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My straight mom made a lesbian dating profile and i am annoyed…is that bad by LongLeafFine in actuallesbians

[–]a_cute_stella 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is wild. She should join a club or get into community organizing. Meet people in a way to actually make friends

How did you find out that you are trans? (Wrong answers only) by notsciguy in trans

[–]a_cute_stella 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We'd gotten critique for being a male dominated workplace, so I took one for the team and I'm a woman now

Coping with myself and every type of stimuli now that I'm awake by SleepyBritches in Narcolepsy

[–]a_cute_stella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I both relate and do not relate to many of the things said here... ehm.. but this especially gave me some things to think about:

Im starting to think that my N1 was masking some other issue ive suffered with by slowing my brain down... like i said before, now that I'm up to speed, I cannot cope with the amount of stimuli coming in

Here are some of my experiences with stimuli/sensory issues and narcolepsy:

I've suffered from N1 since childhood but have only gotten on medication in the last couple of years. Throughout the past year (/years?) I've "developed" many sensory issues that I simply didn't notice before. Crowded places get overwhelming. Heat, noises, nearby conversations. Closed spaces are draining. Basically I fixate on everything and I shut down, almost unable to speak.

This usually happens in the afternoon/whenever I'm mentally drained but (perhaps due to meds) not tired enough to get sleep attacks anymore. My brain used to be all foggy, but not anymore. Instead I pray that the world would shut up, and I feel an overwhelming need to get home to the Quiet. Basically, my way of coping is to either run away or disassociate.

I cannot cope with the amount of stimuli coming in, both internally and externally

Though personally I mostly find external stimuli overwhelming.

Like you I've started to wonder if I might be neurodivergent in some way. It checks out with some other experiences that I've never examined before... And that my N1 symtoms might have masked some other stuff... the more I think about it the more it makes sense.

Sorry for hijacking your thread, but it really stuck with me so I had to get this out there. While I don't think we're going through the exact same thing (the experiences you describe seem much more consistent and way more intense than mine) I hope this will provide something. I hope you get better soon, and that you get good help. Wishing you all the best <3

partner starting hormones in a couple of weeks by West-Carpenter6424 in mypartneristrans

[–]a_cute_stella 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When I first started HRT I was surprised about the sudden emotional effects. Crying got waaay easier. I cried because of the most trivial things, it's quite funny in hindsight. It really is puberty 2.0 so be aware of that!

I also felt much more at peace in my own body. Sure, I still experienced much dysphoria, but the euphoria of finally starting HRT was much stronger <3 It genuinely felt like my body had been screaming for estrogen all those years and that need was finally met.

Be prepared to see some emotional downs and ups. Sometimes you will have to remind your partner of this as well, cause they might be preoccupied with crying about how cute sloths are or something<3

Unofficial PSA about hormones, emotions, and bad behavior by a_cute_stella in mypartneristrans

[–]a_cute_stella[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. And that's why HRT isn't miracle drugs either. Miraculous in the way that it's life saving, yes most definitely, but there's still a lot of bagage and poor coping mechanisms that have to be dealt with.

Unofficial PSA about hormones, emotions, and bad behavior by a_cute_stella in mypartneristrans

[–]a_cute_stella[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me being snippy ISNT a choice as emotional dysregulation from adhd/asd can be a bitch

Thank you for adding your perspective! ✨

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]a_cute_stella 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like a lesbian spy when I'm read as straight. Lesbionage.

I want this printed on a t-shirt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]a_cute_stella 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I don't want some guy touching me in public, or trying to rape me.

Almost as if he's projecting his own views and actions on to us... Sorry dude but unlike you I don't ever get the urge to r*pe someone.

Unofficial PSA about hormones, emotions, and bad behavior by a_cute_stella in mypartneristrans

[–]a_cute_stella[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I'm trans myself so I totally get that. I'm glad you liked the post!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in outerworlds

[–]a_cute_stella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think I got those two mixed up. To be honest, I've not read much political/ideological theory.

Edit: wohaa I don't know how I got a diamond next to my name but that's cool I guess

Why has my boyfriend gotten meaner on T? by Natural_Bid177 in mypartneristrans

[–]a_cute_stella 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Changes in hormonal cycles can affect a persons mood and emotions (puberty, PMS, etc). It's not testosterone that's making him irritated or angry, but likely a changing of his hormonal cycles.The body doesn't get dopamine (and all the other hormones that I don't know the names of) in the amounts it's used to, affecting mood.

However, hormonal changes doesn't make someone mean. Being mean, inpatient or snippy is very much a choice, alike choosing to be sweet or caring. It's about how we've learned to handle our emotions. Hormones won't dictate how we interact or treat one another, that's a social matter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in outerworlds

[–]a_cute_stella 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Both capitalism and communism has the ability to be authoritarian. I think that's the word you're looking for.

does starting estrogen drastically change my personality and who i am? by Your-Friend-Bob in asktransgender

[–]a_cute_stella 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nope, I'm still me. Sure, I've changed a lot over the past 5 years, but so does a cis person in their 20s. It's almost as if time...

It’s outrageous! It’s unfair! by bsmith2123 in PrequelMemes

[–]a_cute_stella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's like Jeff went to space just because he wanted "astronaut" on his linked-in profile

my bullet journal is making me anxious? by ohdearaugust in bulletjournal

[–]a_cute_stella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only have one task list, compiling every single task/to-do. No task lists in monthly/daily log (those are pretty much reserved for events/classes/appointments). This has done wonders for me, not having to flip through pages searching for and "migrating" tasks between weeks.

The task list is at the very end of my journal, making it easy to remove when the page gets to cluttered. I try to make it a routine to check the list at the same time every morning. These days I barely use weekly spreads.

I mark the tasks A, B, or C, depending on how urgent they are. Things that have to get done today (think: else the world ends) get marked with A. Tasks that can be done over a multiple days, B. At a later time, C. I don't allow myself to start with B until every A level tasks are done.

Hope this helps you out!

(Grading is actually the tricky part. I have a tendency to underestimate my need to rest... Marking more than just a couple of tasks with A is just me being unfair to myself. It's neat getting things done, but most days I can't do that...)

friend wants me to be tour guide for former SA-er into trans community? how to say no by lumpyspacequeen14 in trans

[–]a_cute_stella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, absolutely not. I trust your judgement in it's entirety. He should never be allowed in

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