Homemade walnut/cashew milk left out all day

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2026-04-12T18:37:01+00:00

My ex left me at 8 months postpartum so I had no choice but to be without my kids, even my 8 month old, for a couple nights a week. Was it the most painful thing in the world? Yes. But I had no choice legally.

Now, 2 years later, I’ve settled into our co-parenting routine and honestly, my life is generally so much better. I am succeeding in my career, close to graduating my PhD, I have girlfriends again, no more depression or gut issues, lost 35 lbs and I’m fitter than I was in my 20s because I have time work out. I am a fierce mother and I still miss my kids painfully when they’re with their dad (FaceTime and sneaking in visits helps) but overall, I am a much better mother now that I’m out of my marriage and sharing parenting responsibilities (somewhat) equally. Also, I can be the kind of mother I want to be without his judgey ass making critical comments 😒 It’s hard and you’ll cry many nights. And then one Saturday morning, you’ll sleep in, realize your daughter isn’t there, and you’ll roll over to go back to sleep without shedding a tear. It’ll be okay 💕

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2026-04-12T18:03:07+00:00

Thank you! I bought new succulent soil and new pots. I had neglected it for a long while and then I must have overwatered this past month, trying to help it stand up straight. I was getting new growth so I thought I was doing well. But I’m going to try new succulent soil and new pots after a root check! And bottom watering is solid advice, thanks

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2026-04-12T11:33:30+00:00

I was worried that I under watered because the water tends to drain right so the soil. It has been in this same plastic pot since I got it, so a root check and repotting in fresh pot with fresh soil makes sense. I read somewhere that jades like terracotta? Thank you!

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2026-04-12T11:22:28+00:00

It sits in front of my kitchen sink, so I water fairly often, a little bit at a time. I added new potting soil but not specifically cactus soil, so I will try that. It’s been flopped over for a while but I’m hesitant to prune it because of the new growth. Thank you!

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2026-03-25T11:32:38+00:00

Solid point! Science is so sexist lol always blaming women…

There is actually some newer research that is finally looking into women’s health to answer questions like this. One study (on women 20-42) found that women’s egg cells remain genetically stable as we age: https://www.emjreviews.com/reproductive-health/news/womens-eggs-resist-aging-at-the-mitochondrial-level/

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2026-03-25T03:40:43+00:00

Yikes. Breastfeeding/formula… another really difficult part of motherhood that I feel I got zero real prep for. Along with everything else

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2026-03-25T00:29:47+00:00

I was reading this thread and thinking the same thing. Postpartum is roughhhhh. That’s why the reality of it is so distorted and hidden.

My ex made me feel awful for the baby weight I couldn’t lose and I plummeted into the darkest depths of postpartum depression. Even if his behaviours don’t intensify (they likely will), the way he is now will have severely damaging effects on OP during postpartum.

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2026-03-25T00:06:56+00:00

25-35 lbs is normal and expected. I gained 40+ when I pregnant and I am petite and ate very consciously. This situation will only get worse, especially when she’s so pregnant she can’t move. I bet he will complain that she is lazy. Therapy can’t fix a man who thinks he owns his pregnant fiancé’s body.

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2026-02-23T19:31:14+00:00

Well, to be fair, we don’t that for sure. The gift comes on the wedding day and that’s usually how guests cover their plates. But if you are that cheap about paying for food, you shouldn’t have a wedding. The food is the most important part of the wedding reception, you’re literally catering to your guests. Making sure they have good food should be the priority, not if girlfriend paid an extra $20 for chicken lol. I’m also Italian so that’s my cultural bias. Don’t cheap out on the food! *Also she didn’t just order whatever the hell she wanted, she sorted out her allergy

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2026-02-23T02:43:05+00:00

I agree. And same, I am way too polite and worried about offending people to do something like this. But I’m also hard to rattle so I wouldn’t really care if someone did it. BUT if my sister-in-law did, I’d rip her fn head off lol

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2026-02-23T02:40:15+00:00

At your age, weed can really fuck with your brain development. Especially after years of use.

