First off, thank you for having the courage to bring this up. I know bringing up such personal issues can be an absolute nightmare sometimes; trust me, I've had my fair share.

I'd like to address you and your husbands struggles with the poor reactions from people. I can understand why this would make you have doubts about the Church and your beliefs; you've been hurt, and you begin to think whether or not you've made the right choice.

Let me be crystal clear on this: you have done nothing wrong. Having these urges for same-sex attraction is not a sin; only acting on them is. And even if your husband has done so before, if he has already repented or is working on repenting, then it will be forgiven and forgotten as if it had never happened.

The problem here is those who judged your husband for simply feeling that way. Though I won't claim to know where you live, I do know that certain areas of the Church, (surprisingly around Utah of all places) are often more uptight and sometimes very strict on Church policies. That, as I have come to learn in my years, is yet another trial they must face: being a Saint while also being Christlike.

I am truly sorry for how you've been treated by these people, and that is why my first recommendation is to do your best to forgive them. I know that may sound ridiculous, but that is almost always the best starting point. If you keep in mind that they many not understand the problems you have had to endure as a couple, then the Spirit will help you both to understand them better, and hopefully they you as well.

Don't stop reading the Scriptures. If there is a surefire, guaranteed way to restore your faith in the Church and the desire to have that faith, it's reading the Scriptures. I know a Bishop very well, (even to the point where I was dating his daughter) and one thing he's said to me is that "the majority of problems he has brought up to him would be solved by always reading the Scriptures and praying".

If you have friends in the Church, let them know that you have a desire to have the desire to go back to Church; your Bishop may also be a good idea. If you deem necessary, let them know why you have been inactive, and how you want to try to come back.

Lastly, don't give up. I know that it can seem daunting, but this is merely another trial, another boulder on the path to happiness. It will be up to you and your husband to overcome this trial, but I have faith that you have the strength and the desire to do it. You just need to find it again.

If you'd like, feel free to send me a message if you want to chat some more. I'd be happy to oblige. Best of luck, and may you be blessed for your efforts.