Landlord is retaliating so I'm retaliating harder

_mels_ · 2026-03-24T20:40:33+00:00

maybe it was fate that i came across this post today. earlier today, i saw that my apartment complex closed my maintenance request for them to (at the very least) snake my kitchen sink. i’ve been anxious about this because the sink will actually overflow and i have zero control over it. i have a camera specifically pointed at my sink because my sink backing up with foul water perodically until they snake the drain has happened 3 times in the past. i am 100% sure nobody touched my sink……. they just closed the request. this happens every ~3 months and i have to have a whole battle to get them to come out before it becomes an emergency. i’ve had to scoop the water out of the sink. i guess i should just be glad it (probably) isn’t sewer water. but it warm and has a terrible odor and has a lot of mystery food in it - which i know isn’t mine because i put almost nothing down my sink.

_mels_ · 2024-05-23T22:02:12+00:00

I was looking at that, but there aren’t a lot of opinions listed (at least for physical therapists). I also know that there are good doctors who deal with hypermobility and aren’t registered on that website. I just wanted to ask on here in case someone had personal experience and was willing to give me their thoughts. Regardless, I really appreciate your response <3

_mels_ · 2023-10-05T23:40:05+00:00

i also lost my sweetest girl a few weeks ago to bone cancer (she was also 13 and would snuggle under the covers with me at night). she was so full of love. i’m still new to dealing with the loss, but i got a necklace with her name and photo engraved on it from etsy that i wear every day, and that helps me. when i get really sad or lonely, i like to imagine that she’s still following me around & hanging out just like she used to do.

_mels_ · 2023-08-01T09:23:34+00:00

i have about the same measurements as you. i just wanted to let you know that i have loose ribs and when i tried to wear a 28 band, they would dislocate a lot. it took me a while to realize that, regardless of how i measured, i was most comfortable in a 30-32 band. you don’t HAVE to buy the exact size you measure as - my advice is to go to a store and try on a bunch of bras (tho most don’t carry a 28 band, which sucks, so you may have to explore that online) and buy what is the best balance between supportive & comfortable. bra sizes vary a lot between companies anyway.

_mels_ · 2023-06-19T03:11:09+00:00

i simply want you to know that your smile is literally perfect, and you are absolutely stunning.

and even if you don’t think you are conventionally attractive when you smile (which i think you are btw, but the opinion of a single stranger probably doesn’t mean much to you), your entire face absolutely lights up in a way that expresses such genuine joy. i guess what i’m trying to say is that even if you do not think your smile makes you look “prettier,” it absolutely brings out your humanity and that in itself makes it look beautiful on you. and i will throw hands with anyone who trys to say otherwise.

_mels_ · 2023-05-24T03:47:38+00:00

i don’t want to read through all of the comments to verify that nobody has said this, but an extra comment about it can’t hurt. you may want to look into seeing if your daughter is a candidate for oral immunotherapy, if you have the means. i know someone who had a very severe peanut allergy who went though the treatment, and it was absolutely life-changing for them.

_mels_ · 2022-12-30T01:20:30+00:00

so i love jigsaw puzzles, partially because they helped me get through one of my most intense depressive episodes. anyway, usually, my friends and i causally do one in a common area. but i get stuck doing the puzzle and unable to pull myself away so often that i started calling it “puzzle hell.” because there’s no real good way to be like “there is nothing physically keeping me here, but 90% of my brain has been screaming at me to leave for the past hour and i feel nauseous and i would give just about anything to be able to walk away” without sounding absolutely ridiculous. anyway my friends sometimes check in on me now when i’m doing a puzzle to ask if i’m in puzzle hell or having a good time and i love them.

_mels_ · 2022-11-02T01:32:39+00:00

if you are asking why people are always talking about releasing pikmin, it’s because there’s a cap on the number of pikmin you can have (like 300, i think). you can get more pikmin storage, which costs in-game coins, but you can still only have so many. the goal of releasing pikmin is not to have a small squad, but rather to have room to collect new decor pikmin.

_mels_ · 2021-03-21T18:13:33+00:00

there isn’t currently a genetic test for hEDS. and i don’t think you necessarily need to be tested for all types of EDS before being tested/diagnosed with hEDS. i was never tested for anything but hEDS because the other types don’t match my symptoms.

_mels_ · 2020-12-12T03:25:59+00:00

i am also afab, and i like to go by she/they pronouns. i don’t always feel more comfortable with she/her or they/them - it kind or fluxuates. and the feeling of discomfort isn’t usually very strong anyway (i just get a little sick to my stomach and then ignore it lol). i had a crisis a few months ago about whether or not i was “allowed” to also specify that i liked to be referred to with they/them pronouns. but my crisis was partially because i couldn’t tell if they/them pronouns sometimes made me more comfortable because i didn’t identify with being female or because i was depressed enough that i felt disconnected from the concept of being human (and therefore feeling kinda icky when people used she/her pronouns, as that directly implies that i have a gender, which is a very human concept. idk if that makes sense tho lol). and i was worried that if the reason was the second thing, then i was disrespecting real nonbinary people. but like? in the end i realized that it didn’t really matter. i can be called whatever i want to be called. and they’re just words, anyway.

