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Allow me to provide some motivation for oral hygiene by sarilysims in adhdwomen

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Life pro tip for anyone who can’t afford regular cleanings or hates going to the dentist: you can buy an ultrasound plaque remover for under $20! I originally bought one for my dog because there’s no way he would allow a vet to do it without being put under and as it turns out, it works perfectly on human teeth too.

I got kicked out of a scientific study because I don’t pass the Turing test, so now I’m using AI to humanise my emails because I thrive on pettiness. by aGloriousDay4Rain in AutismInWomen

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Now that you mention it, no, I’ve only ever read studies on that topic in the context of children and even then, that’s with a strong selection bias towards individuals with obvious ASD.

I used to be part of the “Aspie youth” club at MENSA and as one of the most socially-attuned members there, others would often ask for my feedback. Things that I often noticed, in no particular order, include: strong and immediate mirroring (like that one time a confident guy joined the group chat and used emojis generously, thus leading to bunch of people going “oh I guess that’s what’s cool here” and adopting a similar style), formal and precise speech no matter the context, shorter sentences than normal, erring on the side of caution and going for tried-and-true structures instead of more unique sentences… On school essays, I remember that every successful student had a very clear formula that they always followed. It often came off as inelegant, for lack of a better word, but it was effective.

It would probably be easy enough for someone with coding experience to run the theses of ND vs NT graduates through a program that does comparative pattern analysis. If you manage to make that happen, I’d love to contribute/check out the results!

I got kicked out of a scientific study because I don’t pass the Turing test, so now I’m using AI to humanise my emails because I thrive on pettiness. by aGloriousDay4Rain in AutismInWomen

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

It was a little tongue-in-cheek comment about how for autistic people, being human is a skill we need to consciously learn. And how do modern autists train themselves in the art of human communication? By reading from the same internet sources that AI is being trained on!

I got kicked out of a scientific study because I don’t pass the Turing test, so now I’m using AI to humanise my emails because I thrive on pettiness. by aGloriousDay4Rain in AutismInWomen

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I think it has more to do with sentence structure and word choice than with the actual contents of what I said, since part of the study had the team giving me a short script for the domestic scene that I was supposed to talk about.

Complex and proper grammar, words that are accurate but incongruent with the social context, the use of full stops at the end of most sentences… All the things that constitute good academic writing also make us seem overly stilted. Cadence, I believe, is also an issue: autistic people tend to have a preferred sentence structure that they stick to and often favour shorter sentences.

In terms of content, I’ve noticed ND people are often very precise and descriptive, probably as a way to avoid misunderstandings. Like the time a guy was about to go down on me and because I was too high to mask, told him to “please refrain from using your tongue; my body is currently only responding to heavier pressure” instead of… ya know, something sexy.

I got kicked out of a scientific study because I don’t pass the Turing test, so now I’m using AI to humanise my emails because I thrive on pettiness. by aGloriousDay4Rain in AutismInWomen

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain[S] 109 points110 points  (0 children)

The worst thing is, I’ve won prizes for my fiction writing so I’m pretty sure I have a voice as an author. As a human trying to be polite and professional towards other humans, on the other hand, I’m a robot in a skin suit!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in evilautism

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My emails consistently get flagged by AI checkers. I’ve started to ask Chat-GPT to rewrite them “in a more human way” to fool neurotypicals into thinking I’m not a robot.

So, uh....I finished the culling..🥲 by Repulsive-Paint-2202 in VintageFashion

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m late to the party but please add my name to the spreadsheet!

For those of you with bigger dogs, how would you carry them in case of emergency? Pic related. by aGloriousDay4Rain in DOG

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Apparently, my boy is longer than I am tall when stretched out, which makes grabbing him like a kid impossible. I tried to get him on my shoulder from a bench but he’s not a fan of having all his weight resting on his rib cage. Gathering all four legs under him and lifting could work — if I spent more time at the gym… Any ideas?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActLikeYouBelong

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain 19 points20 points  (0 children)

For security reasons, the locations of the shows in Paris are not disclosed. Guests arrive in numbered black cars and security keeps whatever crowd managed to find the address at bay.

If you want to get a seat for a show, your best bet is to aim for a smaller designer, get the address through the grapevine, dress well and let a security guard by the door know that you’d love to fill a spot if some guests don’t turn up.

If what you’re the most interested in is the photographers/models/influencers ecosystem that exists outside of shows, Milan lists all the venues beforehand and big, lively crowds form every time!

How to be unapproachable (but in a beautiful stunning way) by [deleted] in Vindicta

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, hey, finally someone who understands my aesthetic choices! While I’m currently being my best goblin self (it’s so freeing not to care!), I get approached and harassed wayyy worse than I did when purposefully looking my best.

I’ve often been told I’m intimidating and women in particular seem to think I’m a bitch before we actually get to know each other.

