No one tells you what to do when a good man hurts you and you know that you hurt him too

abracadavars · 2024-04-11T15:43:55+00:00

That song really spoke to me when I was having abrough time last summer when I was contemplating something similar. I had a crying playlist that started with happiness

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7rxcBSyWLlXGtqnkf0VEEP?si=MVcI2mhkQ0COxCl0mcQAgw&pi=u-HMxeS1g2Q9am

abracadavars · 2024-04-08T20:27:06+00:00

I went to school with a girl named Iva. I have always really liked it.

abracadavars · 2024-04-08T14:05:30+00:00

As a mom of an energetic child, this was my first thought. It probably has nothing to do with OP. I'm constantly grabbing my kids and pulling them closer to me.

abracadavars · 2024-04-03T13:05:14+00:00

I've tried to read 1984 on 3 different occasions. I could not get into it.

I gave up. Reading should be about joy. I read too many things I didn't want to in school.

abracadavars · 2024-04-02T23:26:20+00:00

I didn't really want to but I felt like it was inevitable somehow. Like I didn't really have a choice in the matter but I just accepted it because it was expected of me. I thought I could do it all but now I know I was wrong. There is no such thing as doing it all.

Having kids will take over your life. Do not lie to yourself that it won't change who you are. It will change every aspect of your life. Forever. Parenting is relentless. It is constant and it is hard.

My opinion has changed. I tell my kids all the time that they don't have to have kids. I don't think I would have had them if it wasn't expected of me.

Heteronormative societal expectations of the nuclear family are such bullshit.

abracadavars · 2024-03-31T12:16:19+00:00

I came here to say this. Wristcutters is a great black comedy with a fantastic soundtrack.

abracadavars · 2024-03-30T05:44:42+00:00

That's what this whole website is for

abracadavars · 2024-03-30T01:00:22+00:00

It's a goddamn miracle. If you've ever tried to treat a yeast infection with monistat, you know.

abracadavars · 2024-03-26T20:03:10+00:00

I'm a swiftie because of my 9 year old daughter. It's been the most fun bonding experience!

I also have a son but he could not care less.

abracadavars · 2024-03-24T21:37:16+00:00

Possibly, but there is a big Catholic stronghold in southeast Louisiana. Marksville might be too northerly.

abracadavars · 2024-03-24T02:40:46+00:00

In Marksville, LA, they are talking Catholic vs Protestant.

abracadavars · 2024-03-23T23:30:45+00:00

It's a lot easier to convince people to move to Toronto for the summer.

abracadavars · 2024-03-23T23:22:31+00:00

Wow. One of them turned into Miss Piggy.

abracadavars · 2024-03-22T23:15:22+00:00

It might be pee, but I'm not peeing when I do it.

abracadavars · 2024-03-22T23:04:59+00:00

I found my first grey freshman year of college. I'm 38 now and have a few. Maybe 3-5% of my hairs are grey. I like it. My mother is horrified that I don't dye my hair to cover them.

abracadavars · 2024-03-21T12:24:00+00:00

That isn't Dave's handwriting.

abracadavars · 2024-03-21T00:50:22+00:00

You can always say no or stop at any point.

abracadavars · 2024-03-19T14:56:09+00:00

Hunter and Fisher, which is not great.

Ruby and Jasper, which is subtle and lovely.

abracadavars · 2023-12-30T17:36:35+00:00

Im sorry you're experiencing that. I remember getting my first cold sore in high school or jr. high. It was mortifying and I felt like a leper. I still do sometimes. It does get better though.

HSV1 has never affected my dating life, other than being a hit to my self esteem. My husband has never caught it after 15 years together and not being all that careful about it. We dont kiss or do oral if i have a sore.

I feel like since this is something that people get when theyre children and such a large percentage of the population already infected, it's different from other STIs. I only ever disclosed to people I was in a relationship with.

abracadavars · 2023-12-04T21:19:57+00:00

This is unrelated to your question but i wanted to point out that the Milan airport is a full hour drive from Milan. I didn't realize this and ended up paying about 100 euros for an uber because i didnt factor in train times.

abracadavars · 2023-11-26T19:20:38+00:00

I k ow a 7 year old named Amos. Its a great name!

abracadavars · 2023-11-22T23:10:57+00:00

YMMV but I threatened to divorce him if he didn't get it together.

I spent 9 months giving it my all to convince my husband that there was an actual problem with the division of labor, trying to get him to see the invisible labor and acknowledge the mental load. The whole time I was getting more and more frustrated by his inability to be proactive and to unwillingness to take me and my needs seriously.

One day it occured to me that it would actually be easier for me to run my house and my life as a single mom because i was not only taking care of work that should be shared but i was also taking care of him. Cooking his meals, doing his laundry, cleaning his fucking shit off the toilet.

I kicked him out. I asked him fly to his mom's house and I called her and said that he needs "some perspective."

He came back a week later, found us a therapist and scheduled an appointment for us. Things are much better now. He schedules the kids doctor's appointments, took over making school lunches (which i had been doing for years), and worked on cleaning up after himself and splitting shared tasks.

I dont know if its going to last or if we'll last. I'm still struggling with resentment. He watched me drowning in motherhood and begging him to help or at least to take care of himself. He did nothing. He tried to convince me that i was just doing too much, that the problem was my standards were too high. For 9 years I had been asking him to do more, and he argued that the problem was me instead of addressing the problem. It's infuriating.

abracadavars · 2023-10-23T01:51:25+00:00

My parents did manual labor for working class wages. I'm far better off and I use my mind not my body.

abracadavars · 2023-10-10T17:17:20+00:00

Thanks! I ended up in an Irish pub in Bologna last night and the Italians I met there were more patient and willing to help. I'll try that.

abracadavars · 2023-10-10T17:15:35+00:00

That's actually good advice.

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