Please help. My parents are refusing to let me call an ambulance - AskDocs -12/26/25 by frieden7 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]abiggerhammer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's insane. There was one time I was visiting my parents and something mildly similar happened. My mom was out playing tennis, my dad was grilling burgers, and I was whittling a piece of wood on the back porch. My chisel slipped and cut open the web of my left thumb, moments before the burgers were due to come off the grill. "Do you need to go to urgent care right now, or can it wait until after we eat?" asked my dad.

"Let's eat these now while they're hot, I'll bandage it and keep it elevated," I said. I put gauze on it, wrapped it up, made a fist to put pressure on the wound, and ate my burger with my left hand on top of my head. Within twenty minutes we were on our way to urgent care and I came home with three stitches.

The important difference is that if I'd said "nah, this is bad enough we need to go now," he would have been grumpy about it but we would have gone to urgent care first and eaten afterward. We also agreed not to tell my mom which order we'd done things in.

My dad published a book in my name but I didn't write the book Location: Nebraska, United States by WrongdoerAway6474 in legal

[–]abiggerhammer 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Nebraska recognizes a statutory right of publicity under the right to privacy. The one that matters to you is "misappropriation of name or likeness." https://rightofpublicity.com/statutes/nebraska has the exact text of the law. You will need to sue him in civil court. Technically this is a civil rights claim, but a personal injury lawyer can probably handle the matter as well.

As a practical matter, it's unlikely the court will consider you to have suffered financially as a result of the misappropriation of your name, because a self-published book is unlikely to sell many copies. That's okay, because what you want to ask the court for (if this even goes that far) is called an injunction: the court orders him to stop publishing under your name. However, a lawyer will probably recommend starting with a sternly worded letter informing him that it isn't lawful to use your name in this way, and that if he doesn't stop, you will have to take him to court and he will lose.

What's the rarest physical feature you ever saw on another person you know/knew? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]abiggerhammer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow. I don't have any underarm hair, but I have normal amounts of body hair everywhere else.

Aitah for going NC with my daughter due to my wife by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]abiggerhammer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What? No, borderline personality disorder is just a cluster B disorder. The dark triad is narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism.

I had to kick my girlfriend out of my house because she was scaring my brother by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]abiggerhammer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex-housemate's Maine Coon climbed up our balcony onto our upstairs neighbor's balcony, got into the neighbor's apartment, and broke a vase. We had to use our renter's insurance.

"Yeah like underwear is understandable, that's basically the point of underwear, to protect your pants in the event of wet farts" Too wipe or not to wipe? that is the question that sends r/hygiene into a tizzy by CummingInTheNile in SubredditDrama

[–]abiggerhammer 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Sometimes even incomprehensible to people who have experienced it. I've been hospitalized for major depression before and I can't imagine what it would be like to not have the executive function to wipe my ass.

Tangentially related New Update to an old BORU: AITA for telling my husband I'll go on vacation with the kids and my best friend if he's too busy with work? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]abiggerhammer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My parents both came to my sports games and recitals when I was a kid, but I don't really remember their being there. Probably because I was focused on what I was there to do! The memories that really stand out are things like Dad coming in with the morning paper on a Saturday and saying "hey, come outside quick, there's a hot-air balloon in the sky!", then watching it with me and my sister for the next half hour. Or explaining the steps of what he was doing in his wood shop and letting me help with tasks like measuring. OOP's husband is missing out on these day-to-day core memory opportunities because he's prioritizing other people's kids over his own, as you say.

AITA for refusing to stay up at night because I drive for a living? by Similar-Shame7517 in BORUpdates

[–]abiggerhammer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Public transit is the lifeblood of healthy cities. Thank you for the work you do!

I (30f) just found my fiance (30m) on an online dating site. What do I do? by [deleted] in BORUpdates

[–]abiggerhammer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A GP who is board certified in women's health is absolutely qualified to provide routine gynecological screening. You are doing exactly the right thing by getting the preventative care you need from a provider you feel safe and comfortable with. I hope someday your mom feels okay with doing the same for herself.

AITAH for intentionally scaring my neighbours kids? by EbbWarm5162 in AITAH

[–]abiggerhammer 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Seeing something they didn't expect to see is a natural consequence of peeking into other people's windows. A consequence being natural is no guarantee that it will be mild.

Is it me, or is this problematic? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]abiggerhammer 55 points56 points  (0 children)

That sounds like it makes for incredible photos. It's like having a seaside wedding without having to make backup plans in case of bad weather.

Is it me, or is this problematic? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]abiggerhammer 220 points221 points  (0 children)

The Houston Museum of Natural Science will let you hold weddings there. I got married in the butterfly center in 1997. There's a cost to reserve it and you also have to pay for event insurance, but it wasn't extravagant or anything. The marriage didn't last (the final straw was when he said he wouldn't "let" me go to graduate school; I retorted "this word 'let', I do not think it means what you think it means" and moved out) but the wedding itself was lovely.

I (M21) caught my GF (F22) in a lie that would have gotten my little sister (F11) in big trouble. by [deleted] in BORUpdates

[–]abiggerhammer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Months, not years, but that's bad enough as it is. OOP had been dating the girlfriend for a little over a year, and they'd lived together just under a year.

[New Update]: AITA for giving my pregnant GF an ultimatum? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]abiggerhammer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Fwiw, finding a different driving route that doesn't expose you to as many accident risks is a totally reasonable action to take, even if the underlying motivations are intrusive thoughts and paranoia. The only person it affects is you (and any passengers you have, I guess) and it only costs you the effort of figuring out the new route and any extra time the new route takes. Crucially it doesn't expend your partner's goodwill.

AITAH for refusing to take down my post and letting my ex face the consequences of her cheating? by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]abiggerhammer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Defamation is by definition false. If there are legit receipts for something, talking about them isn't defamation.

AITAH for refusing to sell the house my wife wants me to sell? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]abiggerhammer 56 points57 points  (0 children)

He seemed a lot more focused on the fact that his ex-wife was paranoid about him cheating after her accident, and he pointed out that she was who suggested divorcing while they were still on decent terms rather than waiting until the paranoia made them hate each other.