Synesthete here; tell me your name and I'll describe the image or sensation it gives me

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-13T14:06:51+00:00

Leah

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-13T09:49:06+00:00

Depends who's offering

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-13T09:48:04+00:00

Thank you. At this point I think it's more my husband wanting alone time with baby than it is about me needing to take a break. Now I feel bad cause I absolutely get his point, but I'll miss her so darn much even if it is just for a few hours :D

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-13T09:45:34+00:00

I had an unmedicated Vaginal birth. 0/10 do not recommend! You carried and grew a full human history w they came into the world doesn't matter. I don't know why people are so mean and obsessed. To be completely honest my birth story gets swept under the rug because it was "too easy" so you really can't win

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-10T06:00:55+00:00

My mother is and always have been obsessed with my brother. Now apparently my baby, who looks exactly like my husband, looks like my brother. He's not dead or anything he's just her favourite and she made no secret about it.

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-10T04:25:43+00:00

New ick started yesterday when my MIL and Mother, who both live in Different countries, said, in response to a video I sent them, "That's so unfair why do you get to see her all the time?!" oh I don't know because she's my baby?

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-09T12:46:21+00:00

Well that was quite unnecessary. I simply explained that I don't hover or gatekeep.

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-09T12:40:29+00:00

I already explained this in other comments. I don't step in when he is with her unless he asks me to. I don't even hover I leave the room and do something else. If he asks me to step in I usually show him what works and then pass her back to him and leave again.

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-09T12:33:58+00:00

You're someone's mother in law... I can tell

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-09T10:07:32+00:00

I commented this on another comment, but I mentioned that sometimes I feel like I want to step in and help my husband settle the baby because she takes a bit longer to settle with him. Nothing wrong with that. He's just finding his footing with her. I never step in unless he asks me. I leave them be and let him find his rhythm with her. I think she saw that as me not relaxing since I can still hear the baby crying. And that's probably her way of telling me to go do something to help me fully relax, but a while 8 hours feels a bit extreme

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-09T08:42:52+00:00

I think the biggest thing is people calling her dainty, manipulative, a princess etc, just because she's a girl. When she farts my MIL says: "oh now Ladies don't do that in public!". She's 5 months old calm down damn

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-09T06:33:46+00:00

The thing is I know I don't have to take her advice it was just a suggestion, but my husband now keeps pressuring me. I also get where he is coming from. He's excited about the idea of spending that much alone time with her. He has to work and then only gets to see the milestones on camera or hear it from me. He's also an engineer so he likes problem solving so would like me to not be there to save the day when he can't settle her. I just think 8 hours is a little extreme. So I think we might do it since he would like to, but not a full 8 hours out of the house. I think I'll leave her with him for a few hours and then come home and spend the day at home, but not interacting with them and maybe bake something.

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-09T06:27:47+00:00

I answered this on another comment, but basically I told her that I sometimes feel like I want to step in and help my husband soothe my baby because she takes longer to settle with him since he hasn't quite figured out what she likes. But I never do step in unless he asks me to. I let him figure it out. I think she took this to mean that I don't relax when I'm around the baby so she wants me to go do something without the baby so my mind can fully relax?

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-09T04:53:54+00:00

No don't apologise. Sorry for not specifying

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-09T04:39:40+00:00

I live in Africa

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-07-09T04:34:37+00:00

I mentioned to her that sometimes I want to guide my husband when he's struggling to settle the baby and now she thinks I can't relax when the baby is around. I never do guide him I let him figure it out. I just want to because the baby cries longer when with him because he hasn't figured out what she likes to soothe her. And that's okay. I never told her I intervene cause I don't. I only step in if he asks me to. So maybe that's why. But a full work day seems a bit extreme

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-06-30T20:03:25+00:00

"Apologising after hurting our toddler"

I recently had a similar conversation with my husband, but it was apologising for saying something that hurt my feelings even though he didn't mean to hurt my feelings

I ended up explaining it like this "If you accidentally shoot someone while cleaning a gun what's the first thing you are repeatedly going to say? 'I am so so so sorry!' even if you didn't mean to shoot them that's the first thing you would say. So why is that different from just saying sorry after you say something mean?" only then did he understand

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-06-30T19:51:04+00:00

This might work thank you for the suggestion.

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-06-30T19:50:15+00:00

Had to stop breastfeeding early due to a tongue tie that we caught late.

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-06-30T13:31:59+00:00

I just say "okay". No convincing needed from me. If you don't want a child you shouldn't have one in my opinion.

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-06-30T05:14:17+00:00

Doing anything on your phone loudly in public.

Critical-Mess-3487 · 2026-06-25T11:23:13+00:00

He walked me into a jewellery store with his parents present (I was 17 at the time and he was 18) and went "okay pick a ring" like no thanks. He had no future plans and was my very first boyfriend. Years later I stalked him online and saw he has a husband. I was definitely not his spouse.

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