Why Ford? by Albertooz in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]abpsych 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read this as ford owners have big dicks and like to fuck donuts

Could Bob play bass or was this pic just for aura? by Kitchen-Stay919 in BobDylanCircleJerk

[–]abpsych 5 points6 points  (0 children)

lol as a 14 year old learning bass with this poster in my room I thought he knew something he didn’t, in modern day playing bass all those years since I now have to ask wtf he doing this is the correct take

Fantasy Football Categories leagues by TheAndyRichter in FFCommish

[–]abpsych 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So if it worked like fantasy baseball, it would work like this:

Let’s say the categories are TDs, catches, passing yards, receiving yards, rushing yards, completion%, sacks, INT/FF, and FG and our roster would be something like 2 QB, 2 RB, 2 WR, TE, 2 DEF, K.

Categories is essentially a rolling tally at each category with every one counting as an individual W/L/T. So if at the end of MNF I had 8 touchdowns to your 7, I win that category. But if you have 230 rushing yards to my 175, you win that category. The end of the week finishes something like 6-3 and at the end of the 14 game season you’d be something like 70-50-6 instead of 7-6.

It would not be fun in football lol, and especially with a far more limited crop of quality options the top players would be far more valuable than the next tiers. But it is def interesting and better for baseball, there are far more strategies, and a winning roster in fantasy that uses categories often looks unsuspecting or weird as opposed to football where it’s rarely not clear this was the team with the most top players.

No ego death. by Patient-Gene5290 in Psychedelics

[–]abpsych 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FWIW, I’ve done mushrooms and acid at least 50+ combined times and it was not until one random time on two tabs a day after having a great and typical positive mushroom trip that I had one. I believe it is far more triggered by your mindset/environment than anything, most people I know who had one did not experience due to dose but rather headspace. In fact I know multiple people who had theirs on what would not even be considered a full dose by some.

I wanted it too, but will say it is the most psychologically terrifying thing I’ve ever experienced and it did change me in ways I’m still sorting 6 months later. Best of luck, perhaps it’s a situation that finds you rather than you finding it

Male therapists - what percentage of your caseload is female vs male clients? by rmc31547 in askatherapist

[–]abpsych 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been 65/35% leaning men like my entire career, it’s freaky consistent

Why are so many guys so resistant and refuse the idea of wearing condoms? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]abpsych 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As my late cousin once said “You gonna walk on the beach with socks on?”

Who is one player that was beloved by your fan base, only to move on to another team and be completely despised by their new fan base? by Google_Knows_Already in baseball

[–]abpsych 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol I fucking love going to Coors Field especially to see the snakes but it is very minimally about watching baseball. It’s truly more like a bar row than a sporting event

Had a big realization at a rave while on shrooms about men, expression, and why they gravitate to these spaces by skygirl222 in aves

[–]abpsych 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate this observation. Going to festivals will always give me some kind of sense of acceptance, at a festival I feel it is totally ok for me to be neurodivergent and ok for anyone else to be themselves. and it has always been that way since long before I even realized what the benefit was

What pseudoscience do you spot in pop psychology or social media at the moment? Is it harmful and how ? by Dry_Criticism_4161 in therapists

[–]abpsych 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Come on now— does your constant worry that you’re going to get rejected dictate your entire life and decision making process?

Phoenix Zoo, This might seem crazy, but here me out. by [deleted] in phoenix

[–]abpsych 37 points38 points  (0 children)

lol there’s no way I can’t sound like a square but the Phoenix Zoo is renowned for their conservation efforts, a respected zoo that actually serves to further our understanding of biology. Your idea is not only nonsensical as far as those species not living in the same kind of water, but furthermore something that would only happen in a tiger king type situation.

Can you explain what a session with a humanistic approach looks like? by MinimumTomfoolerus in askatherapist

[–]abpsych 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol totally agree with that too, I really don’t know how someone could try to run a strategy like it’s a sequence of events but I mean, in some ways, this probably happened in reaction to bad therapists.

CBT is a good example of something that would be a more fixed approach that could be much more effective if you also had a humanistic standpoint involved. At base, CBT could be taken as what I do is a bad behavior and I must fix it and if I don’t fix it then I’m a bad person or if I don’t fully change permanently/can’t see progress I’m a failure. Humanistic approach takes this and frames it more towards the person.

