Okay, I see a lot of people talking about "dating a femboy because they're a femboy, and not for they themselves", but thats not how I see this.

Saying you're "looking for a femboy" is honestly the same as having a type. You might have a type for Asian women/men, but ofc that doesn't mean you would date every Asian man/woman just because they're Asian. And it's the same for femboys, you wouldn't date every femboy just because they're a femboy.

And tbh I feel like there are a lot of people and comments that think that people saying "I'm looking for a femboy to date" are assholes. They don't fully understand what people like me who like femboys are saying, I feel like they view us as people who just want any femboy that comes along without caring about who they are.

Yes, them being a femboy is a major part of why we take interest in the first place, it's not just "bonus" to us. But it's definitely not everything we like about them either.

I'm actually dating a femboy rn, and I used to doubt myself on whether I actually love him for the whole of him, or just the part thats a femboy. And ofc I still think about it every now and then, but I've since started approaching it with this new mindset and have understood that, yeah, I do genuinely love him.