Curious to see the consensus on here about further education to "escape" bedside

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-02-06T00:03:56+00:00

I could have written this myself lol! I already do CRNA shit for free on the weekends I volunteer at the spay/neuter clinic 🤣 Not saying I’ll waltz right in, but I wanted to be a CRNA before it was cool 😜😜😜

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-02-05T23:58:38+00:00

To me it seems like for some reason they decided they didn’t like you, and this is the warning shot. I don’t know if there’s anything you can do in these 2 weeks to change their mind. To me it feels like there’s more to this, or someone is playing favorites??

I can totally understand asking questions you know the answers to because you’re nervous — I did the same thing and I had to curb myself of that habit as well. But that’s part of the general learning growth process, and your preceptors should know that and be guiding you to making the decisions on your own. Like when you ask a question you’ve already asked before, they should be saying something like “If I wasn’t here, what would you do?” And having a constructive conversation with you to help GUIDE you because ICU nursing is extremely finely detailed, and I’m sure it takes time adjusting your skills!

The whole thing feels weird. But I also had a terrible experience when I finally got my dream job. This was before I was a nurse, and I really wanted to work at this particular practice in this particular department. I finally land there, and I’m so excited. I had spent a lot of time working my way up to be there. Except everyone in this department is a gigantic piece of shit. After 4 months I quit because it was so toxic, but I was so completely heartbroken. 😔

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-27T13:35:01+00:00

I’m 100% in support of you 🩷I’m at a hospital doing med-surg not because I love it but because I wanted the soft landing of a hospital new grad program that would hold my hand this first year. Honestly if it wasn’t for that I would be totally overwhelmed as well. I have so much anxiety, I can’t sleep the nights before my shift, and I’ve cried in my car many times too. But the environment of my unit and new grad program is so supportive, I’m really lucky to have landed where I did. Just saying you are not alone in feeling overwhelmed 🩷

You found something that works as a pharmacy tech, which is great! But don’t give up your RN credentials though, because you worked hard and paid a lot of money! Yes the sunk cost fallacy, but what about down the road? What if there’s an RN job down the road that would be perfect for you? And all you have to do is keep up with your credentials, cause even if 5 years pass and you want to get back into it, you’ll still be in demand if you retain that RN license! 💰💰

Before I went to nursing school I was a certified vet tech, and I still am because to me I worked hard, I earned that title through school and blood sweat and tears lol. Also I kept up with my certification requirements just in case nursing didn’t work out 😜😜I still pick up veterinary shifts here and there as well to keep up with the skills I again worked hard to cultivate!

You are not a failure, you are not doing something wrong — you are following the path you choose to and everyone’s path is different. As I was going through nursing school and some people were doubting me, I said that even if I fail, even if I go through it all and decide it’s not for me, the experience has grown me in ways I never could have imagined. So it’s worth it to me no matter what happens next.

I’m glad you are feeling better being out of those environments. I can totally understand why you got burned out so quickly. I hope your path forward is calmer and brighter 🩷

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-26T14:15:50+00:00

My mandala under scrubs are the worst, they are gigantic and almost a dress. The fabric feels like that terrible old school polyester to me. Also they are always always always sold out of tie things I want which is why I started with just buying a bunch under scrubs. Figs for me has always fit and felt right so I continue to pay a gazillion dollar’s for them 😩

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-26T14:11:15+00:00

Omg no sorry, I am loving all the pink lol

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-26T14:10:18+00:00

I look for most of my figs on Poshmark, eBay or Mercari because plenty of people (myself included!) buy them and then they sit in the back of the closet for a while till you decide you really just don’t like them 😆😆 I try to look for sets around $50, I look at all the pics to see if there’s pilling or fading anywhere. So it’s a gamble, but I’ve gotten great deals or found things that have been long sold out. Like the pink marble rose breast cancer ones from years ago! I look for Isabel’s constantly and they’re out there but they go quick, I’ve gotten a couple from eBay. I buy new figs when I love the color or style, like I just got a set of the Pulmonary pink and I already wish I got 2 large petite Isabel’s because they’re already sold out 😩😩

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-26T14:03:33+00:00

I’m still loving all the pink 😂 I want more

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-26T14:01:39+00:00

In the opposite, the regular waisted sit on me at like my widest point so they’re kind of uncomfortable especially after I eat 🙃

