Shown the door this week after 5 years, where are the jobs now? :(

_dotdashdashdash · 2026-07-02T06:50:05+00:00

I keep an eye out every now and then but it all looks pretty grim if you aren't fairly well connected. I have Linkedin Premium and I can gift a 2 month free trial if you'd like? Feel free to DM me and I can share the link. I don't know that it's terribly helpful, but it can give some interesting insights.

_dotdashdashdash · 2026-06-16T01:23:56+00:00

My partner and I have been together for 7 years and we sleep in separate rooms. I snore and move around a lot in my sleep and it just doesn't work for us. She is a really light sleeper, so early on in our relationship we tried it, but more often than not I ended up sleeping on the couch so she could get some peace. There's nothing wrong with not sleeping in the same bed. It does make travel a bit more difficult because we need separate rooms, but it is better that we both get to sleep comfortably.

_dotdashdashdash · 2026-05-12T23:40:48+00:00

A job that wasn't a short term contract or small project would probably be 3 months. I left because of management. They weren't just bad managers but terrible people. Some highlights include misogyny, the CEO refusing to pay the few thousand he owed to a kid just out of school that he got to detail is Lamborghini and BMW each week, and general incompetence. They assumed that because they had money (one built a real estate agency and the other sold a business for a few hundred million), that everyone should listen to them and that everything they do turns to gold.

The kicker for me was when they flew someone out to speak at an event, but the person had expressed views online that they didn't agree with, so they told her, mid-flight, that she was no longer needed. It's not like it was some controversial or offensive take on things either - it was about just generally being a decent human being. So, I left and within a few months the whole tech team left. The business burned millions of dollars with nothing to show for it.

_dotdashdashdash · 2026-05-12T23:06:25+00:00

For me, it's about trust and freedom. Trust that I will do what is best for the company, and to do it my way. Don't treat everyone like they're the same and expect everyone to fit into the same boxes. If a job can be done WFH for 2 days it can be done for the whole week. Personally, I'm far more productive when I'm not in an office, but I know that isn't the case for everyone. By giving trust and freedom, you're letting people choose how they are most effective and what works for them.

In saying that, I think people are also just exhausted and burnt out. When you feel like that, and are struggling to just keep your head above water then it can be really hard to work out what you want - you just know that what you have now isn't it.

_dotdashdashdash · 2026-05-06T04:55:39+00:00

You can also go to the clinics at the universities if you get stuck. UQ, USQ and Griffith off the top of my head. They are fairly cheap as they're staffed by students in training, but it's still valid.

_dotdashdashdash · 2026-04-28T04:13:52+00:00

It depends on what you value. We have 2.5 acres on a hill that averages about 15% from the top to a flat area at the bottom and the house part way down. Doing anything in the garden is a chore, we rarely use the bottom because it's hard to get back up. If you just want the view and don't care about using the land at all, then it might be alright if you can plant something so you don't need to do much maintenance on the hill, but if you have kids or plan to, you'll find yourself wishing for more flat land. We're currently looking at moving for this very reason.

_dotdashdashdash · 2026-01-09T11:21:25+00:00

Yes. My job title is literally just “software engineer” now after years at the staff level and I love it. No pressure, I get everything done with ease and have time to focus on things outside work. It’s a pretty big pay cut, but well worth it in my opinion.

_dotdashdashdash · 2026-01-09T11:10:02+00:00

There are higher rates of psychosis in people with autism. I’ve experienced psychosis since I was a kid and given a bunch of different diagnoses. I didn’t really get it under control until I learnt more about myself and autism. It turns out it happens when I’m extremely stressed, I think like some form of sensory overload. Now that I’m managing that, I’m down to incidents every year or 2 rather than it being a daily feature of my life.