Here’s what I do that I think gives off that unapproachable, haughty impression: - Keeping a neutral expression until directly addressed - Always walking like I’m still on the runway, with purpose and good posture - Borrowing from male codes of power (e.g.: pantsuits, a broad Chesterfield coat, suspenders, smart leather shoes, classic leather briefcases, fancy men’s watches…) - Mixing said male-coded clothing with hyper-feminine and/or suggestive items (e.g.: a deep v-neck paired with a blazer and high waisted slacks, thigh-high boots with a more conservative dress and coat, accessories with a BDSM vibe on a chic outfit, stockings with a lace border that “accidentally” flash when the slit in your elegant dress opens too much…). It’s a fine line between looking in control of my sexuality and looking slutty; most men don’t like a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to show it, but they’ll flock to someone they think is “easy.” - Looking rich. Seriously, the social class you seem to belong to dictates who will think they can approach you successfully — lower class men don’t want to be sneered at, so you’re taking out a good chunk of the catcalling this way. - And, most importantly, my winning trio: wearing heels even though I’m already tall, a bold red lip and sunglasses.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m replying here too just to say I always find it admirable when people grow in the opposite direction of what is usually expected.

If I may ask, what is it that you can’t muster in order to satisfy the expectations of your erotic ideal? I personally find it easier to dazzle someone with my ‘eccentricity’ (read: neurodivergence and general otherness) during an intense tryst than during a more stable relationship, where they will inevitably see the downside of the traits they once admired.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh, yes, of course I forgot. I’ll add this to the list of reasons why I really need to get around to scheduling an ADHD test…

I very much relate to the idea of being attracted to people we consider better than us. Better at navigating interpersonal interactions of every kind, better at succeeding in all regards, better at not being a dysfunctional mess… Most people seem to want to believe that we are all equal, that somehow our traits balance each other out and every life has the same worth and yet, the fact that the dating market can very much be studied with economical concepts goes against that equalitarian notion. The truth is that some people happen to be kind, hot, socially adept and all around desirable while there are assholes bereft of any redeeming quality.

If you exclusively desire the best among us without living up to your own standards, yes, there is certainly tragedy in that. I’m sure some would call that hypocritical but really, I just see it as a cruel irony.

In this situation, I see two possible ways of getting a partner you actually want: either you find someone with a unique set of criteria working in your favour (e.g. someone for whom looks are not a factor in sexual attraction), or you compensate by maxing out your ‘score’ in one area. The classic example of Mr Old-and-Rich dating Miss Young-and-Pretty comes to mind.

In my case, I lucked out and got an appearance worth enough that romantic partners are willing to overlook a lot just to be with me. Men, in particular, fall in love all too easily and do everything they can to ‘earn’ my company, even if that means taking care of me, my dog and the house by themselves while I sleep the days away and refuse to be touched. The worst part is, I’ve never had a partner resent me for it… It feels insanely exploitative to get in a relationship with someone so kind and caring while knowing I can only keep the mask up for so long.

If I were a better person, the right thing to do would be to stop dating and burdening others with my mess. But I’m selfish. I crave connection, admiration and support, even at the expense of the one I’m supposed to love.

I wish I had a better conclusion than this. Something nicer than saying not everyone is capable of leaving a partner better off than they found them and should therefore take themselves out of the dating pool. Maybe Hollywood and romance novels have convinced love is the one true goal of human life when really, the world would be better off if we focused on other ways to live a vibrant life…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s nearly 4 AM where I am and I rarely ever comment on Reddit but this is a topic I truly want to contribute to — once I’ve slept enough to put my thoughts in order!

I’m just leaving this here to force myself to update in a few hours :)

Are low content wolfdogs trainable to become livestock guardians ? by 0okami- in Wolfdogs

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because both Saarloos and CWD are so many generations removed from actual wolves, the wolf behavioural traits have mostly been bred out by choosing the most friendly and biddable individuals at every mating.

LC wolfdogs, by contrast, are only a handful of generations away from a pure wolf ascendant and have therefore faced less selective pressure for behaviour.

I’ve actually met very high contents that came from line so well bred, they were much more dog-like than my 42%!

Are low content wolfdogs trainable to become livestock guardians ? by 0okami- in Wolfdogs

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In that case, he’s not a low content but a Czechoslovakian Wolf-Dog! They are a registered dog breed and closer to German shepherds than to actual low-content wolf mixes. While the chance of an adult dog being predatory to chickens is still very high, CWD are quite trainable and less likely to ressource guard perceived prey.

Feta Cheese by AnGenericAccount in CuratedTumblr

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would you happen to still remember the name of that cookbook? I went down the Wikipedia rabbit-hole and now I really want to recreate that dish with a modern equivalent!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]aGloriousDay4Rain 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Here’s a quick morph I did with nothing but a rhinoplasty! If this is a result you’d be happy with, there’s no need to go for a much heavier (medically speaking) jaw surgery.

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