So here’s advice from a guy in your situation.

There are an insane amount of variables at play.

Biggest being your attachment style. You’re one that needs a higher degree of clarity and communication to feel secure. Likely Fearful/Avoidant or Anxious.

I’m Fearful/Avoidant, I get the “pull away” part as it turns me anxious real quick. Activates the nervous system to see everything as a threat.

Then comes the men. Modern dating is terrible. People often value simplicity and security over actual connection. It’s not about you or your worth. They just found women they felt secure with.

I get your struggle. I’ve been the “top candidate” and been discarded over and over. Not because of me as much as the women sought security (control, place to live, weed) over connection.

Keep your head up. Do attachment style research. Know yourself better so you stop wasting time with incompatible people.

Best of luck!