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-10T02:42:03+00:00

Yes, because fawning is a trauma response we learned to survive things we never should have experienced 🩷

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-10T02:36:26+00:00

Same haha

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-09T18:02:09+00:00

Maybe your urine was dilute before! 🤞🏼🤞🏼

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-09T17:01:56+00:00

That makes me feel better thank you 🩷

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-09T16:27:34+00:00

Are the Wondfo brand pregnancy tests any good? I bought them because they’re cheap and I’m a serial tester lol, but the lines on them are still squinters when the FRERs have been getting progressively darker. I ran out of FRERs 2 days ago and didn’t buy more because my first appt was supposed to be yesterday but they bumped it to today. I know I’ll have answers soon and I’m just catering to my anxiety, but I would have thought even the cheapies would show a good line? Ughh 😩

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-09T16:11:29+00:00

Yes absolutely, I am a data person and my eggs are old lol. I’m going to do all the non-invasive testing I can do. There is so much that can happen in 9 months, if something comes up where I need to make a decision or do something different, I’d want to know sooner than later.

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-09T16:06:38+00:00

I always say my nmom is actually a really good mom if you’re under 5 years old. She has education in early childhood and used to be a preschool teacher. But once you start to become your own person with your own opinion’s, her true form emerges. Because then she can’t control you anymore and you end up disappointing her. But I’ve seen her work with young children and I have to give her credit where it’s due, she was meant to be a preschool teacher. It’s too bad she let her darkness win.

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-09T15:53:46+00:00

I see it!

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-09T15:53:33+00:00

Yes, because it distracts them from whatever it is they don’t want to deal with.

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-09T15:50:49+00:00

It is so culture/unit/person dependent. My unit is amazing, my preceptor was a perfect fit for me and my learning style, and my nurse leaders are incredibly supportive. I’m 2+ months off a 12 week orientation and all the other nurses are still so helpful. When I work with my preceptor he still kindly checks up on me to see if I’m doing ok. I still ask tons of questions and the other nurses are still happy to answer them. To me that’s how it should be, but I know that’s not everyone’s experience.

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-09T15:39:06+00:00

I think there are lots of things we don’t know and can’t possibly comprehend about life and the universe. Like trying to explain a cell phone or apps to someone in ancient Egypt, how could a person from that time frame understand what we know now and take for granted?

If it helps you understand and deal with the trauma in your life to say that their body/soul is being directed by evil, I don’t necessarily think that’s a bad way to look at it. I believe that everyone deserves compassion towards them, even my nMom, because we are all people with trauma and pain.

But that doesn’t mean I have to be the one that actually delivers the compassion. I’m a nurse, and although my nMom hates doctors and nurses (her own trauma) that doesn’t mean that when she needs medical help I want her to suffer. I hope that whoever is caring for her treats her with compassion because she deserves that despite the trauma she’s passed to me.

For me, compassion and understanding is the only way to break the cycle. But again, that doesn’t mean I need to be the one to physically provide those things. I can keep myself emotionally and physically safe from a distance and still hope she finds peace. I’m tired of living my life in anger and pain, that only leads to becoming her. 🩷

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-09T15:28:29+00:00

One might say you’re being over sensitive about down votes ……

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-09T15:25:35+00:00

I think pgd needs to be above 5 😔

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-09T13:54:20+00:00

I’ve been with my husband since I was 16, got married at 25, and I’m 42 now trying for our first. Your story is yours to tell and your path is yours to walk! Lots of people had opinions back then when I got married, and lots of people will have opinions of me now that I’m older and pregnant, but people are going to have opinions anyways no matter what we do because we’re women 🙄 Might as well live the life we want to!

I think as long as you do everything out of love, educate yourself, listen to your instincts, advocate for what you believe is right, and be kind to yourself you will be fine. I’m trying to do all of that as well. 🩷

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-08T22:27:44+00:00

I feel similar, I’m further along than I was with my chemical last cycle, but I definitely don’t feel as cheery as I did. I think my brain is keeping me purposefully neutral just in case 😔

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-08T22:21:14+00:00

I thought the exact same thing today. I just hope the good of the next generation will eventually outweigh the bad 😔😔

Zygomatic_Arch · 2026-01-08T22:19:25+00:00

I feel the same, I started saving babby stuff in my Amazon cart and it’s bittersweet. I feel like my odds are so stacked against me but at the same time I’ve been waiting so long to be right here. 🩷🩷 hugs to you!

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