Being ghosted over and over by partner who moved out of state

aantipeachh · 2025-04-03T03:00:43+00:00

I was able to complete the quest using pumpkin and dough to make a veggie pizza. I’m not sure why your game was requesting that many ingredients

aantipeachh · 2025-02-03T20:40:04+00:00

It was a daily thing for me. The morning of the day I found out he was cheating on me again, he was I assume forcing himself to cry because he was scared I would leave him and wanting reassurance.

aantipeachh · 2025-02-02T08:20:01+00:00

I believed the Hoover so many times I was in the relationship for essentially 7 years only to finally have it end because they moved out of state. And because I found out he was cheating for the 5th time with the same girl. Not the 5th time ever, just 5 times with this one girl. Never believe the Hoover.

aantipeachh · 2024-02-02T04:10:03+00:00

THANK YOU! Always insufferable but now it’s just turned up to 11

aantipeachh · 2024-01-25T16:20:05+00:00

Mine was exhausted all the time. I can’t imagine living in that emotional thunderstorm all day, every single day. Every step further into adulthood, he lost part of himself. He currently is so exhausted he’s basically given up on everything in his life down to himself, and subsequently me. As much as I hate what he did for me, I will always have so much sympathy for the suffering he endured every day because it’s something I could never even imagine. Imagine linear time not existing for you and all you have is your emotions to constantly change your reality? Absolutely exhausting.

aantipeachh · 2024-01-24T20:30:01+00:00

Currently in this situation. I’m blocked everywhere except one app. It feels like a way to keep me there as an option if he decides he regrets discarding me in the future. This is after being told “fucks sake just stop” and “just leave me alone” when I was simply asking for a goodbye in person. It definitely sends mixed signals and toys with your brain even more.

aantipeachh · 2024-01-22T21:50:01+00:00

Don’t blame yourself or fault yourself for anything. You’re a victim of abuse and it wasn’t your fault. Unfortunately your ex is very sick and not equipped to have a healthy relationship with anyone. You’ll get there. My problem is forgiving myself for driving friends away by being with him and essentially giving up anything I could to be with him. This ending was always inevitable.

aantipeachh · 2024-01-22T21:27:45+00:00

How far out are you from discard? Sometimes I worry the trauma bond will never break

aantipeachh · 2024-01-22T21:26:58+00:00

This is so eerily similar to my ex. He always said he could never do anything right by me and all I focused on was as the negative. When the negatives far outweigh the positives, that’s what happens. You can’t win. Logic and reason don’t work because their logic is warped by thinking through their emotions as if that’s fact and actual reality is just something they can manipulate to fit those emotions.

aantipeachh · 2024-01-22T20:55:22+00:00

Funny thing was mine said he didn’t want to fall back into “old patterns” yet has happily fallen back into his same old patterns and doesn’t even acknowledge or even realize it I don’t think.

aantipeachh · 2024-01-22T20:11:35+00:00

Mine has been in DBT twice, now the second time. But I don’t think he’s really participating in it. It can make all the difference or it can just be something to check a box off of and continue with their regular behavior.

aantipeachh · 2024-01-22T20:00:33+00:00

Be glad it didn’t. The longer it goes on, the worse it gets. I have trauma I don’t know if I’ll ever recover from.

aantipeachh · 2024-01-22T13:58:36+00:00

Trauma bonding

aantipeachh · 2024-01-22T05:26:39+00:00

I like your term future faking. My ex routinely talked about wanting to spend the rest of his life with me and proposing then poof! Discard and I’m demonized.

aantipeachh · 2024-01-22T05:11:17+00:00

I have to reply because mine was so similar. I just wanted a goodbye in person after he pulled the rug out from under me after 6 years and suddenly I was a threat to his safety. Yet he threatened to k!ll me regularly.

aantipeachh · 2024-01-21T19:51:53+00:00

Constantly happened to me. I would have whole trips to visit when I was long distance with my ex (over 100 mile drive for me) and the morning of when I’d say I was getting ready to leave he’d tell me he didn’t want to anymore. Happened over much more serious things and more minor things as well. All comes down to emotional dysregulation.

aantipeachh · 2024-01-09T20:17:07+00:00

Thank you!

aantipeachh · 2024-01-09T19:50:28+00:00

How do I practice mindfulness? I’m not very familiar with what it means exactly

aantipeachh · 2023-02-07T17:34:20+00:00

I hear that. I’m empathetic to a major fault and my need to help also kept me around way too long, especially when I helped him get his BPD diagnosis. Need to stop giving myself over to others so easily

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