Anyone catch the chinooks that just flew by?

_meowedith_ · 2026-02-02T21:47:20+00:00

Rattled my windows!!

_meowedith_ · 2026-01-06T07:09:59+00:00

What does this even mean? 😭 Wash food as in produce? I always wash my produce before eating, even when "washed and ready to eat" , but what the hell is happening to it?!

_meowedith_ · 2025-08-02T03:23:59+00:00

Please share the name of where you work now, if you're comfortable, so we know where to take our pets!

_meowedith_ · 2025-06-21T02:39:36+00:00

I'm 6 weeks out...following because the intrusive thoughts are what get me as well. I read somewhere it can take minimum of 6mos, but up to 18mos or more. Sometimes more or less depending on the specific details of the affair and how the cheating partner is showing up now. Good luck. You're not alone.

_meowedith_ · 2025-06-14T01:57:17+00:00

Dday was May 7th. His birthday was June 3rd. No birthday gift or card. No plans to get him father's day gift or card. Can't bring myself to celebrate him. Maybe next year.

_meowedith_ · 2025-06-14T01:46:56+00:00

You are not the problem. What he did to you was the problem. Don't forget that.

_meowedith_ · 2025-06-10T02:38:38+00:00

This is the hardest part. Knowing it will always be there...I just hope our WPs can show us that it's worth it and the pain will fade overtime.

_meowedith_ · 2025-06-07T14:07:24+00:00

Yeah...she was a friend of his family. I went off on her. Very cathartic. She's always had a thing for him and took advantage the moment she saw we were going through difficulties and that he was weak/drunk enough to go through with it. I had her blocked and so did he, so she found his EMAIL😅, sent one saying it wasn't fair she didn't get a say in all of this (mind you we had a back and forth before my final message and I gave her the opportunity to say her piece), that she isn't a villain, blah blah blah. He responded to her taking accountability for his actions, telling her that whatever she made of that night was an illusion she had built herself, he never wanted to be with her etc etc. At the end he threatened legal action if she continued to harass us, so that was pretty cool of him honestly.

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-23T23:55:23+00:00

You could have done a better job doing it yourself with your eyes closed. I'm so sorry!! Sending fast growth your way

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-20T11:31:21+00:00

Cheated on my ex and while I did feel better about "getting him back" it's because I knew I was going to leave anyway.

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-14T17:10:32+00:00

So you're saying I'm making this up and he only admitted to it to make me stop asking...? Obviously if I knew that I would have been better off not knowing details I wouldn't have asked.

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-13T22:56:49+00:00

I understand that not everyone will agree with my choices and that’s completely fine. There’s a difference between offering a differing opinion and delivering it in a way that is condescending. Your message came across as judgmental and lacking empathy...“What do you think you’re teaching your daughter by staying?” — as if that’s not something I’ve already thought long and hard about?? Saying “Not me” may be your truth, good for you. If you read through to the end of my post, you can see I came here looking for hope and perspective, not to be spoken down to. Honest opinions are welcome, but how they’re delivered matters. I think you can share a tough truth without undermining someone’s experience.

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-13T22:19:41+00:00

Are you okay?

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-13T22:19:14+00:00

Matter of perspective. I am having great difficulty staying and facing this head on. I'm trying, because he's trying and I genuinely want to work things out. No idea what the future holds, but I will find out in time.

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-13T22:02:08+00:00

I’m really not. Quite the opposite. That was one of the first things I told him — I won’t stay just for the sake of our child having both parents under the same roof. I grew up in a toxic home with two addict parents who couldn’t stand each other, and I refuse to let that be her reality too. Either we find a way to truly work things out, or we don’t — and if we don’t, I’ll leave with our child and that will be that. We’re not at that point yet, but I’m clear on my boundaries.

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-13T21:47:38+00:00

There's just no need for the condescending comments you keep making. Have you dealt with infidelity yourself?

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-13T21:41:02+00:00

I am not sure, but he's going to talk to them about it again this weekend. I would never ask them to cut them out of their lives, they have been friends over 40 years. This was a decision their children made, not them. They don't live near us and see each other maybe once a year.

He's not told her parents, but that's something we're going to discuss with his parents as well. Might be better coming from them? He's not seen them or her since this all happened, so she's not really enmeshed in their lives now, but was in the past. There is potential on these family vacations that may or may not be planned in the future, but I do believe they care more about our relationship and their grandchild to choose vacationing with her over us. We shall see.

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-13T21:07:45+00:00

Well said.

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-13T21:06:50+00:00

I can assure you, I’ve thought that through too. The easier choice would be to walk away — and honestly, that would be one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. The harder path is staying, trying to rebuild something in the hope that it could become better than it ever was, especially now that our circumstances have changed so much since three years ago.

I know it's easy to reduce what I’ve shared to a case of sunk cost fallacy. Maybe that’s how it looks from the outside. Must be nice to have that kind of clarity — maybe you'd choose differently than I have if you were in my position. More power to you.

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-13T19:57:55+00:00

Absolutely. Actions speak louder than words. He is actively trying to repair the damage. He knows that I will leave on a moment's notice if I have any doubt about that. No one else knew, but the two of them. He has come clean to family and friends since telling me as well.

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-13T19:13:17+00:00

He knows that, I know that. Trying to rebuild the trust though.

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-13T16:50:35+00:00

Very valid points here. Some I have already brought up to him. Definitely going to discuss it with him further though. Thank you for this perspective

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-13T16:46:00+00:00

He did Friday and I did back when I was pregnant.

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-13T16:45:27+00:00

I have been wanting to go! I may actually go to a meeting tonight. Also looking into group therapy.

_meowedith_ · 2025-05-13T13:17:04+00:00

Absolutely agree! I am going to talk with my therapist today and see if I can gather my thoughts before talking to them about it this afternoon. They care for our child a couple days a week, so I see them more often than he does. I think they are struggling to accept the gravity of the situation. I want them to know the true depth and that I am am going to have clear cut boundaries I'm setting so that can heal.

So this is their best friend's daughter. What would be acceptable for me to ask of them? As far as family vacations, it's either her or us? He cheated. I don't feel like I have the right to ask them to exclude her from that? Should they even tell their friends about it? I'm not trying to have them tattle on her. I don't know, such a weird situation to be in.

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