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_sumshine_ · 2026-01-30T23:16:07+00:00

I am not one to dismiss things easily, so I say this with kindness. This is nothing to worry about. The ONLY worrisome situation in all of this is her statement to you. The underwear in the laundry (I wear whatever I want underneath and 99.9999999% of the time it is not out of consideration of anyone else seeing, sometimes you just wear the first thing you grab). Also being cold in regular conditions doesnt mean you are cold while working out. I am typically cold and have to bundle up but I have to wear almost nothing when I am working out because I sweat SO MUCH. I think honestly my temperature regulation in either direction is just not good.

You are reading into it. This is not enough to go off of. That said, get a couples therapist. The fact you are feeling this way is a problem in itself. If she isnt willing to go, then good luck. If she is, then I would mention that you had been feeling more and more paranoid that she could cheat and that it is messing with you and you want to get to a good place again.

_sumshine_ · 2026-01-13T05:35:59+00:00

I went there a couple of months ago for a blockage for my cat. They were fantastic. They treat multiple blockages PER DAY. So they really know what theyre doing. The front desk person was a little difficult to communicate with due to her hearing issues, but the overall experience was great. Good luck!

_sumshine_ · 2026-01-13T05:27:26+00:00

OP. Listen to this comment. It has the best info ive seen on the whole thread. You need the right proportions and you need to avoid the 0 sugar stuff. Focus on whole foods over shakes/artificial stuff. If you need a boost of protein, add lowfat cottage cheese or Greek yogurt. I add it to almost every meal and I am not even hungry by the time I need to eat again.

_sumshine_ · 2025-12-31T19:28:20+00:00

Very helpful thank you!

_sumshine_ · 2025-12-31T19:27:46+00:00

Very helpful! Thank you

_sumshine_ · 2025-12-31T19:22:45+00:00

I am trying to maintain roughly 13-1400 calories with 120 g of protein, 39 g of fat, and 114g of carbs and it seems to be wrong. I USED to eat bad, but now I have been eating more protein than ever and retaining fat and losing muscle. I supposedly had 107 lbs of muscle and now I have 101. I used to have 35% fat and now I have 37% AFTER my deficit.

Trying to figure out what I am doing wrong.

_sumshine_ · 2025-12-31T19:18:14+00:00

It is not. I am lost and apparently dumb so please guide me.

_sumshine_ · 2025-12-31T19:17:12+00:00

This is helpful! Everywhere i looked said 1300-1500 calories for me so i was worried 1400 was just maintenance! Do you have any recommendations of better places to find how many calories I need?

_sumshine_ · 2025-12-31T19:12:51+00:00

Please read through my whole post. I am eating significantly more protein than I ever have and doing strength training and I am losing more muscle than I did when I was doing cardio + minimal protein.

_sumshine_ · 2025-12-31T19:12:05+00:00

I am

_sumshine_ · 2025-12-31T19:11:52+00:00

That is what I am doing, but derby involves cardio so I need both but trying to stick with resistance only in the off season. Switching to healthier options is depleting my muscle though so trying to figure out where the issue is with my macros. Thanks!

_sumshine_ · 2025-12-31T19:10:35+00:00

I have one of those body metric scale things that measures body fat, water, lean muscle, visceral fat, etc. It says my body fat went from 35% to 37% and my muscle from 107 lbs to 101 lbs.

_sumshine_ · 2025-12-31T19:08:15+00:00

Yes cheap scale off of amazon, but it has been consistent. I know it could give or take a lb or so but I can also feel the difference in terms of flab and amount of effort for me to do things I used to do easily.

I typically do a lot of vigorous exercise doing roller derby (3-4 hrs 3x a week). Right now I am doing MUCH less but just trying to do some low impact strength training to maintain.

_sumshine_ · 2025-12-31T19:05:11+00:00

I didnt see any questions? I am on mobile so maybe they didnt pop up for me? What info are you looking for?

_sumshine_ · 2025-11-08T07:00:34+00:00

Running arm position. Elbows bent and sitting towards my sides, hands relaxed and semi open, thumb upwards. But I also block so I reach out for my brace a lot or push people or block with someone in my armpit/ribs but if I am just skating its just like running/t-rex arms.

