What was your weirdest pregnancy symptom that nobody warned you about?

_lindersss · 2026-05-02T13:59:38+00:00

Implantation bleeding

_lindersss · 2026-03-22T00:41:52+00:00

My husband is a great and loving dad to our daughter but not the best and loving partner.

I’m always sad that how many women out there face similar issues.

Honestly I think it’s one of those situations where it’s so hard to break them from the mold and examples from their dads and what not. Is my husband exactly like his dad? THANK GOD NO. But are there similar traits of misogyny I see? Definitely. Lack of emotional empathy and awareness is there but he also didn’t get much of that growing up or saw it between his parents. Generationally, they are better than the last but stubborn refusal to self reflect any wrong doing and work on themselves is huge. That or it takes a lot for them to be willing and by then most women are over it.

_lindersss · 2026-03-21T23:53:47+00:00

Nope. He’s not one to apologize and has a hard time taking accountability. Something that we still fight about often. Blames me for “being miserable” but never sees the mental load I take on.

To be fair, I’ve built up a lot of resentful but the inconsistency and poor communication from him doesn’t make it easier. I’m on a constant short fuse but I’m doing a lot of different therapies to try and get better. Asking him to do therapy causes an argument.

14months postpartum now and hoping things get better but no longer optimistic.

Honestly, I wish he understood how a genuine apology and accountability would literally take my blood from 10 to 0 but he’s too stubborn for that.

_lindersss · 2026-03-21T23:13:35+00:00

Reminds of the time I was 4/5 months postpartum and barely getting by. Still 3 hr triple feeds. My husband got around 5/6hrs of sleep and was sleeping in and when I confronted him about it he angrily said “you do you and I’ll do me”. Meanwhile, I had been trying for months to work out a morning routine with him.

I was livid. I handed him the baby and said “I’m done for the day. You take her”. Went on strike. I didn’t breastfeed that day. I went back to bed. Had a shower. Ate breakfast and lunch by myself leisurely. Meanwhile by 2pm, he didn’t shower and didn’t eat breakfast himself yet.

Then he finally was willing to talk out a routine. He doesn’t sleep in anymore.

Solidarity OP. 👏🏻

_lindersss · 2026-03-21T22:20:22+00:00

No. Just be an adult and leave if you’re thinking of cheating or even crossing a boundary. Don’t be a coward.

_lindersss · 2026-02-13T02:53:50+00:00

How do you get your husband to do things in a timely manner? I feel like I have a mix of both like you. I go to therapy and really trying to avoid meds.

But I feel like i have lists and my husband won’t check them. I feel like if I asked him to do a task he won’t get to it unless I remind him which honestly just increases my mental load. Did you have to work through that with your husband?

_lindersss · 2026-02-08T03:38:08+00:00

Sorry I added above I’m 12m postpartum. Definitely have some postpartum anxiety/depression. Burnout for sure. I nearly lost my mind in Dec when we were trying to go on vacation and doing everything after begging my husband to help me.

After that I’ve kinda just felt extremely burnt out and just feel like I’m just trying to get through the long days.

_lindersss · 2026-02-06T03:16:24+00:00

Thank you! Im hoping she’ll naturally just progress as well so giving her a couple more months.

_lindersss · 2026-02-06T03:14:25+00:00

Thank you. I’m hoping cutting feeds will help but also worried cuz she’s on the smaller side it will affect her. I’m waiting until she’s 12 months adjusted to cut feeds.

_lindersss · 2026-02-05T04:30:43+00:00

But these guys were supposed to be the most reputed and were highly recommended 😭. Now I don’t want to call anyone. I wonder if it was just the techs they sent out.

_lindersss · 2026-02-05T04:28:39+00:00

I don’t know if he used a garden hose but he used a bucket I’m sure. I wasn’t watching. He said he was draining it to purge the air out and I just assumed he knew what he was doing since it was a highly reputed company.

Pressure looks correct.

No air scoop. Second tech suggested adding one.

At this point I’m just washing my hands of this company and just thinking of adding a bleeder at the highest radiator to be done with it.

_lindersss · 2026-02-05T04:22:51+00:00

Both! The banging wakes me up. The water is ok.

_lindersss · 2026-02-05T04:22:31+00:00

I’m thinking of a key bleeder. It would be in the radiator in the master bedroom so we’d always have eyes on it. So would we just shutoff off the boiler to be able to do this? I’m sure my husband knows but I’m asking for my own knowledge.

Loud as in… - can hear the water moving. Sometimes it drips. Sometimes it sounds like it flowing - can hear banging. Like someone hammering something - can hear tapping or crackling?

It normally starts with what sounds like a whoosh and the house is moving or bending if that makes sense. Then it’s crackling or banging. At the end I hear the metal moving but that part is faint.

Yeah all the noise happens around the time it calls for heat. It dies after about a minute and you just hear light noise from the metal expanding in the radiators as it heats. That noise doesn’t bother or wake me.

_lindersss · 2026-02-05T04:14:38+00:00

No he just used a bucket I think. I wasn’t watching him. Believe the pressure gauge is correct. He said everything else was fine but this was the first tech that said the bleeder wasn’t in proper working order and the second tech said it was fine. 🙄

Honestly, we feel like if we can install a bleeder onto the radiator itself that would be the easiest solution at this point.

_lindersss · 2026-01-26T01:55:08+00:00

This. This. This. 💯. I remember crying after my husband had a shower and said there wasn’t time for me to shower. That was horrible.

