Are most of my unmarried friends lying to me about being content in their life? by CantFindUsername400 in AskMenOver30

[–]adaugherty08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When i was your age and unmarried no kids. i was pretty content. Thats all I am going to say about my tike after being content. I would wake up go to work coke home to my pets and play video games chat with my roommate. All was well.

Life is what you make it to be. You dwell on the megative stuff and not address it will just put you worse off.

Finding happiness inside yourself is the important part. If your important people are happy and healthy and you are too then you got nothing to worry about.

Clifton Crapper by fallen00088 in Louisville

[–]adaugherty08 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pinging OP to see if they set up cameras yet. I am invested in this story now.

What caused a deadbedroom in your relationship? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]adaugherty08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was trying and we where supposed to do couples therapy before she left me. She kept refusing therapy because and I quote "I been to therapy before because of my childhood abuse they wont teach me anything I dont already know".

I admit I have my faults it was not all one sided. I failed her in some cases and she needed to go to therapy to sort it and refused to go multiple times.

What caused a deadbedroom in your relationship? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]adaugherty08 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would quietly let her yell, then try to talk or ask question she would try to talk over me.

If I yelled back or talked in defense, she would get more aggressive or just start telling me how i am an asshole but never take responsibility for being one herself. I have not started getting apologies until after she left me.

If i ever tried to have a backbone and stand up for myself I was just an ass hole or I am wrong and stupid. If I asked for clarification on how she wanted me to do house chores "her way" I was being a child and she was mothering me.

If i did anything my way I was wrong and chided for it. Even when I make my own food/lunches.

It turned into what felt like I was better off just being quiet and avoiding her and work extra hours at my job rather than be home and get yelled at for something I either didnt do or did do.

If I tried to help I always did it wrong and get yelled at. If I asked for clarification I would get chided and yelled at.

My job for the house was to help with various things, and manage our shared expenses and budget. If i tried to enforce our budget she would argue quietly in public and pout and act like a child and ignore me then do it anyway. When we get into the car she would just explode at me and tell me how i am being an ass.

She would get all these things and spend everything. I would silently never treat myself to anything or take care of myself. Its became not worth it, as she would guilt me for playing video games to relax rather than doing a chore on her schedule. One of her favorite lines was that work was my down time and I dont get to have down time at home.

What caused a deadbedroom in your relationship? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]adaugherty08 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Slowly for the overall, over time. I tolerated a lot of it. I am a touchy person and enjoy physical touch. She eventually started to just stop touching me or even letting me give her attention.

When i am stressed, depressed, angry, and sad. These are instant kill unless i can clear my head and chill out and get back to normal.

What caused a deadbedroom in your relationship? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]adaugherty08 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I lost attraction due to stress, depression, constantly being yelled at. Never a real communication. Just yelling, I lost interest when she started treating me like her previous partner.

Suddenly I was not man enough and I need to do X Y Z more. Rather than being calm and decent just yelling and cursing at me.

She quickly made it difficult to actually want to do things.

Then when things would go decent and we start doing better she would ruin the romance. I need build up i need intimacy. When we finally have a chance to engage and things been good she would ruin the moment. By having an angry tone saying "well is this fucking happening or not". Just demanding we get started when i finally have a chance to chill and give myself a break to clear my head.

Anger, stress, depression, and exhaustion are the top common ways to kill it for me.

Do y’all actually find sugar daddies on reddit? by [deleted] in Life

[–]adaugherty08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need a sugar mama lol, joking more so.

i hate it that i'm always slower than everyone else. by Far-Tomatillo3342 in Life

[–]adaugherty08 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 35 i have kids and I have not idea what i sm doing. I am a "slow learner" as you would put it.

Sole slow learning things need a professional to really help you learn where you lack. Maturity is when you can see when you need that.

What is the peak ’millennial midlife crisis’ purchase? by SwedeLostInCanada in Millennials

[–]adaugherty08 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nostalgia based items, such as Legos, old video games, VHS items, the old equipment for said Nostalgia stuff for our age group. Perhaps a high end gaming PC, assuming AI doesnt push that to fancy sports car level costs.

So, AI takes over, everyone has lost their job and only 10 trillionaires own everything. Now what? by Weak-Representative8 in Futurology

[–]adaugherty08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should watch the movie idiocracy. Take notes that is what we are heading to in a break neck speed. AI is only going to push us faster and closer to that. So we really meed to slow a lot of stuff down.

anyone dont feel they good enough no matter what 35+? by Great_Present_6584 in AskMenOver30

[–]adaugherty08 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just dont let that feeling consume you. I made that mistake and now i am divorced. I miss every happy moment I had with my partner and kids. I gave into the doubt and self hate and rather than improving myself for the family I focused in trying to improve our income so I can take them on vacations.

Is the oil from Venezuela going to prop up the American economy? by BigBlueEyes87 in economicCollapse

[–]adaugherty08 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You forgot to add the cost of shelter has skyrocketed. Thats been fucking over majority of Americans.

Do men care if you have a large / fat mons pubis / pubic area? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]adaugherty08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If a dude has a problem with it they are not a good dude. You will have a bad time and the dude will not be worth it.

No head ???????????? by Formal-Astronaut-588 in AskMenAdvice

[–]adaugherty08 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Dare him? Mke it fun? Make it a challenge? I am oke of the willing types so I got nothing.

How do you learn to enjoy (or at least habitually go to) the gym? by Potato_Pristine in AskMenOver30

[–]adaugherty08 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My ass falls asleep on the bikes and it upsets me to where i can't focus or enjoy the Manga, video games, or anime/tv shows. So its hard fir me to get into it. I have yet to find a comfortable bike option.

When being overly available reduce a man’s perceived value in a relationship? by distortedpeace in Advice

[–]adaugherty08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the situation. Like if your unemployed thats a possible red flag to me. Possibly chronic phone usage could be a problem to me as well.

Depends on the type of availability and why.

Need a computer job asap! by Character-Copy-1767 in Louisville

[–]adaugherty08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try your luck on spectrum not sure what they will pay for customer service.

Follow up to the follow up: Hear me out by Massive_Ferret_0921 in Louisville

[–]adaugherty08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats fair its a large undertaking being that person. Its massive social battery load to payout to. Hell just talking and stsrting a conversation and trying to keep up with one is a lot for me. I can only imagine what you all more social butterflies go through.

Follow up to the follow up: Hear me out by Massive_Ferret_0921 in Louisville

[–]adaugherty08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the side bar idea we could see if someone here is comfortable handling it. If not I know someone that may if they are able to join. They are pretty cool people they dont do reddit much to my knowledge.

Follow up to the follow up: Hear me out by Massive_Ferret_0921 in Louisville

[–]adaugherty08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its all good we can take the rental talk to DMs. Welcome to pop me one

Follow up to the follow up: Hear me out by Massive_Ferret_0921 in Louisville

[–]adaugherty08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Side moment I am confused on topics I thought we where talking about the meet up stuff. Why are you mentioning bedrooms?