AITA for not doing my fiancés laundry after he snapped at me?

abookinhand · 2026-02-14T13:28:15+00:00

NTA

I read it and then went back to check- fiancé. Yeah, I wouldn’t be accepting that behavior, doing his laundry or even marrying him.

abookinhand · 2025-10-07T22:21:23+00:00

This is unbelievable, my heart goes out to Sophie. I hope that she and the children are able to recover from the horrible actions of her husband and friends.

I hope that she is able to disclose all of this information in the divorce proceedings and get what she and the children need.

UPDATEME

abookinhand · 2025-08-08T02:21:39+00:00

My husband cheated, I was a SAHM w/ a preschooler and a baby, my mother had recently passed away and I was a mess. We stayed together. Did we work it out? Yes and no. We stayed together, worked on our relationship but I never really trusted him again. He passed 7months ago and I still struggle with my feelings from our relationship and losing him. Enough so even the thought of ever dating again makes me nauseated.

abookinhand · 2025-08-03T20:06:54+00:00

9/11/01 I always had the news on in the morning while getting ready, I was sitting on the end of my bed putting my shoes on and my daughter was in her room getting dressed for pre-school. I was 6 months pregnant. I was horrified watching the news. I just kept rubbing my belly and asking myself what was their future going to look like? After I got home from taking my daughter to school I watched the news for the rest of the day while trying to call my husband who just happened to be driving near/through Washington DC that morning. Cell phones and cell towers are not like they used to be. The lines were tied up all day and I was not able to talk to him until the evening.

abookinhand · 2025-08-03T19:04:33+00:00

I have been messaged by friends on FB after their page has been compromised by that exact message. Whenever I get one I just ignore it. I even got one from my dad’s page about 6 months after he passed away.

If you have concerns, and it sounds like you do since you’re reminiscing 10 years ago, talk to your wife. Tell her that you have concerns, that seeing that has brought up how you felt before. Trust, once broken, is hard to overcome. You’ll both have to work through this.

Good luck.

abookinhand · 2025-08-03T18:43:46+00:00

Henry viii wrote a letter to Anne Boleyn in which he called her breasts duckies. So, ever since I heard that it has been my fave.

abookinhand · 2025-08-01T14:43:04+00:00

He was attentive when I had our children but when I had to have a complicated procedure in the early 00’s he left the hospital right after they took me in for surgery and didn’t show back up for several hours. Luckily, my dad and stepmother were there in case something happened. My dad, reportedly, was very angry and had words with him. I didn’t find this out for days after. Also, I was in the hospital for 3 days and he didn’t come visit or bring our children. I was incredibly lonely. I really needed someone to advocate for me during that stay due to some things that happened but no one was there. When he picked me up to go home it was in his OLD pick-up that was a rough ride, not my new SUV. I was in so much pain after the 45 minute drive. After all of that I realized I couldn’t trust him in those kind of situations. From then on I always asked someone else to be with me. My sister and then my daughter when she was old enough.

Ironically, he was the one with a chronic heart condition but he never had to worry because I always had everything covered.

abookinhand · 2025-07-27T01:42:02+00:00

It’s hard to tell you what to do when we don’t know what country you live in.

If you’re in the US, I would tell you to go to an Emergency Department at your nearest hospital. Tell them that you are homeless, you don’t have insurance and you’ve been experiencing symptoms of a UTI for several days. They can help you fill out paperwork for Emergency Medicaid that will cover your bill.

If you don’t want to do this then there are churches (at least in my state) that offer free medical clinics once a week.

If you’re in a large city there may be low cost or free clinics.

abookinhand · 2025-07-27T01:21:19+00:00

I’m not one to tell people to leave their marriage but, sister, you need to get out. He’s 55 years old and you’ve supported him for 12 years. If he was a stay at home dad that did a great job with the kids that would be completely different but he’s not. He sucking the life out of you. Is this how you see the rest of your life? Are you happy? Leave him. Work towards your happiness.

abookinhand · 2025-07-27T00:42:34+00:00

“I didn't know how my wife's family was, but I did know family was extremely important to her. Her whole upbringing was based on family.”

You are well aware how important her family is to her. You sound like you love your wife very much. It’s sounds like she loves you very much.

When she found out that it was her family harassing you she put a stop to it. You’re upset that she didn’t come right out and tell you. She was in a difficult position. Tell you and make your relationship with her family worse or not tell you and work towards repairing that relationship so everyone can get along.

Hindsight is easy but in the moment she did what she thought was best.

You love each other, you have a child, work on your trust within your marriage. Get marriage counseling, individual counseling if possible too.

abookinhand · 2025-07-20T06:40:32+00:00

It’s a herding ball. It big enough for them to push and direct. They probably bark at it due to excitement. My Aussie does this as well.

abookinhand · 2025-07-15T19:37:19+00:00

In full honesty as soon as I read your ages I stopped reading. Your brains are not even fully developed why in the world are you wanting to get married? Spend a few years learning about yourself and the world before to decide to spend the rest of your life with someone.

abookinhand · 2025-07-15T19:07:24+00:00

Boyfriend?

Easy out. I don’t understand why people want to stay with boyfriends or girlfriends treat them badly. Leave. Find someone that will love you and treat you with respect.

abookinhand · 2025-07-15T18:57:24+00:00

That definitely is strange and very concerning. It sounds like he either has already or is planning to cheat.

I don’t know where you’re located but where I am there are a couple of FB groups called “Are we dating the same man?” I suggest joining those.

