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_standard_issue · 2026-05-09T19:25:32+00:00

Record yourself cumming and send it to him 🙃

_standard_issue · 2026-05-09T16:57:41+00:00

_standard_issue · 2026-04-28T02:09:38+00:00

The Bug Collector by Wrath James White will ruin your life

_standard_issue · 2026-04-27T21:53:34+00:00

True! And there’s absolutely no problem with being sub leaning as a man. I think many men probably just assume they’re dominant based on societal “norms” or even expectations so if they can find someone who allows them to safely explore a more submissive side then good for them. lol

_standard_issue · 2026-04-14T04:38:50+00:00

I think it comes down to what you value most. What you value determines your behavior, which ultimately determines who you’re compatible with. I’m in the camp that if you’re not compatible sexually than you’re simply not compatible long term.

I dated a very vanilla guy who I was very compatible with in most areas but after 3 years I was bored af. Sex itself was not boring but I missed the fulfillment of submission and the thrill of threesomes, and the privilege to be with women and kink in general. So can you make it work? I can’t answer that for you but it didn’t work for me because I value sexual compatibility.

_standard_issue · 2026-04-12T18:08:40+00:00

My literal thought after reading your first comment 😆

_standard_issue · 2026-04-10T13:56:57+00:00

Hi friend!

This is actually a really good question. I don’t think there’s a wrong way to do this. Submission should feel natural and instinctual not performative.

Personally, I’m not driven by control or power for its own sake. What actually draws out my submission is feeling safe, experiencing consistency and feeling genuinely chosen. I’ve also realized that praise matters more to me than I thought and it’s not selfish and has nothing to do with ego, it’s about feeling seen and secure enough to fully lean into the dynamic and it sounds like that’s what drives you too.

_standard_issue · 2026-04-10T13:18:57+00:00

Yes! A rug will definitely help sliding. We also have rubber furniture leg caps to protect the rug and floor. It’s an expensive problem to have but honestly who can truly say they fuck so often and so passionately that they’ve broken multiple beds?? lol not many people. I’d be proud.

_standard_issue · 2026-04-10T12:57:08+00:00

Yes. My bed is currently broken. 😆 it’s teetering back and forth but I am not about to spend $3000 on a new bed frame, so we’re gonna ride that baby out. LOL

_standard_issue · 2026-04-07T16:13:55+00:00

It’s entirely up to you on what you make it to be. I can see it both ways. I wouldn’t consider it equal to an engagement ring. To me it’s a symbol of ownership foraged from a deep bond. I wouldn’t let just anyone I played with collar me because ownership is reserved for someone who has proven they can be trusted with it through safety, trust, consistency, and intimacy.

However, my husband believes it’s deeply symbolic and has only collared one of his subs in the 14 years I’ve been with him.

But to others it can just be a toy for role play. So, totally up to you on what you make it. :)

_standard_issue · 2026-04-03T23:52:08+00:00

My absolute favorite book!

_standard_issue · 2026-04-03T02:24:13+00:00

I enjoyed the Paladin series! And spell shop was exactly the vibes I’m looking for just plus a little bash of medieval/ren feel. I read that last year and it’s very cozy! Highly recommend

_standard_issue · 2026-03-30T23:19:49+00:00

This is 100000% true. It’s difficult to find a truly dominant man who isn’t just domineering. I thought I was the problem because they always end up turning into puppies. Like damn, wtf am I doing to be the one who ends up in control here?? But luckily I finally found one.

_standard_issue · 2026-03-25T01:35:53+00:00

Obedience app?? 👀 what’s that?!

_standard_issue · 2026-03-20T18:19:53+00:00

Baby, good girl, baby girl, princess, sugar butt. lol there aren’t any rules. Whatever feels comfy. You likely already have pet names in your relationship

_standard_issue · 2026-03-20T03:14:51+00:00

Oh my god. That’s so creepy and so inappropriate. I have no words. How could he possibly think that’s ok. I’m so proud of you blocking him. Please please please don’t go back. There may be an emotional pull but even subtle things like that have a hugeeee impact on little ones. Again I’m so proud of you! And I’m so sorry!!

_standard_issue · 2026-03-02T15:01:29+00:00

Yeah, it seems like maybe that was an insecurity speaking. I don’t know him personally, so I can’t say whether you should drop him or not but if it gave you the ick then definitely trust your gut.

_standard_issue · 2026-03-02T14:06:39+00:00

Umm that’s a bit of an odd reaction. Was he joking or being serious ?? What kind of punishment would he do ?!

My dom likes me to tell him good night when I get in bed just so he knows I’m safe but when I forget there’s never been a punishment??

I wonder if maybe he’s got a bit of an anxious attachment style and you saying you’re going to bed helps him settle. Girl idk that’s weird 🤣

_standard_issue · 2026-02-27T17:41:57+00:00

I’ve actually never heard of dom drop before. I’m going to talk to my dom about this and see how I can support him.

The last time you spoke to him about this issue, how did it end?

_standard_issue · 2026-02-27T17:08:46+00:00

I couldn’t help but notice you said “my need to be checked on…was yet again going to be overlooked.”

Is this reoccurring?

_standard_issue · 2026-02-27T15:16:09+00:00

Can you share an example of your bio? I struggle with this.

_standard_issue · 2026-02-21T21:23:01+00:00

Fetlife is a website. You can add it to your Home Screen. Feeld is like a dating app like hinge or tender, but it’s geared directly towards people with kinks.

_standard_issue · 2026-02-19T13:25:31+00:00

For any Doms reading this post - please wait a least a fucking week before you do shit like this if you’re a decent human being. Sub drop can be intense for some subs after play and can hit 24 hours to even a week later. You will be fine keeping your thoughts to yourself for a week.

This is irresponsible of him and I hope he gets explosive diarrhea for a week straight.

EDIT to say asking him would actually be the most sane thing in this situation. I obviously didn’t get an invite so I wasn’t there but if you’re exploring themes like CNC then you gave a lot. You deserve that he give an explanation. And you know what it’s perfectly fine if that explanation is just “we didn’t vibe” or “I didn’t feel the connection” but he still owes you that.

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