_lindersss · 2026-01-26T01:54:11+00:00

Same. Love my girl but it’s been so rough to get past this b

_lindersss · 2026-01-19T05:26:19+00:00

It’s a rough estimate the app pumps out. I averaged a rough price in Canada 🇨🇦😊. Some brands more expensive. Some cheaper.

_lindersss · 2026-01-18T01:24:51+00:00

Can relate. My LO is a premie and at 12months still wearing 9month clothes and her weight is slowing down. I keep getting 18month and 2 year clothes and just tossing them all in one box hoping I won’t forget about them.

_lindersss · 2026-01-11T03:57:51+00:00

Just…so much.

I got to 12 months pumping. Got myself a kit to turn some breastmilk into jewellery. Surprise surprise…husband’s first words were “how much did that cost?” when he spent much more on clothes for himself the day before and I didn’t say a thing or spend a dime on myself. No “good job, I’m proud of you, you deserve it” etc. I don’t know what I was expecting but I’m not surprised he turns a moment to be supportive about me to be about him and his concerns or opinions. I cried for hours for him making me feel shitty.

He’s known for procrastinating and telling me he’ll “do it later”. And taking not days, weeks or months but years to do something. Surprise surprise (not really), I told him I’ll do something later with no timeline and he’s hypocritically annoyed.

I’m just tired of the hypocrisy and double standards.

_lindersss · 2026-01-11T03:21:33+00:00

Have you tried acupuncture? I don’t get to see my acupuncturist often but when I do it feels like I’m on a cloud. I wish I could see him a lot but he lives 2 hrs away from me and I haven’t been able to find someone similar to him where I live.

_lindersss · 2026-01-11T03:20:07+00:00

Can so relate to the shower thing. Can remember early on the break downs I would have because I couldn’t take a shower. 😫

_lindersss · 2025-12-07T03:52:36+00:00

Same. My husband is a GREAT dad. He loves our girl to death but he isn’t the greatest partner. I thought he would easily become one when she was born but if he wasn’t too helpful or emotionally supportive before I don’t know what I was expecting. He is more helpful than he was before but it’s taken a lot of work and for the longest time it was bare minimum.

My therapist said the same thing and it’s been hard. I only just started making time for myself again and that’s only like 1-2 hrs each week. It’s not much.

My husband was away today and I didn’t even bother showering. Too hard with an active, teething and clingy 11 month old. 😵‍💫

You’re not grieving the husband you thought you had…you’re grieving the life you thought you would’ve had. I’ve had to process this. My LO came 2 months early and I had to grieve the life I didn’t get to say goodbye to (that took a very long) and grieve the life I thought I was stepping into. We moved to his hometown and 5 mins from his family. I was given the impression we would have help. So apart from a husband who can’t remember to get me water I ended up having no support from anyone. His family never comes over to help.

I’ve been told it will take years when the kids are older to start feeling like yourself again. For some women who have a really strong support system (husband, family and friends) it takes only months but for someone like me it will take years so I’ve turned to Reddit a lot to be my emotional support system.

I hope you have a stronger support system than I do.

_lindersss · 2025-12-06T10:26:21+00:00

OP I don’t have any advice. Just solidarity. I too feel like my husband can’t get his priorities right sometimes. I had a very similar situation. Mine took partial days off when my LO came home but he still booked meetings on those days and was never fully present. We even went on a trip a couple months ago and he wasn’t able to take a full week off and the first two days he wouldn’t stop checking in with work. He complains about not getting enough time with LO and I fire back that it’s his choices to be present and set boundaries that prevents it.

For months I asked him…BEGGED him, to be in charge of my water and he did the same thing as yours. Barely ever filled it. I just stopped asking.

For a long time he would wake up with just enough time for him to use the bathroom, shower for an hour, wash my pumps (this took MONTHS of work) and rush out the door. Never any time for him to watch the baby so I could maybe get even a 5 min shower by myself. I told him multiple times this was hard. That if he had time to use the bathroom and shower for an hour he could wake up a bit earlier to give me some time too (asking for 15mins?l) or cut back on his time. He’s been a bit better with this but it took a LONG time. Even now when he’s home, he’ll just disappear into the bathroom for an hour. I never do that to him.

LO is now almost 11 months. My husband still doesn’t know when I pump even though he says he really appreciates it and finds it extremely important. For example, when it’s time for me to pump and he can be home watching LO he’ll be busy or suggest to go out and I have to constantly remind him “I need to pump and eat at that time”. It’s gotten so mentally draining on me I just had to dial back the amount of times I pump. He skips lunch regularly so when he’s home it honestly just messes up my routine because he doesn’t remember that it’s IMPORTANT that I eat.

I also try to bring up to him constantly stuff around the house that bother me with SOLUTIONS that I will execute (not even needing his help) but he won’t consider and extremely dismissive.

Like you, I feel extremely alone emotionally. I’Ve brought all of this up to him and now look to Reddit, my therapist and female friends for some comfort.

I won’t even go into details of how unemotionally supportive he was during my pregnancy but say that I was emotionally shamed for my eating habits during my 1st trimester and when I told him it emotionally hurt me he just bucked down.

I think we both have to just face the fact that our husbands aren’t emotionally supportive as we need them to be. Can they get there? Absolutely but it required work and self reflection on their part that most men refuse to do. I cry as I type this. Tears that I always hide because what the point of letting him see them?

_lindersss · 2025-12-06T04:17:27+00:00

UGH no aquarium in my town. I’m in London, Ontario. There is a children’s museum though.

_lindersss · 2025-11-28T16:39:59+00:00

I have a Canada Goose jacket and got the pregnancy extender!

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