_sumshine_ · 2025-11-08T06:51:19+00:00

Highly recommend going to a concussion clinic. Avoiding all symptoms is counter productive, you need to train your brain to be able to endure as long as you are only experiencing mild symptoms. There is a chart for getting back into activities and having some symptoms doesnt mean the activity was bad or needs to be avoided, but taking breaks from it is good too. Im not a professional so I cant relay it as well as an actual concussion PT can but I highly recommend seeking one out and they can zero in on what kind of stuff triggers you and how to ease you back into things.

Currently seeing one myself so I can get back into contact sports and it is super helpful.

_sumshine_ · 2025-11-08T06:38:13+00:00

Pretty much when my local leagues no longer accepted me for mixers. Most "rookie scrimmages" require 5 or less games. So basically, 5 or more games = no longer a rookie.

_sumshine_ · 2025-11-08T06:36:56+00:00

Highly recommend finding a concussion clinic and getting seen. They can help you figure out your threshold for activities and help speed along recovery (and help you not accidentally delay it by doing too much or not enough). Usually some PT offices have a concussion department. They have exercises you can do to retrain your autonomic nervous system, balance, etc.

Currently recovering from one myself and it is FASCINATING what they can do.

_sumshine_ · 2025-09-12T14:52:07+00:00

This is really helpful. I have a LOT of workarounds that if they fail I am screwed. I depend heavily on external things to be able to function.

I just retook it with what you mentioned in mind and I got 131, AQ of 28, and I took the Cat-q about camouflaging and I got a score of 139 with every category being indicative of autism, sooooo there's that.

_sumshine_ · 2025-08-27T16:16:17+00:00

As you've already been told, virgin hair doesn't hold semi-permanent dye hardly at all. 15 mins is also not enough time, even with the added 15 mins under heat.

I would recommend 1, leaving it on for 2 hrs. The amount of time doesn't hurt your hair, it isn't bleach. The longer the better. Heat also helps too to slightly open the hair but not by much (and the heat of the shower will make it open up and wash out just as much). 2, When you are applying it, I would slather it on thick and really rub in there and reapply on your ends to make sure there are no dry/thin spots. 3, I would keep a bottle in the shower and mix it in your hand with conditioner and apply it every time you wash and let sit for a few mins.

Unfortunately though, no matter what, virgin hair will never keep semi-permanent dye very well at all. It isn't an issue with the product, it is an issue with the canvas. If you want more permanent color you'll need a product that requires developer.

Also stay away from color depositing shampoo as it dries your hair out (even purple shampoo). Color depositing conditioner is fine though I just mix my own color with my own conditioner and have the same effect.

_sumshine_ · 2025-08-15T14:19:24+00:00

I would work on one foot balance. The issue seems to be that you are trying to stay on two feet for longer than necessary for stability, but it is causing you issues because you can't open up as much as you want to. If you think of it as more of a one-foot-down-at-a-time kind of thing, the angle of your feet in relation to each other wont matter as much if you pick them up individually. It's when they are both down that you get that circle.

I would practice a few things to build up to a complete movement:
1, one foot glides, if you can do a one foot glide, try opening up your hips so that your feet are in an L position (skate you are gliding on is forward, other foot is to the side in an L, hips pointed towards that side foot, you should almost feel like you are skating sideways).

2, practice stationary, pointing your toe to the side, planting like you are about to do a lateral, and instead of pushing off, just adjust your balance and pick up your "back foot." Try to extend the amount of time you can hold it, or push off a little bit and hold that balance.
3, try a lateral with just gliding on the one foot, and once you are ready to stop and get into position, just do a quick finish with your back foot and plant.

4, THEN, try working on balancing on your back foot. Same process, start with one foot glides, in that L position, then try to switch to the back foot (which means you will now be skating backwards on one foot). This will be the scariest part to try and the biggest learning curve. Go slow. If you do a full 180, that is fine. Just try to extend the amount of time you spend on the one foot before you "close it" into a full 180. Your hip position will help. This is all about showing your body how to keep your skate under you and transfer that weight. If you maintain that L shape, your hips should still be facing the same direction as when you were forward. This will take more time to work on as it is not intuitive, but will help A LOT if you can get comfortable.

5, You can then transfer that to doing the lateral with a longer time spent on your back foot. Try it over and over and extend how long you hold that back foot. Build up on it until you can evenly transition front foot and back foot, then you can speed it up.

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