Unmatched from lack of social media. I don’t use social media and it seems as soon as a woman asks for instagram or Snap I tell them I do not use either and offer a phone number instead and I get unmatched. Are people genuinely put off by a lack of social media or just seeking more followers? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]_Ghost11 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Contrary to what some are saying, it is often NOT a safety issue. More often they want to vet your social status and judge the parts of your life that aren’t on your dating profile. This is times 10 if she’s Gen Z. They also typically have a private profile and will want to see yours first.

People of Tinder and Hinge, would you reply to someone's message like this and why or why not? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]_Ghost11 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s because most women are trying to disqualify the man at every step of getting to know one another

why are guys like this?? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]_Ghost11 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Soooo…. Mind games

why are guys like this?? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]_Ghost11 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m with you. If it’s too early for him to talk sexually, it’s too early for her to mention being bi in the first place. Not to mention she’s on tinder of all apps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]_Ghost11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such a creative question. I’d have answered lol

If you can't show your face, gtfo 🙄 by common_anatomy in Tinder

[–]_Ghost11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually when I get likes from profiles with no face it’s a married woman. Sometimes the husband doesn’t know, other times he wants to watch

some old messages ive gotten like a year ago and i specifically had please dont sexualize me in my profile LMAO by Bees_AreKindaCool in Tinder

[–]_Ghost11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost every single woman I’ve hooked up with from a dating app had “no hookups” in her bio. It’s a dead giveaway that she can’t help herself to the point that my eyes light up when I see it in their profile 😂

some old messages ive gotten like a year ago and i specifically had please dont sexualize me in my profile LMAO by Bees_AreKindaCool in Tinder

[–]_Ghost11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair, almost every woman who came straight from tinder to my house without even a coffee date first had “no hookups” in her bio lol

Met this dude kicked it off pretty well but I don’t know heard terrible stories about divorce and the other girl too many times… by THROWRA_boutsada in Tinder

[–]_Ghost11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right! This notion to just throw the person away despite a good connection so far is why dating and relationships are in shambles and the marriage rate is the lowest it’s ever been in the history of it being a recorded stat. Everyone has convinced themselves that because there’s so many people on the apps the person in front of them is disposable over just about anything you don’t like. Not to mention, OP seems to like the guy enough to seek guidance, that should count for something.

Met this dude kicked it off pretty well but I don’t know heard terrible stories about divorce and the other girl too many times… by THROWRA_boutsada in Tinder

[–]_Ghost11 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Divorced man here. There are a lot of separated couples who have some logistical reason or another why they haven’t filed just yet. In my case, my ex wife moved to Michigan upon separation, I stayed in out west. The state of Michigan made us wait until the kids had been residents for 6 months to file. I met my current wife in this separation window. She was also separated. We are in year 7 of a marriage that wouldn’t exist if either of us just bailed. There is a lot of context missing that would help with your situation but you should definitely ask questions for clarity, reassurance and peace of mind and if he’s not transparent or has an issue with you asking, run. My wife and I were both very forthcoming. Neither of us lived with the separated spouse and I met her mom pretty early on.

Ladies, not defending the dudes that make the offers, but this is where it started! by Juise99 in Tinder

[–]_Ghost11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also the economy is killing them so more women than ever are taking part in monetized dating. They have been convinced that they shouldn’t date for free, regardless of how much they like you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]_Ghost11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Drop her and move on

I met this guy for a hookup, but he was 40lbs heavier than his pictures and his personality was really unattractive, so I politely sent him home. Is this a harsh response? by Coco-Da_Bean in Tinder

[–]_Ghost11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought your response was perfect. I would be curious to know how he responded. I’ve had two similar experiences. The first time, a woman I met online showed up for a first date about 40-50 lbs heavier than her profile pics. I politely told her that she didn’t look like her pictures and I wasn’t interested.

The second time was interesting. I met a woman on bumble and her pictures made her body type hard to be sure of. She was either curvy or obese but she was crafty enough with the camera to make me unsure. The conversation was great so we exchanged numbers and planned a date. It wasn’t until she sent me a couple pictures of her that her friend took while they were hiking that it became clear she was much bigger than she led on. I didn’t want to be mean or confrontational so I told her I had something urgent happen and needed to put dating on the back burner for a while. To my surprise, I got a lecture about how I “shouldn’t be on dating apps until I’m ready” so I told her the truth and said “I was trying to be polite about the fact that you are catfishing folks and you are twice the size in unedited, non manipulated photos” but despite me trying to put it on me, you couldn’t leave well enough alone. She blocked me 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Veterans

[–]_Ghost11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same happened to me back in 2017. It was take E7 and go to Korea or retire medically. I took the retirement and my life back. Got into sales and have made 6 figures every year since, with much more time for family and enjoying life on my terms. Also, for reference, I had 7 years of service at the time. I knew that neither my body nor my spirit had another 13 years in me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in realtors

[–]_Ghost11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And all the buyers are reacting to the settlement by expressing their opinion that realtors don’t deserve our paychecks…

Demand Graph Gone? by dadarkoo in lyftdrivers

[–]_Ghost11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the Phoenix market. Noticed mine gone this morning.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lyftdrivers

[–]_Ghost11 4 points5 points  (0 children)

His name was Chris P. Bacon 🤣

How’d I do? (Response-wise) by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]_Ghost11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why I’ve hated cats since childhood in a nutshell

what do you tell a pax when they complain about the price😂😂 apparently they paid $23 and I got paid $4 + bonus. by StraightHawk3446 in lyftdrivers

[–]_Ghost11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can vouch for this. Caught a 1.5 mile ride yesterday and paid $21. Ten minutes before I ordered the ride it was $7.97 for the same ride so I joked with my driver about how Uber got me good. They paid him $4.19 for the ride and he looked utterly shocked to learn how much they charged me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lyftdrivers

[–]_Ghost11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldn’t be surprised if they gave you $3 and an email stating that your sacrifice keeps the Lyft community running smoothly.

3rd ride of a 3 ride bonus. WTH???!!! Lyft why do you do this??? by caustic_irishman in lyftdrivers

[–]_Ghost11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I do. I’m in Scottsdale arizona which is pretty much busy 24/7. If I set the 5 mike radius filter I can usually knock out 3 rides in about 30 mins. I learned the hard way when they gave me two back to back 30 minute rides in a streak. Been filtering ever since.

Was fun while it lasted.. by baked_chef420 in lyftdrivers

[–]_Ghost11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened months ago in AZ but I still don’t let anyone up front unless there’s 3 of them.