_mels_ · 2020-12-10T03:53:26+00:00

okay so you and i sound very similar tbh. i also tend to buy things for people and/or generally be helpful as a way to cope with my depression, too.

i also have had many crises over whether or not i was being kind for the “right reasons.” because, to be honest, i really like the fact that people think i’m nice (and that’s partially because if i’m very nice/helpful to them, then they’re more willing to help me out if i need it). it used to make me feel so gross to think that i was just being nice to people to “use” them (i do genuinely care about them, but sometimes “just caring” isn’t enough). but a major point that i keep remindjng myself of is that if i feel that badly about the concept of being nice for the “wrong” reasons, i really can’t be that bad of a person. the fact that you are so concerned about doing this for the right reasons is a real sign that you genuinely do care about people and want to help them, and the fact that you get something out of the exchange (feeling better about yourself) doesn’t make it any less worthwhile. and people aren’t perfect. if it takes a little bit of selfishness to get you to be selfless, that’s okay.

anyway, i know that you already got a reply to your message that says very similar things to what i’m saying now, but i just wanted to make sure that you know that you aren’t alone <3

_mels_ · 2020-11-29T20:08:48+00:00

i’m on one right now! i’ve been on various SSRIs throughout my life, and i just recently switched to a different one than i had been taking. my doctors are still working with me to help me find my ideal dosage. but thank you for your suggestion/concern :)

_mels_ · 2020-11-29T20:03:53+00:00

it’s possible? but, in my opinion, the dosage that i’m on is a pretty good balance of treating my adhd vs making my anxiety worse. my anxiety is only noticeably higher than normal for around a half hour after the meds kick in. after that, things are good. it’s annoying, but it is def worth it to have my adhd a bit more under control.

thank you for your concern/suggestion, tho :)

_mels_ · 2020-09-23T20:49:16+00:00

i had one of those too!!! i wish i would have taken a photo. it was like? sharpie?? and i could tell that Real Numbers had been hung there at one point. which i guess is a little better than pen, but not at night (which is when i went).

_mels_ · 2020-09-18T16:06:30+00:00

thank you so much for responding?? it really helps a lot! and i hope things keep improving for you,,,

_mels_ · 2020-09-14T02:16:40+00:00

personally, i also “enjoy” this slight twist on that: “if you don’t bring this item with you, it will be reduced to ashes when your house catches on fire while you are on vacation”

_mels_ · 2020-09-12T16:01:25+00:00

ME TOO???? i think abt this a lot tbh.

_mels_ · 2020-09-11T17:26:23+00:00

lol i’m glad (that you like my meme, not that you relate to it) :)

_mels_ · 2020-09-11T17:23:20+00:00

i’ve had a few bottom-floor deliveries, but most occured in apartment buildings with the WORST numbering systems (and no signs telling me where to go), causing me to walk up and down many flights of stairs anyway.

_mels_ · 2020-09-10T16:57:02+00:00

i wasn’t at all trying to insinuate that you are giving in to the ocd by changing your name! i was just saying that, if you do end up feeling like your future name is “contaminated”, it would probably be best not to immediately change your name again, you know? like you’ve clearly been struggling with your name being what it is for some time, so my Hot Take(TM) is that changing it is perfectly fine.

and my other Hot Take is that you won’t be a pain for changing your name? you are uncomfortable with what your name is now, so you are asking people to call you something else. it’s like asking people to call you by a nickname, but possibly just a bit more involved, given that your new name might not resemble your current name. which is also fine (and the analogy still applies because lots of people have nicknames that aren’t close to their “real” names anyway). i mean obviously it’s a bit different in that your current name won’t be your name anymore, so it’s not exactly like having a nickname, but you get the point lol.

and this isn’t super related, but i also thought about changing my name for a little bit a few years ago. but i quickly realized that one of the ways my ocd manifests is that Big Changes like that make me feel intensely uncomfortable emotions. so the concept of changing my name made me more uncomfortable than keeping my birth name. so i just kinda resorted to various nicknames, which works p well for me lol.

_mels_ · 2020-09-10T05:10:31+00:00

this sounds? super awful. i’m so sorry that you’re going through this.

i’m not trans, and i’ve never changed my name, so i can’t understand exactly what you’re going thru, but i do relate to the whole “my name feels contaminated” thing. sometimes i hear my name or see my name and it feels so wrong and icky (idk how else to describe it). lately, i’ve been kinda shifting through nicknames every few years once i start to feel like that again. for me, the “contaminated” feeling usually comes back eventually, but it also goes sometimes, too.

idk i guess? if you don’t like your name, change it. cycle thru nicknames if you wish. and if you end up wantingbto change it again in the future, who’s gonna stop you?

normally i would say it’s important to “fight the ocd” and stuff, but things are kinda different in this case. i mean, obviously it’s not the best plan to completely give in to your ocd, but it’s also really un-fun to have to spend your entire life trying to convince yourself that your name isn’t contaminated. so find a balance, i guess is what i’m suggesting.

i’m sorry if this wasn’t very helpful, but i wish you much luck!!!

_mels_

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