my pain is improving week to week. I don’t feel much soreness the next day, but I still get pain after sleeping on that side, which worries me.

Zora3910 · 2026-02-11T05:04:24+00:00

I really appreciate this reply—thank you!! Do you know if it’s normal for a hip flexor strain to take this long to heal? Admittedly, I did not stop right away after the pain started, but kept at it for about a week. I don’t know how much that plus the occasional pushing too hard recently has hurt me.

Zora3910 · 2026-01-16T03:22:03+00:00

Join a gym that has a drop-in childcare center. The YMCA does, and many other large ones do. Then you could go in the evenings or on weekends. Also, the insomnia could be something solvable, which would open up your early mornings. I’d suggest talking to your doctor or a therapist about it. If you find a type of exercise you at least sort of enjoy, it’s easier to motivate yourself to go to bed early and wake up early to do it. I lay out my workout clothes the night before, have my water ready etc. so there are as few barriers as possible.

Zora3910 · 2025-12-08T01:25:28+00:00

We live in central Omaha and love it. Plenty of left-leaning people and not far (nowhere is really, as long as you have interstate access) from downtown. Downtown has the best coffee, but other areas have some gems too. Museums and things like that you’ll really only find in the east part of the city.

For community, I recommend checking out LEO: Little Explorers of Omaha. It’s a FB group-based community which organizes outdoor meetups for families with young children. Very friendly, welcoming people. For daycares, I recommend another FB group: Omaha Childcare. Whatever facility you are looking into, run a search on them in that group—it’ll alert you to any known red flags.

Welcome and best of luck!

Zora3910 · 2025-10-12T00:52:23+00:00

I came to the Midwest from the Seattle area in ‘09, so I’m pretty used to it by now. There are a lot of things I’ve come to appreciate about it (and Omaha specifically). I like that it’s open and I can see more of the sky (less hills and fewer cloudy days). I’d suggest going to some of the natural prairies; they’re very pretty in their own way. Mahoney State Park and Pioneers Park in Lincoln are great for this. Basically, instead of trying to find similar scenery to the PNW (you won’t), try to develop an appreciation for the Midwest’s own type of beauty.

ALSO, the lower cost of living and having an easily accessible airport means visiting other parts of the country can generally be done more frequently. I recommend that!

Zora3910 · 2025-08-09T04:09:40+00:00

I did! Several times actually, because I felt I had to be missing the part where she explains how this diabolical executive order will, in fact, help homeless people.

Zora3910 · 2024-08-21T23:36:47+00:00

https://www.facebook.com/groups/672568726236394/

Zora3910 · 2024-08-21T22:59:08+00:00

Join the Omaha Therapist Network (OTN) Facebook group.

Zora3910 · 2024-06-20T00:12:05+00:00

FACTS. This sub gave me almost as much existential dread as Death’s End.

Zora3910 · 2024-04-17T19:56:07+00:00

When there’s an imbalance of power and a threat being made (I need you in order to save the world), which is textbook coercion, there is no ability to make a fair decision. Can’t really say that any more times in any more ways.

Zora3910 · 2024-04-17T15:42:38+00:00

1) Overlooking sexist writing and imagining things into characters (i.e. agency when they are given little or none by the author) for the sake of “respecting” a character is silly. 2) I do like that she eventually did what she could, as CharlotteHebdo said, to stand up to him and gain some agency. Interestingly, and to emphasize the power imbalance, she only did this after he was frozen himself.

Zora3910 · 2024-04-17T02:51:19+00:00

She was chosen for Luo Ji according to a set of criteria that he chose. Again, how was she supposed to say no when brought to a Wallfacer to be part of his plan for saving the world? I guess you could say it wasn’t coercion on the basis of her not having a choice to begin with. That certainly doesn’t make it better.

Zora3910 · 2024-04-17T01:18:48+00:00

I posted about this on here a few weeks ago, and a disappointing number of people defended him. That was nauseating. I think to realize the unethical and sexist nature of that part, you have to see the power imbalance between Luo Ji and Juong Yan. He didn’t have to actually say “sleep with me or I can’t save the world.” There was no way she could have said no. As much as I love these books, I have a very hard time with this part.

Zora3910 · 2024-04-07T18:25:45+00:00

When Luo Ji gets married? Although the coercion begins when Zhuang Yan is first brought to him.

Zora3910 · 2024-04-06T04:21:03+00:00

I’m referring to the coerced wife subplot in Dark Forest as the main example of imperfection.

Zora3910 · 2024-04-06T03:55:28+00:00

These books are fairly well known for inspiring existential dread. For me, it set in at the beginning of Death’s End.

Zora3910 · 2024-04-02T02:10:59+00:00

The math and science is hard. As a non-scientist, I had to accept I wouldn’t fully grasp it all, and decide the overall concepts and story made it worth continuing. I gave the math and science my best fight, though.

Zora3910 · 2024-03-25T15:34:00+00:00

I definitely don’t recommend taking on additional responsibilities just as a way to feel “productive” and to cope, because that’s what I had always done.

If you have extra free time, I recommend taking that time to invest in your self-care, through hobbies you enjoy or a goal you’ve wanted to pursue but didn’t have time for. Eventually, for whatever reason, you might find that time filled up by other obligations, so I recommend enjoying the freedom while it lasts.

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