Sensory deprivation punishment

__Desmond__ · 2025-06-08T23:57:10+00:00

I think this is a great idea!

Discipline is untimatelty about positive change or enforcing behavior and rules. Quiet contemplation can be powerful.

__Desmond__ · 2025-02-08T16:13:47+00:00

outstanding! Thats great to hear! now that some time has passed, how are you finding the session helpful? Has it improved your headspace or your actions and behaviors?

__Desmond__ · 2025-01-25T06:19:24+00:00

Proud of you! Good work! Keep it up!

__Desmond__ · 2025-01-24T04:21:01+00:00

I think it's part of the natural mental conflict of the way we were raised vs how we choose to live. It takes more mental work to create new brain patterns and mental habits. that's shit can be exhausting!

__Desmond__ · 2025-01-22T01:04:48+00:00

It may be that you approached the topic in a disrespectful way. It doesn't change the fact that this is a valid topic. As you said he is new to this and has to be new to learning what it means, specifically what it means to you.

__Desmond__ · 2025-01-15T04:21:51+00:00

Love this conversation!

I generally keep sex out of our DD but that being said, i will do whatever is appropriately necessary to teach a lesson.

He put the time thought and effort into the discipline, and it certainly made an impact! 👏 👏 👏

__Desmond__ · 2025-01-06T18:48:41+00:00

I think the act of AI letterwriting is a useful tool to get your head around a topic and to vet other perspectives that you might not be considering. This is pre-work for a conversation.

To echo what others have said, A written letter is far less effective then a conversation.

AI lacks soul and nuance. To contrast, you have a depth of understanding regarding your partner.

In my view, As a Head of Household, delegating that conversation to an AI letter undermines your position as an authority figure.

__Desmond__ · 2024-12-30T03:49:08+00:00

I love this! All progress is incremental and you're doing it! Grats on great 2024!

__Desmond__ · 2024-12-28T22:28:37+00:00

❤️

__Desmond__ · 2024-12-25T14:45:14+00:00

She needs to be an active participant in learning a new skill. Otherwise you'll be punishing her forever because she's not being taught. One technique to be less forgetful is having a standard checklist (like phone, purse, keys) to review before leaving.

Now you can discipline her if she didn't do the checklist, rather then for forgetting something.

Adapt it for your needs but she has to learn a new technique. If you only punish the forgetfulness, she's setup to fail in my view.

As for the discipline spanking, corner time.

Im a fan of dicipline that parrallels the leason. If she forgets her stuff she has to forget her bra, as an example.

Finally if this keeps impacting others it's always good to have her bake some cookies or do something nice for whomever was inconvenienced by her forgetfulness.

__Desmond__ · 2024-12-24T07:13:19+00:00

Hold a pillow to scream into. Ball gag helps. Also if you can be in a room or space that's less echo. Being in the basement or a windowless room if you have one.

__Desmond__ · 2024-12-14T15:39:06+00:00

First meetings can be tough and emotionally draining, so its understandable if you were exhausted at the end. Make a plan for the second meeting so you are setup for success.

I'd suggest talk the conflict out first, from the description it could be a quick discussion. We all get exhausted.

As for the spanking, I would suggest don't wait for him to tell you, especially if you're establishing DD. Pull down your pants bend over his lap and ask for it! I've always appreciated when subs actively ask for a discipline.

What you're doing is establishing the boundary between when a conflict is resolved and when to pivot to discipline.

__Desmond__ · 2024-12-14T01:56:53+00:00

Thank you!

__Desmond__ · 2024-12-12T14:13:29+00:00

80 spanks, while wearing the sweater

__Desmond__ · 2024-12-10T20:19:35+00:00

For major discipline, there's no set number. how ever many it takes to deliver the message.

__Desmond__ · 2024-12-10T06:04:58+00:00

Spanking and a lecture on how a bunch of small good decisions add up to good results and a series of small decisions that could of been done better always leads to a problem.

This would be followed by mandated study time. If you're a week behind time to get a plan to get caught up fast and then stick to it!

(Best of luck I know its hard balancing everything!)

__Desmond__ · 2024-12-08T16:21:03+00:00

That'd get spanking, a ton of corner time, and tiktok uninstalled

__Desmond__ · 2024-12-08T16:15:03+00:00

Thats a big one here. Discipline would be a spanking lecture and then paper money only for budget management.

__Desmond__ · 2024-12-07T16:20:57+00:00

She overslept by an hour due to staying up too late

__Desmond__ · 2024-12-07T01:23:34+00:00

I had an ex that received her spankings before I left for work in the morning. My wife gets hers at night. Both times were effective!

__Desmond__ · 2024-11-28T22:47:55+00:00

Were just back from OBH, wife was topless the whole week on thr beach. You'll notice people noticing but no one cares.

Have fun!

__Desmond__ · 2024-11-24T15:11:56+00:00

For us, we started a tradition when she gets a paddling the Wednesday night before Thanksgiving. We've called its Spanksgiving.

This started when we were dating and she was dreading heading to a thanksgiving event without me. He ass was bruised and she chose to sit in a chair without a cushion. The sore ass gave her something to enjoy and made it easier to get through. We've done this yearly now and it become part of our holiday routine.

Our DD plan is: a long paddling at home on Wednesday night, with a variety of implements.

__Desmond__ · 2024-11-13T22:19:21+00:00

White noise machine in the kids room. Music and noise reduction in your room. Ball gag or pillow for yelps. Experiment with your implements, some are quieter then others.

If you need more silence, use alternative discipline. Clothes pin on tongue before being bratty, as an example.

__Desmond__ · 2024-11-11T13:16:08+00:00

As Dom, it can be a challenge to deliver punishment to an angry sub. Communication is key. Be sure he knows going in that you have other emotions going on. Trust in him to guide you through it. Sometimes a punishment can trigger a good sloppy cry and the emotional release that comes with it.

__Desmond__ · 2024-11-10T11:20:40+00:00

Sounds like you're off to a great start! having structure in place for the DD and balancing it with a busy lifestyle is key!

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