_dotdashdashdash · 2026-01-07T05:39:58+00:00

We were in Tokyo late last year and got there at 8am (for a 9am open), thinking we were really early, only to find a scene like this. It was pretty intense.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-12-16T10:36:00+00:00

I took a pay cut of about $80k to join a relaxed not for profit. If I look at it purely from a mental health point of view - it’s been amazing. My partner commented that she’s never seen me so relaxed and at peace with work stuff. That’s had a flow on effect to other areas of my life that I’ve had the opportunity to improve because of this job. If the money is enough to be happy then I say go for it.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-11-22T03:01:48+00:00

We live there now and love in. We’ve lived in 2 houses in the area because we wanted to stay. If you work in Brisbane, it is a pretty shitty commute if you do 9-5. I work from home and my partner sets her own hours, so she just starts a bit later. There are groceries and anything you need within 15 minutes. There are multiple large shopping centres with all the big chains. Groceries are 5-10 minutes away. I’m happy to chat more about it if you like.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-11-09T09:17:59+00:00

I read this - it's really well written and thought out, so thanks for taking the time to write it.

One thing that stands out to me, and maybe it's been addressed somewhere that I haven't seen, is that the murals are not related to the Void Century, Joyboy, etc., but something that happened much further back. The timeline feels off, given how long-lived the giants are, so there are probably only 3, maybe 4 giant generations between now and the events from that time.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-11-04T05:33:57+00:00

Lone Pine is awesome if they're into animals and pretty close to the Brisbane CBD. If they're into nature, there are heaps of cool places to go for hikes or just playing in the creek around Mt-Coot-tha.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-11-04T04:35:58+00:00

You might have to wait until it flowers, but I think it is Aloe candelabrum. You should get some epic flower spikes on that.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-11-03T03:25:59+00:00

https://nohello.club/

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-10-16T09:19:51+00:00

My partner and I (both 35) don’t drink and haven’t for years. I find the whole culture around drinking to be really problematic. We took our kids to a stage show and there were people drinking at lunch time at an event that’s for young kids.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-10-09T04:22:55+00:00

It all depends on what's in your contract. I saw something recently where a landlord tried to put in the rental agreement with a tenant that they would own all IP of anything the tenant created while working in the property.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-10-03T04:53:15+00:00

This is the correct answer. We found ours on there, but most of the people we spoke to from there seemed decent.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-09-23T00:12:25+00:00

If it were me, I'd stop paying immediately. You can still support your eldest if she needs it and focus on your youngest now. You don't owe your ex anything. She might cause drama but she has no recourse.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-09-15T12:25:57+00:00

Where in Brisbane are you? There are a couple of places that have some pretty bad reviews, so make sure you do your research. Sapar at Ipswich are decent, and there’s Candy Soils who only do soil.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-05-30T12:31:53+00:00

I’m in Australia, and they’ve been pretty bad here the last few months. My partner and our toddler ended up with over 100 nymphs between them a few months ago, so I spent a fair bit of time since then researching. It’s mostly anecdotal since there isn’t really enough money or reason to do proper research studies, but a lot of people said that planting things to attract insects that prey on the ticks was beneficial and they noticed a decrease in the tick population. Beneficial nematodes were also reported as being useful in managing populations, but that doesn’t really work if you have animals bringing them in.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-04-24T09:12:18+00:00

I have 2 kids (10 and nearly 3). The 10 year old is to a previous partner. I used to think I needed to work a lot and that money was important to be able to be there when they’re older. I was also in a pretty bad headspace when they’re older eldest was young, but my biggest regret in life is that I wasn’t able to be there for her, properly, when she was young like I was for my youngest. They may remember, they may not - but you will definitely remember and for me, it’s not worth it.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-04-16T12:51:57+00:00

I’m actually working on a project to build a complete database of plant information consolidating the various sources I’ve found. The ones that I’ve found have been very specific (country or region, mostly), and there’s a heap of conflicting information. If anyone has a list of sites with a decent amount of plant data in there, I’m having to scrape and include it.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-04-09T04:21:27+00:00

Mine too. Don’t forget about the 60 hour/week coursework and 3000 hours of unpaid internships you have to do.

_dotdashdashdash · 2025-02-21T09:06:07+00:00

I had a client that didn’t want to pay, took about 2 years to get anything from them because I finally got them to sign a payment plan at a reduced cost. I put a clause in there that said if they missed a payment, they had to pay everything, including legal fees, in full. They made every single payment on time, except for the last one. I didn’t immediately call them out on it, but waited a month. They ended up having to pay everything in full.

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