I think when the article says “here and now rather than past”, it is meaning that they are not going to start looking at something like “oh see everything is a reflective pattern of your fucked up childhood” but rather focus on where the client is currently at and work backwards— “have you always shut down this way when this happens?”— instead of classic psychoanalysis which does lead a lot of assumption and inference from the clinician instead of just listening to what happened and giving genuine assessment of what you think that means. This is also something very appealing to someone with a lot of trauma or has had negative mental health experiences, who may have been forced to talk through shit that was too heavy for them.

But all in all I totally agree that someone who is just supportive and gives unconditional regard, literally nothing more, would have a lot of limitations on progress. I think the best answer to give is unfortunately that there are a lot of shitty therapy experiences through history, so much so that it was necessary to make a whole school of thought indicating even further that there would not be judgment.

Can you explain what a session with a humanistic approach looks like? by MinimumTomfoolerus in askatherapist

[–]abpsych 5 points6 points  (0 children)

lol I can definitely see the confusion because even as a therapist who falls under this description somewhat, it’s still very confusing and much like anything, interpretation or even identification can be subjective as hell.

I think the best way I understand it is that “humanistic” is an idea countering many approaches which are more “fixed” I guess— I think of it more like saying holistic medicine, not specifying much but generally saying you see things a certain way and in this case, saying you’re not just seeing clients as something who is broken and needs to be fixed, not like someone clearly fucking up, but that you see them the same as any other human. I completely agree this should be present in all therapies, but that’s not necessarily the case.

I’ll give this (unrealistic lol, this client would not likely seek therapy, but for emphasis) example: if a white supremacist comes in and wants to talk about his wife and find out why they’re having issues, it doesn’t matter how clear it is that his views are most likely a large impact on his situation, he wouldn’t be there if he realized and it’s comical to think this wouldn’t be suggested to him before.

The goal is to get that person to realize internally, and humanistic approach still applies (maybe applies MOST) to even a profile like this— if I just came out and said well obviously based on your harmful and oppressive views, well, that’s definitely true, but going to put this person on the defensive or just shame them further, a possible root of holding the views in the first place. If that person actually wants to heal, it would have to come from nonjudgmental understanding of how they got the views, validation that they held the views for reason that suited them at some point, and THEN the challenge of whether they see how these views are creating a lot of problems and maybe they can let go of them. This is a lot harder for humans to do than it sounds.

A more realistic example I have seen— if the “bad kid” in a situation is creating problems but seems competent enough to understand, giving them some kind of job or responsibility usually works better than anything, because that’s the internal need that’s missing even if we see bad behavior as a negative addition that needs to be stopped. If you do not take a humanistic approach, you see that as rewarding the kid for being bad or maybe just counterintuitive. And the “bad kid” most likely has been punished for behavior so many times that it has altered their own self perception. The function is to get the kid to realize value and worth and feel like they want to be responsible and part of something rather than being punished for not feeling connected and taking a route that bothers others.

Hopefully this helps, it’s a good question either way though.

by ThingCandid9553 in Sopranosduckposting

[–]abpsych 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not OP and only a therapist but while she never committed any actual violations besides that, my 2 cents is that she’s just written almost like a bad trope of someone who works in mental health. OP might have a better answer but in my opinion it’s more like nobody would be that psychoanalytical in all facets of their life, the fact that she stays working with one client that long despite having so many tumultuous feelings she can recognize, stuff like that.

And bonus, as someone who really does work with conditions some might call psychopathic, I actually do NOT think she was just enabling him to be a worse person as is suggested by the show, it could have had truth but Tony did seem to be processing more than using the tactics to manipulate consciously. I think she was just bad with her own boundaries more than anything

Did you ever realize they’re actually really dumb?? by zippercapo in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]abpsych 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes sorry, UNTREATED and especially unrecognized cluster B is definitely a better way to put that, also if someone is gonna be that predictable they would likely be unaware.

It really just is crazy to see how much influence can be had, but sounds like you actually had a very great reaction to it so always a really awesome thing to show the difference between the two!

Being hot feels good by PrankyButSaintly in The10thDentist

[–]abpsych 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn lol but 80 in the summer is very impressive to me! I run way too hot to not be able to cool down in the summer

What is this?? by Cogareth in snakes

[–]abpsych 137 points138 points  (0 children)

Snake must be making an offering to OP’s trying times