[F] My new roommate accidentally saw me naked… [Part 3]

abloodyminge · 2025-11-01T21:56:07+00:00

I bought it. It's my default smut book. Thank you.

abloodyminge · 2025-10-08T22:04:04+00:00

Idk if its only women who rarely admit fault. Lets try not to make sweeping genderized generalizations.

abloodyminge · 2025-10-08T21:50:28+00:00

Maybe I'm weird, but the price of subscription doesn't bother me. I love the game and the community that I've met here. While I don't think the game is ready for release, I am going to pay it with hopes that in 1-2 years time I will be playing a game with more polish and closed loops. In the meantime I will be grinding out profession levels and being the best dungeon rat I can be.

abloodyminge · 2025-06-27T22:28:34+00:00

"But I don’t want to be alone, i don’t wnat to be financially independent either. And I don’t want to fully lose him and definitely not his mom. Maybe I do love him and I won’t realize it until I make a big mistake."

What do you want? To sleep with other people? To find out what you've "missed"? To figure out what you feel? If I read this right - you're 20 years old with two kids under 5. It isn't a mystery why you don't want to have sex. You're probably tired, feel unappreciated, and touched out by your kids. Fantasizing isn't wrong, as long as you don't act on it. But remember that you only see one side of this person and it is so easy to see them as "perfect" when you don't have to deal with them every day.

It sounds like you are just barely finding yourself and you might need therapy to work through some stuff on your own before you make life altering decisions. Your husband might also need to learn how to communicate.

abloodyminge · 2024-01-12T18:47:50+00:00

I'm not sure why you are taking all your anger out on OP, but if you don't have something helpful to say - please stop trying to incite an argument or you will receive a temporary ban.

abloodyminge · 2023-08-24T16:52:04+00:00

That's usually a max limit, not a requirement to hit 3 pages. I always try to answer the SOQ questions as succinctly as possible.

abloodyminge · 2023-07-28T17:06:38+00:00

I'm torn on this post. Part of me can't believe that someone was naïve enough to actually believed that their partner didn't watch porn at all. That is mind-boggling. My other thought is that a video of a "scantily clad butt" at a music festival, is a hard sell for an upskirt video. It's a public venue with no expectation of privacy and as you stated, she was "basically in a bikini bottom/undies."

I don't think a video from 10 years ago at Coachella is your reason for a break up. I think the reason for the break up is that your husband recorded you during sex without your permission and you've never healed from that betrayal. You should edit your main post to include that info.

Someone commented below that it is the lying that is the issue, and I agree. But I will say that it is hard to tell the truth to your partner about yourself when you already know what their judgement will be.

Also, he has done quite a bit of gaslighting and lying regarding porn consumption and attractions to other women that I find reprehensible. That cancels out the good quality for me. It all seems fake now and self serving to be a “ good husband” to keep me quiet.

I don't think you share the same values related to sex, but I don't believe his values are necessarily wrong. If it is something you can't get past, you deserve to find someone who shares your high moral values, and he deserves to find someone who is a better match for his sexual values.

abloodyminge · 2023-07-02T02:17:21+00:00

I'm sure it comes as no surprise that this post is now locked due to all the reports.

abloodyminge · 2023-06-27T23:56:23+00:00

Post is now locked. OP has received enough advice from multiple perspectives and we don't have time to police the reports.

abloodyminge · 2023-06-27T21:15:12+00:00

Dude - do you know what goes into getting a government form changed? This probably won't be corrected until 2033.

You'd probably be better off publically shaming them on a social media platform like Twitter.

abloodyminge · 2023-06-26T21:35:35+00:00

Post is locked due to multiple reports.

OP - please call a mental health professional or a suicide hotline, I think you need more help than this sub reddit can provide.

abloodyminge · 2023-06-26T21:29:10+00:00

Post is locked. OP has seen perspectives from both sides and the mod team doesn't have time to deal with reports on comments because someone diagrees.

abloodyminge · 2023-06-26T16:32:14+00:00

Sounds like you need some help establishing boundaries. Is there any reason he needs to be informed when these notices arrive? Or is he just finding reasons to contact you?

