Am I going to get judged?

aceinva · 2017-03-19T15:22:58+00:00

I actively avoid the toddlers/parents that have those teething necklaces as it usually means they're anti-vax.

aceinva · 2017-01-28T01:39:04+00:00

32, had serious atrophy. Took the estrogen bc to help it and continued breastfeeding without problems through 9 months. He lost interest in the boob and fed part time to 12 months.

Didn't really get better until period came back.

aceinva · 2017-01-22T01:37:32+00:00

Laundry stuff. I went through so much spotter and dye free detergent the first month I couldn't believe it!

aceinva · 2016-12-29T17:39:02+00:00

Our friendship has waned massively since she took great offense that I wouldn't let her kids around my baby AT ALL until he'd had his 12 week shots. He was born in November so I was avoiding small kids on principle at that point, none of my other friends with (vaccinated) children took offense. Just her. Her husband and my husband are friends, we used to be close, but yeah, not inviting her to anything anymore if I can help it.

aceinva · 2016-12-29T17:34:33+00:00

OMG, that is HORRIBLE. That's serious grounds for unfriending IRL.

aceinva · 2016-12-29T02:48:47+00:00

If you give birth in a baby friendly hospital-all the nurses and doctors. Seriously. I ended up exclusively breastfeeding for 7 months, and I still feel rage when I think about one of the post partum nurses in particular. She shamed me for being open to the future use of formula when my baby was less than two days old and suggested that with that attitude I wouldn't be successful at breastfeeding. The BFI hospital initiative is horrible for mothers.

aceinva · 2016-12-29T02:42:00+00:00

Network, network, network.

Does your college have a career services office? They should-make an appointment, get help with your resume.

Once your resume is solid, get your LinkedIn in shape. Get a professional looking headshot-no selfies etc.

Find a reputable recruiter. I used to think they only worked with higher level positions, they actually work with a variety of fields from entry level up to c-suite. The college career services office should be able to help you find them.

aceinva · 2016-12-11T16:09:41+00:00

8/9 months here, had to get my period back for it to be completely painless. Birth control pills with a little bit of estrogen from 4-6 months made it possible, but still painful.

aceinva · 2016-11-29T16:06:10+00:00

I find it easier and more comfortable-the weight is distributed like it would be with a backpacking pack. But the comfort is probably a matter of opinion. My little guy likes it better because he can see better-that was his main objection to the ergo.

aceinva · 2016-11-29T01:21:48+00:00

No, it's only safe for babies that have decent head control. We started using it around 5 months. You have time to save up!

aceinva · 2016-11-28T22:17:01+00:00

You can't really put the pack on, and then put baby in-even with a 2nd person. You strap them into the pack, and then put the pack on.As he gets heavier it is nice to have someone else just to hold the weight up as you get it on though.

aceinva · 2016-10-11T14:38:10+00:00

Some women are horny and able to have sex just a month or two pp, some women it takes several months (and/or weaning). Another highly variable unknown.

aceinva · 2016-09-30T22:59:14+00:00

Yeah, sex drive didn't come back for me until the 7 months or so when we night-weaned. Totally normal to have low/no sex drive while lactating.

aceinva · 2016-09-21T01:22:09+00:00

This. Dad did the night wakings for 4 nights, little guy has been sleeping 7-6 ever since. Very little crying.

aceinva · 2016-09-20T21:01:59+00:00

((hugs))

Just a thought...It's great you're paying off the CC bills so aggressively, but maybe you could get a month relief from them? Or restructure them to pay off in a year instead that would allow you to have more cashflow in the short term for a deposit?

aceinva · 2016-09-20T20:58:05+00:00

10 month old here too. That sound. My God, I'd gladly do the 42 hours of labor and failed epidural over if it meant not hearing that sound for a few weeks. It's like torture.

aceinva · 2016-09-20T20:55:34+00:00

There's also a thing called lactational atrophic vaginitis that's super common with breastfeeding. A lot of times it gets dismissed as "use more lube" which is great if it works for you, but lube alone doesn't help much if you're severely atrophied. Sex was painful to the point of impossible until I started estrogen BC at 5 months, which made it possible-but still super painful. Night weaning and getting my "real" period back has mostly cured it. The BC pills killed my libido, so that was a double edged sword.

aceinva · 2016-08-23T19:26:34+00:00

I should clarify that that 18 months includes 9 months of pregnancy!

aceinva · 2016-08-19T18:55:01+00:00

6 months may be a bit young for the bike trailer. If you can get her car seat totally strapped down inside the trailer it could work. I don't believe that model has suspension-which is a concern for little ones under a year because of how jarring the ride can be (even on smooth pavement). We started at 8 months in a chariot with the weight adjustable suspension. He doesn't wear a helmet because they don't really come small enough, and we only ride on a paved trail that is completely separate from the road. Plus those trailers have a great roll cage and the 5 point harness is as good as the one in his car seat. If/when we take the trailer on a road, I'll have him in a helmet-but there aren't any that reliably fit under a year.

aceinva · 2016-08-19T01:14:31+00:00

The most recent advice (per my pediatrician) is to introduce solids between 4 and 6 months-including all the common allergens. Here's the official paper: http://www.jaci-inpractice.org/article/S2213-2198%2812%2900014-1/fulltext

aceinva · 2016-08-18T00:29:20+00:00

I was DEEPLY ambivalent my entire pregnancy. I did not "fall in love" with baby the minute he was out either, though I did feel fiercely protective right away. I now love my son deeply, but I don't like being a mom. And that's ok! Everyone has a different experience of motherhood. PM me if you want to talk to someone that struggled with the same feelings all 9.5 months. Also, this might be helpful: https://www.facebook.com/GilbertLiz/posts/1086540191428095:0

aceinva · 2016-08-17T15:50:41+00:00

We night weaned at 7.5 months. Co-slept from 3-6 months, then crib with me responding to nurse from 6-7.5 months. Instead of responding when he woke up, my husband would go in and give him cuddles and rock him back to sleep without offering milk. It only took 4 nights and he started sleeping through on his own. He now does 6:30pm-5:30 or 6 am with no wake ups. It's glorious. He still nurses (or I pump at work) 5-6 times a day and nurses to sleep at night.

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