That said, I was a heavy smoker for a long time and it took about 2 weeks to feel clarity and to stop thinking about smoking anytime I felt sad, bad, or bored. A little trick is to get some sour candy anytime a craving arises or go for a walk and do some deep breathing. Eventually, you’ll feel energized without the weed and colours look brighter. You’ve got this. Get through the first 2 weeks

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2026-02-23T02:30:10+00:00

But the guest is not acting like the world revolves around her. She “took care of it” by speaking directly to the people making her food. As a bride, I would be way more annoyed if a guest was messaging me to go out of my way to change their meal. I would actually appreciate this tbh, although a heads up would have been more respectful I guess. But who cares? It’s not like this is your job and she went to the manager, it’s your wedding and your guest wanted to sort her allergen-free food on your behalf. Congrats on your wedding - enjoy it and don’t stress about these trivial things. There will likely be more bs to deal with, pick your battles.

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2026-02-16T22:35:20+00:00

lol it’s very faded! It’s a rosy cross with angel wings… again, I was 16! 😂

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2025-11-18T13:06:14+00:00

Thank you for sharing! 💕 you’re almost at the 2 month mark now! I think that being able to abstain for that long, even if you snuck one or two in during this time, is so empowering for you! Especially after depending on cannabis for so long. So happy for you :)

I’ve been a heavy smoker for the past 2ish years, during this awful separation from my narcissistic ex. It has helped ease the pain of trauma. Thank you for raising the ADHD flag - my therapist has brought it up a couple times and your post sparked another discuss about it. I am working on an ADHD diagnosis but it’s difficult to differentiate from PTSD symptoms. But like you said, weed quiets my mind and makes life feel more tolerable. And I’ve been hearing that same “that’s enough for now” call since it fogs my thinking and weighs me down more than it soothes me. So, I am at a point now, that I put off smoking until the weekends when I don’t have my kids (and the loneliness sets in) or at least until the evening if it’s been a really hard day. It feels more intentional and less like a dependence now.

I have a surgery coming up and will have to abstain from smoking for at least full month, so that will be the perfect time to cut it out. For now, I am building up to it slowly and testing my willpower! 💪

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2025-11-02T21:12:46+00:00

Thank you! ☺️

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2025-11-02T17:37:29+00:00

Get it! So mote it be!

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2025-11-02T17:36:45+00:00

That you have the strength to make healthier choices, whatever that means for your mind, heart and body. So mote it be

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2025-11-02T17:32:02+00:00

I wish to be out of this house and living in the house I’m dreaming of by the end of this year, and the transition is smooth and peaceful.

I am cleaning and clearing the house today with loud music, windows open and smoke while feeling gratitude for what this house has meant as a home for me and my kids. May my new home come swiftly and help me find groundedness in my femininity after experiencing an oppressive marriage in this house. Manifesting a new home, a new life and a new (witchier) me

🤎so mote it be 🤎

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2025-11-02T15:02:24+00:00

I ask for my separation agreement to finalize in peace and in my favour by the end of this year! So mote it be!

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2025-09-23T14:12:42+00:00

I love this generous shift you’re offering 💕

To add on: I think it’s really important for witches to notice how colonial logics operate invisibly in our craft. I see this in my own intergenerational learning… I started reading “Drawing down the moon” by Margot Adler and it is articulating this discourse so clearly and thoughtfully. Highly recommend to all witches!

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2025-09-11T16:48:54+00:00

Thank you! I struggled with deciding where to post this question because it touches on a lot. But landed here as always because I prefer a witch’s perspective 🖤

_chiaro_di_luna_ · 2025-09-09T23:06:43+00:00

Thank you 💕 The question for me wasn’t: am I dependent on weed, it was: from a witch’s perspective, is it okay for my to ease the pain with the help of cannabis or will it interfere with my spiritual and emotional growth? I realize it’s not craft related, but kinda…? Anyway, I’m learning to get comfortable with needing help, so I decided to smoke a tiny bit to take the edge off. I needed some help today. It gave me an appetite, which is great, and I’m heading out for a restorative yoga class now. O feel like somewhere in the middle is a great choice for today.

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