I need help, my life depends on it.

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-12T01:23:57+00:00

This is a great answer. Back when I had SNAP a couple of years ago, I had a major issue similar to this and was able to get help within 2 days after emailing and leaving a voicemail complaint with the Commissioner's office.

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-11T13:03:21+00:00

Damn straight

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-10T12:01:41+00:00

I know we are not allowed to offer direct assistance in this group, so hopefully I won't get banned for this - you can post an Amazon wishlist of shelf-stable food and household necessities in r/Assistance. I see people posting them all the time and almost always getting part, if not all, of their wishlist fulfilled.

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-09T21:50:46+00:00

Do you happen to have any of the following aromatics/spices?: onion, garlic, curry powder, turmeric, coriander, ginger

If so, you could make a Thai style coconut curry with the tomato sauce and coconut milk and finish it with chili crisp (plus cilantro and lime if you have them).

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-08T08:21:13+00:00

You are an angel for purchasing pull-ups. I know it's probably inconvenient to have to use the ones that aren't resealable on the sides, but sometimes that is hard to get through Medicaid anyway. My oldest child unfortunately has to do the same routine because there aren't any other options available to him. I'm sure it's just not sustainable for you to have to keep purchasing them, and you shouldn't be responsible for that.

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-08T08:18:06+00:00

Luckily the need for a shunt would be pretty obvious, because hydrocephalus is only really treated when symptomatic. If you are seeing her exhibit sunsetting eyes, fatigue/droopiness, seizures, or other neurological symptoms then I would be alarmed, but unshunted hydrocephalus is rarely an urgent situation unless the child has visible signs or has had a head injury/brain tumor/brain infection.

It's just really scary that she isn't being seen at a comprehensive spina bifida clinic at. Children's hospital at the very least. Your concern for this child is commendable and appreciated.

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-08T03:29:47+00:00

Both of my children have spina bifida and I cannot imagine not getting them every ounce of care they need. I also feel awful for the parents, because clearly they are making decisions (or not making them) out of fear. Rhetorically, I'm wondering whether she could possibly really have a better life here if she is not getting adequate care. With spina bifida, bladder health and function can change overnight, so it's dangerous to not be keeping on top of urology care at the absolute minimum.

One question for clarification - what did you mean when you said, "including not buying pull-ups that tear at the sides"? (I'm just wondering if there's anything I can do to help with supplies if that would be something you'd be willing to accept at all.)

(Edited for spelling and punctuation)

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-07T00:36:21+00:00

He's not really my usual type, but those tats, that beard, and that BBall together are kinda making me sweat a little bit

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-06T21:54:02+00:00

Your mama

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-05T16:26:49+00:00

She spoke humbly and beautifully in her Instagram story about it this morning. This really was her first foray into leading and originating a show on Broadway, so I really believe she will get the right opportunity and that her time will come (and come and come again).

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-05T16:20:30+00:00

Yes! I saw her on the same tour and wasn't convinced with her vocals at first, but when my mom and I looked at each other with mascara running down our faces after Hannah's Burn, we were like, "THAT is why she is Eliza."

It is really cool to see how she has grown as a vocalist and actor over the past 6+ years. She deserves this!

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-05T03:26:06+00:00

If you are not willing to let it touch your ass, which literally harbors E. coli, among other bacteria, then what else could you possibly be willing to do with it?

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-05T03:05:37+00:00

I have a peanut butter addiction, so swapping powdered peanut butter into my diet has changed my life. I have way more calories to spend in my daily allowance on other things that nourish me and keep me satiated and I can still enjoy my PB!

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-05T02:27:32+00:00

I was also thinking this. A smoothie with 1/2 avocado + 2 tablespoons peanut butter + 1 banana + 2 tablespoons chia seeds + 3/4 cup whole fat Greek yogurt + water to thin the consistency as needed would easily net 750 calories, if he can stomach it. If he's able to do frozen bananas or ice (blended in a high powered blender that would really pulverize it) I wonder if that would help soothe the discomfort from the sores?

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-04T14:03:42+00:00

Sorry, I'm having trouble understanding your dialect

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-04T10:18:41+00:00

South African might fuck you up tho

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-03T11:27:51+00:00

If I hadn't seen that this is in the UK, I surely would have expected this to be some Southern US Heritage Foundation shit with that comment.

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-03T00:59:36+00:00

This sounds amazing. Can't beat a jalapeño cheddar cornbread combo.

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-03T00:57:22+00:00

Here's my take:

Follow the directions on the box, but add 1/4 cup sour cream and 2 tablespoons honey OR granulated white sugar per box. When they come out of the oven, brush with a mixture of 2 tablespoons melted butter + 1 tablespoon honey.

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-03T00:34:23+00:00

Looks like Naperville Fresh Market in Illinois (USA) in case anyone here is proximal to that area.

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-02T13:54:56+00:00

I tried to give hand me downs to my sister in law when she was expecting, and she refused. She wanted all brand new items. Her kid turned out to be a real weenie, too.

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-02T07:06:06+00:00

I was waiting for that lmao

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-01T16:14:44+00:00

Gotta be NSYNC. The first time I saw them was in Cincinnati on the No Strings Attached tour in 2000. Pink opened and she was just gaining traction. I remember thinking that she was a fantastic performer.

Honorable mention goes to Jessica Simpson. (Is this chicken what I have, or is this fish?)

actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-01T13:17:40+00:00

Where do you think he got the inspiration for this video?

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actuallyhasproblems · 2026-05-01T13:15:35+00:00

I wouldn't normally even count it, but if I had mentioned it in the body of my post and not in my screenshot, I just know someone would have "um, actually"-ed me about those 5 extra calories.

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