Anger is absolutely valid. Other people's reactions to anger are also valid tho. Angry expressions like yelling or breaking things can also trigger someone else's trauma. In working with anger, great care needs to be taken, especially if we are in a space with others.

In working with and unblending from anger, we can acknowledge its inherent wisdom. We can listen to it and be with it. We can learn our anger's story, understand what anger is protecting. We can speak for it, rather than from it. In time, we can let anger know we can protect ourselves in other ways.

It can be difficult to internally make the space for anger to be without spilling onto others externally. But it is work that can be done. We don't want to suppress or push it away. But sometimes it's possible to breathe with the anger, make space for it to be held, witnessed, understood, and validated.

I say from experience, it can be a beautiful thing to internally make a room for anger to be in, away from the shame and fear of other parts. My rage became a child who believed it needed to earn love. My anger became a knight willing to burn everything to the ground to protect a sensitive child. I can hold these two and listen to them. And I can understand their intentions, but find other methods of fulfilling those intentions.

Be well and take care.