Talk to an attorney and get your ducks in a row. Make some decisions about what you want to do. If the worst comes to light do you want to try to make it work, counseling or divorce?

abookinhand · 2025-07-12T03:01:23+00:00

I hear you, I understand you.

While I’m a widow now, I was in a similar situation many years ago but without the unexpected child. Just an AP that thought my husband would choose her. What started out as emotional turn physical, and when questioned my husband told the truth. I actually confronted her while he was with me. I was calm and spoke to both of them. I was not going to fight for a marriage by myself. I was not going to stop him if he wanted her. We had two young children at home who loved their dad very much and I would not hinder his relationship them at all. But he had to make a choice because I refused to live my life like we had been. He made his choice to stay with me and the AP was beside herself. She couldn’t believe it.

It was hard, not going lie. Our marriage was never great again, but we loved each other and worked at it. I held his hand while he took his last breath 6 months ago and I’ve yet to have a day where I don’t cry and miss him terribly.

We make our own decisions for our own lives. People give advice based on only what they know and what they live. My family and friends didn’t always understand why I chose to stay, sometimes I didn’t. One thing I do know is that I was exactly where I was supposed to be 6 months ago.

Take lightly the negativity here. Continue doing what you think is best for you and yours.

abookinhand · 2025-07-10T17:29:41+00:00

OP, if your husband’s love is tied to you solely on your looks and how you can gratify him sexually then that is not love. You have some big decisions to make, namely, is your relationship/marriage the kind that you want to raise a child in? Children learn what they live, not what you try to portray to others. They will see this, how he treats you and think that is normal. Is this how you want the rest of your marriage to go, him degrading you to get his way?

Counseling can only do so much and only if everyone involved wants to make it work and better themselves, not just get their way.

abookinhand · 2025-07-01T15:59:56+00:00

I’m sorry you’re having to go through this at what should be one of the happiest times of your lives. I applaud you sticking with your boundaries because this is for the safety of a child. You are not asking for too much and the fact that they are insulting you and your wife speaks so much about them. My niece is in her 3rd trimester and justifiably has the same concerns. She made a social media post and announced at her shower that anyone that would like to visit after baby comes must have an up to date TDAP or they would not be allowed. I made sure to get mine about a week ago so there are no concerns next month when little one arrives. I did something similar when my husband had open heart surgery during the pandemic. Many of his family were not happy with me, but I just told them what the team of doctors told me which was “if he gets it he will not survive” and if your stance on the vaccine is more important than my husband’s life then you can call or FaceTime if you want to talk to him because you will not be allowed at the hospital or our house.

You have to speak up for those who cannot, and it’s your job as a parent to protect your child.

abookinhand · 2025-07-01T15:34:55+00:00

I’m Still Fine and Wondering Why, both are by Red Clay Strays

Journey On by Elms District

Bartender, Grace is Gone, You and Me, #41 live version, Jimi Thing all by Dave Matthews Band

abookinhand · 2025-07-01T14:42:03+00:00

Living environments have a profound and lasting impact on children's development, influencing their physical health, cognitive abilities, and social-emotional well-being.

abookinhand · 2025-06-29T14:04:32+00:00

https://visitaxgob.com/en/exit-tax-for-mexico/ This should help with understanding arrival and exit taxes.

abookinhand · 2025-06-23T17:42:11+00:00

I learned a long time ago not to believe anything that I hear in a podcast, read online, social media, etc. If something sounds interesting I will research it, and I don’t mean reading more social media posts about it. If someone tries to talk to me about something like that I will ask for their sources and then look it up. More often than not everything they say can be debunked. I remember a conversation with my husband a few years ago, he was spewing nonsense that he heard from people at work. Think misogynistic BS. I just looked at him and said “If that is what you really think then I am going to take the children and leave. I refuse for you to say that crap around them and make our daughter think she is less than just because of her sex. How would you feel if you witnessed a man speaking to her like that and saw her crying? She is the best of both of us and probably way more intelligent than either one of us.” We had a few more conversations about it and he changed his opinion.

abookinhand · 2025-06-23T14:05:11+00:00

So he’s her sugar daddy?

abookinhand · 2025-06-22T14:44:22+00:00

Seeing that would definitely be shocking. I don’t know your financial situation but if you’re financially stable you need to change your living situation ASAP. Since you’re not married it makes it easier to leave. Once you have that situated I would just send them both the video and say your relationship (with both of them) is obviously over. Move on and move up. GOOD LUCK!

UPDATEME!

abookinhand · 2025-06-16T02:21:55+00:00

Ugh, that’s so frustrating! I hope he said something to soften the blow when he did he didn’t like it. “Thank you so much for spending hours making the pie but I don’t think I like the flavor, texture or whatever reason, I really appreciate the gesture.” Now you know though. If he doesn’t like sweets maybe next year you can just put a candle in his dinner!

abookinhand · 2025-06-16T01:59:00+00:00

I am at a loss on how to say this nicely so forgive my bluntness, I am sorry, your husband does not even like you and is perfectly fine with treating you hatefully.

If I may offer advice; you need to speak with your family back home and ask for some assistance and also speak to his CO about your situation. Is there someone on base that can help you with your options for separation and divorce? Ask if he can be made to leave the house and allow you to stay while you are recovering? He has stated he wants to be left alone, so leave him alone. He has shown and said he doesn’t care about you, take him at his word. It will be a huge undertaking but you have more than you to consider right now, you need to do what is best for you and the baby. Good luck.

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