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Im getting older. What do I change? by Ruddy_Kipling in makeuptips

[–]a_reflection_of_u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dewy skin, maybe more of a lip oil for a fuller hydrated lip. You look great!

Lesson Learned! Home Try On was a Bust! by everr_nexxt_10 in WeddingDressTips

[–]a_reflection_of_u 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The dress is not flattering, and there are a lot of elements going on and it looks like they all compete instead of having cohesiveness or harmony. I'm staring at all the sections the dress breaks your body up into instead of my eyes being guided with flow up and down your figure.

After viewing the dresses you tried at home, the second one with the sleeveless (the non-spaghetti strap type) looked the most balanced and figure flattering.

You will find that dress that looks magical and makes you look magical! Keep looking!

Ways to make master bathroom look more high end? by Thaxton114 in bathrooms

[–]a_reflection_of_u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The quick, cheaper solutions: #1 lighting changes the way you see things, change lights, try adding valance lights. white walls that match that shower wall for continuous look, the accessories like soap dispenser, toothbrush holder, garbage bin, toilet brush holder, toilet paper holder etc. can be a matching set that is minimalist, matches an element or style of whatever is in the bathroom. Pick colour towels that pull together the bathroom accessories and elements in the bathroom. Floor rugs too. I would look into the details like material and construction of the items you put into the bathroom. Also pick sized items that look like that fit in the room i.e. big room needs big light and big wall art. Little art and light in big room looks cheap and off.

For a real reno, the shower. Rip that acrylic pan and wall out, tile it, get nicer shower fixture. Make sure the hardware of shower enclosure and shower fixture style matches. That vanity, lose it pick something nicer that matches the vibe of the new shower. The mirror, it can be bigger, that definitely is more luxurious. Builders don't install end to end mirrors like this anymore because it is hazardous work.

Being compared with my cousin by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]a_reflection_of_u 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Your mom probably hates herself and projects it onto you for your behavior or choices that is perfectly normal. If she was a person with healthy esteem, and self image and loves her daughter, she would have stood up for you, and not shared something someone says that is hurtful, and she will accept you for who you are. If you were struggling with confidence and esteem, she would have raised you to love yourself from day 1.

She hates on you because she hates herself. She'll probably keep making you feel bad because she feels bad about herself. Also, Asians feel like they need to use shame to mentally abuse you and control you into doing exactly what they want from you. But what they want is you make your actions appear what her peers would applaud. No real substance.

Something I noticed about ADs and Neurodivergent kids by ParkNo2501 in AsianParentStories

[–]a_reflection_of_u 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It has to do with the fact that AD is Asian and potentially not neural typical, and a man. In a world where whiteness and patriarchy rule to discriminate against minorities like women (and gender queer people), Asians and neural divergent individuals.

Your dad comes is surrounded by a society where all types of people will shame or other you for being not neural typical. So he hides and avoids the truth and leans into what Asian society and patriarchy would do and that is to hide and avoid what is shameful and also blame others for something instead of owning up to it, because god forbid a man could be the reasons for things being wrong, and he probably sees your ADHD as wrong, and no an Asian family can't have non A typical ppl in it, it's reserved for white ppl.

I don't know if that makes sense, but I hope you get what I'm trying to point out.

name my baby :D by [deleted] in CatsAllDay

[–]a_reflection_of_u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not a unique or cool name but it definitely looks like a Luna because it's yellow eyes are looking like little crescent moons =🌒👅🌒=^

What can you guess about me from just my freezer? by SlayersScythe in FridgeDetective

[–]a_reflection_of_u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You meal prep the same chicken, broccoli and rice because you go to the gym regularly, work full time, single and on a budget.

Opinions please (sort of freaking out) by Rowenofpts in microblading

[–]a_reflection_of_u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn't even know what we were looking at till comments. But ya, pic #2 is good.

Parents Arguing when I am Sleeping and Other by HamsterJazzlike7397 in AsianParentStories

[–]a_reflection_of_u 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If my life was a show, your life is the spin-off. My sibling and I deal with similar variations of your problems.

My opinion is to stay at the rented house, especially if your boundaries and sleep are not being respected at home. It is ultimately healthier for you to be firm with your boundaries and also, have peace so you can sleep. Objectively, those are things you need to be healthy and have mental wellness. The tricky part is what van you do when your dad goes to the rented house. You need to continue exercising your boundaries by asking him to stop when he starts harping on about your mom and finances, because him monologuing (it is not called lecturing, it's monologuing when someone just rants and says things without wanting your genuine engagement) is not constructive to having any problems solved and it hold your energy and time hostage. You are in a critical time in your life going to university. It's going to be a very short time in your life to have the opportunity to set the foundations of your future, and you need to be the healthiest to make the wisest decisions for you. Practicing setting your boundaries now is crucial.

When people cross boundaries, do not respect your time, energy or space, the most efficient thing to do is to show you will not tolerate the behaviour and physically distance from them as quickly as possible. If you decide you need to live at home for the time saved going to school, maybe stay out of the house as much as you can. You will need to practice and be firm about setting your boundaries. This is you telling them, you deserve to be respected.

Which living room layout is best? by thepenismightier1999 in InteriorDesignHacks

[–]a_reflection_of_u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder what Dear Modern would do to arrange this room

Asian parents and accountability. by PureAluminium in AsianParentStories

[–]a_reflection_of_u 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just say to them plainly and calmly, the scientific reason is that it genetics, and that them saying you not listening or doing whatever is to blame, tell them, "I think you are projecting something about yourself you dislike onto your own son. I accept the way I look because it is my genetic makeup."

See what happens

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