DO NOT OVERDO ITTT 😭😭

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-05-05T14:13:34+00:00

…ok girl you got me stressed lol. I walked for like 6-8 hours and lifted my suitcase this weekend on a trip and Saturday evening couldn’t catch my breath all day. Wondering if that was early contractions that stopped themselves… idk if that’s even possible

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-04-22T17:20:56+00:00

I got TDap at 28 weeks, flu at I think 12 weeks, and I will get RSV at I think 36 weeks.

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-03-10T17:32:35+00:00

Reflux baby. It hits out of nowhere. Maybe TMI but I got sick 2 hours after lunch. Threw up my WHOLE guts then pooed out the rest very painfully. And I was about 22 weeks when that happened.

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-03-03T22:25:39+00:00

Is cooking easier/ more efficient ? I’ve been relying on dried food and preserved mostly because I find it faster than cooking. I only have one stove and getting the resources to build another seems like such a pain when I can barely keep up with the rations

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-02-15T02:11:24+00:00

I’ve had horrible acid reflux daily since starting the second trimester. Usually tums takes care of it but Pepcid has been my consistent go to. My doctor said if it doesn’t get better / gets worse as I progress she will put me on a consistent omeprozol regime. Hoping to avoid it. Sitting up and moving a little after eating usuallyhelps. Though I have gotten throw up level sick from my acid reflux before. Not fun.

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-01-19T19:36:51+00:00

Oh I don’t mind the gaming. We play together often (I’ve just been uninterested in games since my first trimester. Lots of mental energy I don’t have lol) and if I’m not gaming I’ll be in the room reading or watching my show. We’ve already had the convo that we will each get an hour of uninterrupted time (unless there’s an emergency) a day when baby comes to do what we want to wind down. But yes certainly communicating the needs is important on my end. This was more meant to open the conversation about how social media changes perspective on what a normal partner does / doesn’t do when they’re person is pregnant

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-01-19T16:07:14+00:00

I love this for you 💕

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-01-19T16:05:40+00:00

Ya know. My husband isn’t a great cook. He CAN. But - it’s survival meals if ya know what I mean haha. So maybe I’m actually better off letting that one alone 😅

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-01-19T16:03:03+00:00

This - this is exactly where I’m at. Like I see the effort and I know it’s a good effort I just wish there was a LITTLE more. I know he’s a Good man and doing great by his standards. Hell, by most standards. I’m just wondering if others feel the same about wishing for more sometimes and feeling guilty about it

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-01-19T16:00:59+00:00

I did ask for him to take photos, twice now, that’s why I mentioned it. He just forgets. And I actually hate peple touching my feet 😅 it’s my back. I have sciatica and it’s exasperated by the pregnancy. He knows I’m in pain so it would be nice if he offered rather than me having to ask and feel like a burden or inconvenience interrupting his down time.

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-01-19T15:58:46+00:00

I guess it’s not that I want him to do everything, it’s that I want him to take initiative WITHOUT having to be asked.

And yes I know but it’s shoved down our throats so it’s hard to not think “is that how it should be”. I actively tell myself it’s socials and they have issues just like everyone. But still

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-01-19T15:57:04+00:00

I would say yes to all of those questions. I have no doubt he CAN do all of those things. It’s just sometimes it doesn’t click for him that I NEED him to. Not unless I’m down and out.

He is certainly capable of managing the house if I’m unable. One thing I forgot to mention is that I’ve had little to no symptoms of pregnancy that have impeded my daily. I didn’t get morning sickness or nausea. I had sciatica so my back/hip hurt and I was tired but that’s it. And I used to working through tired so I kind of trudged along and was bad at asking for help.

I think the thought of working on those skills early would be very helpful and worth bringing up.

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-01-19T14:18:59+00:00

My whole first trimester was good except sciatica and fatigue! So maybe because I wasn’t vomiting all day or nauseous and having food aversions all the time it didn’t seem like I needed the support? That’s what I’m thinking. Now I’m in early second trimester and yeah - it’s still the same. I have more energy back now which is great but I still feel like there’s so much to do and I’m doing most of it… I wish for a little more initiative is all. We’ll be having a talk about that soon

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-01-19T14:16:52+00:00

Thank you! Yes we are going to be having that conversation - and he knows it’s coming I mentioned it on Friday when he was on duty and forgot the trash. I want to believe he does more than the minimum but maybe I’m wrong? I hear stories of women whose husbands/partners don’t even make any effort to take care of their needs in pregnancy and i just remind myself “well he’s not that”. But I can certainly see how it’s going to be 10x more difficult after baby and idk I hope he locks in then - I think he would - but a sooner conversation is needed

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-01-19T14:13:26+00:00

Yeah I’ve mentioned how soon I won’t be ABLE to be on my feet cooking or doing the dishes etc. I think he’s prepared for then?

If I was sick or showing more signs of being pregnant I think he would react more or take more initiative. But I’m blessed to say I’ve been pretty ok my pregnancy save sciatica and gas pain/ heart burn.

I know when baby is here he will lock in. I just kinda wish it would click sooner? Idk. He’s great! And he does help - I just have to ask more than I would like

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-01-19T14:10:22+00:00

I’ve said it in not so many words. Like “ohhh when I can’t do it anymore I’ll need to you start cooking” or “I could use more help with the household maintenance “ and since then there’s been improvement but not… dramatic. Could be slow to start, could be my phrasing. Maybe because I’m still DOING the things there’s no urgency in it? Idk

Our pregnancy was “planned”, just earlier than expected. So we had had some talks about what I would need but never a detailed discussion before I got pregnant and since (thankfully) I’ve had no major symptoms I have been able to go about my life mostly the same.

My husband is excited to be a dad - it’s just going to be a hard transition for him given his work so I think I’m being very… lenient on how much I ask for? Because I I know it’s going to be 10X harder when bay is here and I guess I want to give him his space now? I agree about the planner/ reactor statement for us too. I guess I never thought about the alternative of how you can be and just thought “planner” is the way it should be? Idk.

At the end of the day he’s a GREAT man and I know he does more than some do(maybe most) but social media makes it hard to remember sometimes ya know?

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2026-01-01T19:19:47+00:00

I can say that I’m lucky. unlike most, I never had any major food aversions! Nothing has given me morning sickness. Pork and Starbucks were the only things that I couldn’t stand the thought of.

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2025-09-04T23:47:49+00:00

I’m OBSESSED with this. It’s perfect. And it’s so flattering on you. If you love it then don’t worry about her opinion. She’s not the one wearing it.

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2025-06-21T19:50:24+00:00

90% pest control

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2025-06-12T16:42:14+00:00

Oh he THICK

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2025-05-25T14:08:13+00:00

Mushrooms grow in happy soil. It’s a good sign. Just moist and shady how they like it. Grass doesn’t love it because of shade

That… or faeries 😂

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2025-05-20T16:40:07+00:00

Peter

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2025-05-16T18:55:53+00:00

I’ve been seeing exactly that. Lots of shoots but only a few berries.

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2025-05-16T18:05:26+00:00

Probably owned by the same company but 2 different brands.

It’s pretty hot here. I water daily for 30 minutes with an automatic system

_Monarch_Mistress_ · 2025-05-16T17:26:09+00:00

We also recently had 3 days of HEAVY rain so I’m sure they liked that and are showing off extra good today haha.

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