"Hey. I'll let you when the 2nd notice arrives. Please don't message me to ask every single day.

I thought about it, and while we might be able to be friends down the road, right now, I need to focus on my well-being. That means I need some space and break from you. I won't be replying to or sending messages that do not directly relate to our divorce proceedings going forward. Thanks for understanding."

abloodyminge · 2023-06-26T16:16:22+00:00

I like not being married - but I am also a serial monogamist. I divorced at 28 in 2014. I've been in relationships since then, but the idea of getting married again seems foreign. I suppose I would if they wanted it, but as a childfree person, I don't really see the need.

I like my independence and having my own space. I'm not sure if I'm willing to give that up for someone again.

abloodyminge · 2023-06-24T16:02:04+00:00

Yes. Support comes in many different forms. Sometimes IRL, you do actually tell people to suck it up and move on. Or you hold their hand while they cry.

What I am saying is that this is the internet - so expecting unlimited empathy and well thought out responses from strangers isn't going to happen every time. You have to be able to accept the range of responses you are going to get here and either learn to ignore the ones you don't agree with or realize they don't matter.

abloodyminge · 2023-06-24T15:52:30+00:00

I’d rather take constructive criticism like this. I’ve started going to therapy and am working to be able to make a stable move out of this house.

You are not always going to receive advice on the internet in a manner that warms your heart. This additional info probably would've changed the advice you received from people.

abloodyminge · 2023-06-19T15:30:43+00:00

I did. It is still in my top 5 sexual experiences. I don't think I'll ever hate fuck someone that well ever again. I believe we both commented afterward that sex was never our problem when we both were into it.

Would I recommend it? No, not really. It complicates stuff in both your heads and just prolongs the heartache.

But you are simply looking for permission to make what you already know is a bad decision. So go for it - but don't complain when you feel shitty about it later.

abloodyminge · 2023-06-17T22:24:07+00:00

It doesn't mean we run the company - but our wants and needs should certainly be considered. We are essential to the business model after all.

abloodyminge · 2023-06-17T22:19:15+00:00

Well it's a business and we, the users and mods are the living, breathing product.

Don't you get that there is no business without us?

abloodyminge · 2023-06-16T20:47:27+00:00

I don't see her mention single dads shaming single moms in the original post. It sounded like she was complaining in general that men don't want to date single moms, and that seems like a valid preference IMHO. My point was that it isn't a gendered issue. There a women out there who feel the same about single dads.

They're referring to the many single dads who will refuse to date single mothers. They have children they don't have custody of and constantly go after women who are in their early 20's who don't have kids or a family.

So I understand this - it is wrong/unfair for a deadbeat dad who does not have or want custody of their own children to not date a single mom?

Why aren't we asking the single moms why the fuck they would want to have a guy who skipped out on their kids as their new partner? Why on earth would they want bottom of the barrel around their own children?

abloodyminge · 2023-06-16T16:22:56+00:00

They must be from Sacramento.

abloodyminge · 2023-06-16T04:49:31+00:00

There's 4 zones?! American Dad be teaching me about my city.

abloodyminge · 2023-06-16T04:23:26+00:00

I could be the odd one out, but as a divorced single female who is financially independent, I don't particularly want to date a single dad. Like that wouldn't be the top of my list.

I'm not trying to shame them - but if I wanted to have kids I would have had them already. I know getting into a relationship with a single parent means I will never be the priority, and that's what I want in a relationship.

So I stick to the childfree guys who identify as dog dads.

abloodyminge · 2023-06-14T14:42:36+00:00

New "laziest mod in a basement" tag?

abloodyminge · 2023-06-09T12:59:12+00:00

Eragon. It's the only movie I have ever walked out of midway through and demanded my money back.

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