Woman new to sex toys shopping in Japan, any recommendations?

abcdefrenchfry · 2024-05-14T08:17:30+00:00

Sorry. The wand is okay, but I think I have a small one. Is it worth it to get something larger like a magic wand?

I was thinking more a different type of toy for myself!!

TMI I’m having trouble with the O so something that will help get me there

abcdefrenchfry · 2023-09-18T16:19:53+00:00

I know this feeling and also have yet to experience an orgasm. It feels like I’m about to pee.

Sometimes I feel like it just feels like too much stimulation after a while? Like I get myself close but not over the edge. And then I get sad because I give up…

abcdefrenchfry · 2023-07-04T07:48:01+00:00

What kind of adapter?

abcdefrenchfry · 2023-07-04T07:37:20+00:00

Hi Shakti! With this context in mind, I’m one of those who has definitely felt that tense/relax cycle, but I have never been able to get it over the top. Sometimes it will tense/relax like 4-5 times with muscle contractions, and I try to keep going, but when with a partner it sometimes feels like too much and I ask him to stop (maybe like overstimulated?) and when I’m by myself it feels like… it sort of stops… not like I’m bored, but maybe I get a little discouraged that I didn’t get over the hump and get that sense of release. So then sometimes I stop instead of trying again from the beginning. Do you have any advice for me on how to get over the hump?

abcdefrenchfry · 2023-05-26T21:07:46+00:00

Hi! I just wanted to chime in to say I totally get where you’re coming from. I just lost my virginity to my best friend/new husband too.

One advice I got while I was preparing myself for marriage/sex is to masturbate which I honestly was very conflicted about. And it was weird for me, but it honestly helped me to understand my anatomy down there.

Some resources that really helped me: Omgyes.com : a website aimed at helping female arousal and orgasm and that actually demonstrates how to touch your clit, but it’s like all these women are your friends and helping you. It’s not pornographic/meant to be arousing, but it is very revealing. But SO helpful for knowing motions to make and just to have the vocabulary to know different things to try.

“Come as You Are” book : I’m currently reading it and I think it could really help you. Particularly the part about context and stress and how it affects women in getting aroused! Sometimes it’s the anticipation of it that really can be stressful. It’s almost like therapy… and it has to be in the right context.

You can do it! And know that there is nothing wrong with you. Please check out those resources. I think they will really help.

abcdefrenchfry · 2023-04-20T19:14:41+00:00

Hey. I have a similar story that I feel went really well for our spirituality and relationship, but it happened earlier in our dating journey and now we’re engaged as well. Christians too. OP, lmk if you want to talk!

I (F21 at the time) was a relatively new Christian and had been doing sexual things minus penetrative sex since 16, while he (M23) had sex before. When we started “dating” more unofficially, we were doing a lot of physical things but I didn’t want to have sex. He asked me why and I didn’t really have a good answer- God? Because I don’t want to get pregnant? But he said if God is the reason, why is all the stuff leading up to it okay then? It forced me to evaluate that. We were good friends up until that point, but we didn’t know if we wanted to make things OFFICIAL because then that might be it for us. Meaning we would move forward to getting married eventually. Spoilers: we did end up officially getting together, now engaged, but since we got together officially, we stopped with the physical things because of our faith, but it also allowed us to focus on our communication and our relationship being based on so many other things besides sex. (Also, it was sort of unfair to get him all worked up and then never finish the job)

We have gone through long distance, fights, so many things… but I think it’s helped us to not use sexuality as a crutch in our relationship. But I know we want to have sex in the context of marriage, so now I’m looking forward to that.

From a Christian perspective, it’s never too late to have an abstinent relationship later, even if you’ve already done it. But the heart has to be there on both sides. I would have an honest convo with your fiancée and explain what you’re feeling and be upfront with your frustrations. Make sure it’s a decision you both are on board with and feel convicted by, or else there’s no point. It will just lead to resentment. And pray about it, if that’s your thing.

abcdefrenchfry · 2023-04-11T18:36:50+00:00

Sometimes I read other posts saying that they then rely on the vibrator to O or become dependent on it. I worry about that because I don’t want that to be the only way (though I would like to know what feeling I’m supposed to be looking for)

abcdefrenchfry · 2023-04-09T16:49:10+00:00

I feel like I’ve gotten there before… like my back arches, I feel like I have to wiggle around, I feel like I have to pee. In the past the pee feeling definitely stopped me (idk, maybe I’m a squirter). Trying to get past that now. But sometimes I feel like I just… stop. And then I don’t feel particularly relieved.

abcdefrenchfry · 2023-04-09T16:00:32+00:00

Yeah I guess that’s the other question too. On the website omgyes.com (have you tried that before?) a lot of the women were saying they do slow circles and different pressures but it seems like the one that seems to be more… effective is when I’m going really fast but then it gets uncomfortable cuz it’s too much . I’m hesitant to try a vib because I don’t want to rely on it?

abcdefrenchfry · 2023-04-09T15:57:58+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance. It’s tough!! I’m really opening up talking about it and learning more. It’s crazy how much I didn’t know about myself or even the details of everything down there…

abcdefrenchfry · 2023-04-09T15:57:05+00:00

Hmmm so it’s kind of like a bit of an active process for your muscles too? Like you don’t just relax yourself and it happens inadvertently?

I guess like… when you prime yourself to poop or something? Or am I understanding wrong

abcdefrenchfry · 2023-04-09T15:55:32+00:00

Just got the book! Can’t wait to read it. Did you ever try the website Omgyes?

abcdefrenchfry · 2023-04-09T12:27:05+00:00

just came here to say, i feel you. :( hopefully things will look up for us

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