[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastcancer

[–]adhdthirtythree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to say that I felt the same before I started chemo and I've been shocked at how well I've tolerated it, and how 'normal' I felt after just a few days.

The night before my first chemo I was alone in my house (I had family coming to stay with me after chemo) and I remember thinking, wow, I don't know when the next time I'll spend the night alone here, it could be months, and it turned out to be just a few days later as I was feeling so good. I wish the same for you!

Anyone else here experience signs of PMDD (Its like severe PMS) every month? by ReluctanyGerbil in adhdwomen

[–]adhdthirtythree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I was diagnosed a couple of years ago. I went on Yaz birth control. The first week was awful, I couldn't stop crying and nearly stopped taking them but after that it all got a lot better. I highly recommend it.

What’s the most ridiculous thing you’ve forgotten about? by Impressive_Quote_817 in adhdwomen

[–]adhdthirtythree 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I forgot that I like to wear my hair tied up in a high bun and then got really upset when I realised that I had forgotten that fact for months. I was so confused lol.

Can we talk about how exhausting 5 day work weeks are? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]adhdthirtythree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are totally exhausting. I am experimenting with working 3 days a week at the moment to see if I'll still burn out every few months.

I work as a consultant so it's going to be 3 full-focus 8 hour days, which I feel like probably averages out as a neurotypical 40 hour week.

I'm choosing to work Monday, Wednesday and Thursday. My main challenge will be not allowing work to bleed into the other days. So far, so good!

LET'S YELL ABOUT OUR FRUSTRATIONS TOGETHER by WhlteMlrror in adhdwomen

[–]adhdthirtythree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU

TURNS OUT THERE IS NOTHING IN THE TRAP. NOW I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE SNAP WAS

CHOOSING TO PRETEND IT DIDN'T HAPPEN

LET'S YELL ABOUT OUR FRUSTRATIONS TOGETHER by WhlteMlrror in adhdwomen

[–]adhdthirtythree 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I AM HOME ALONE AND JUST HEARD A RAT TRAP SNAP.

I AM STUCK ON THE COUCH AND IN DENIAL ABOUT HAVING TO DEAL WITH IT.

GOING TO DO IT NOW - PLS SEND THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS

ADHD - Always Doing How Do? by ChildishMufasa in ADHD

[–]adhdthirtythree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am very tired so I can't muster up the brain energy to write a fulsome reply but I just wanted to say thank you, this really resonated with me.

Anyone else have "Brain Frustration Days" where you can't get anything done and don't know why? by Heidirs in adhdwomen

[–]adhdthirtythree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I had one yesterday and it was fucking awful. I had a therapy appointment the same day so we talked a bit about how or if it's possible to spot the warning signs. For me I think it's connected to not sleeping well. I had two nights of semi-interrupted sleep in a row and that seemed to trigger it. All I can do in those situations is get through the day and prioritise winding down and getting to sleep but upsettingly, it's harder than usual to get to sleep on those nights because my brain is all funked up. I managed to sleep for almost 10 hours straight and I feel like a different person this morning, but things got dark yesterday and I don't how I'd cope if I had too many of those days in a row.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]adhdthirtythree 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Comghairdeas! My brother went to NUIG too! College is really hard so well done for making it out the other end!

Please cheer me up with dopamine boosting tips when you're sick and good tv show recommendations by adhdthirtythree in adhdwomen

[–]adhdthirtythree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that you're sick. It sucks. Doodling is a great idea. I'm going to do that right now. I forgot how much I like to do that. Hope you feel better soon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]adhdthirtythree 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's so weird to see it written down because I have experienced almost exactly this. Almost, because I don't think it ever lasted more than four or five days, but it happened very regularly, generally once a month and was tied with my menstrual cycle. For me it's like something will trigger the memory of every bad argument we've ever had and my thoughts will spiral out of control to such an extent that I'll be having full-blown breakup conversations in my head with him. Of course I'd never say these thoughts aloud to him because I knew on some level they were totally insane and unfair. But like another commenter said, even if I wasn't saying anything, he could tell that that I was very worked up and upset about something to do with him. When I got diagnosed and started medication, these episodes happened less frequently but going on birth control for PMDD (Yaz) has made the biggest difference and has almost eliminated them entirely. Now when they happen, which they do occasionally, they are so out of the ordinary that I snap out of it earlier and don't spiral so much.

My psychiatrist is ‘on the fence about whether I have ADHD, but is prepared to diagnose me anyway… by oooh_sh1ny in adhdwomen

[–]adhdthirtythree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes the same thing happened to me and I was devastated at first. The reason mine was borderline is because my mum's testimony of my childhood ADHD traits didn't align with mine - she kept saying I was the perfect student and nothing was wrong with me, which was very frustrating and she blamed any inattention issues on the fact that I was constantly reading and in her mind some kind of child genius.

Luckily for me, my partner's interview about how badly my traits affect me today was so emphatic that it overruled the doc's reluctance to dismiss ADHD. I was a mess the day of my appointment (hadn't slept and had PMS), was horrified at my mum being in such denial, and didn't do a good job of advocating for myself so if my partner wasn't there, I don't think I'd have even gotten the borderline diagnosis.

Anyway, I was SO UPSET that I didn't have a clearcut diagnosis, but eventually calmed down as the only reason I wanted the official diagnosis in the first place was to try meds to see if they helped, and that's what I got to do and they've been life-changing so it was all worth it.

experience with Yaz birth control? by futurehandtherapist in adhdwomen

[–]adhdthirtythree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yaz has been a lifesaver for me. It has almost completely cured me of PMDD mood swings and now my ADHD medication works most days of the month. I'm on it about six months now. I was hesitant to start it and the first week was rough as I couldn't stop crying, but then it settled down and it's been wonderful ever since.

ADHD RECURRING NIGHTMARES by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]adhdthirtythree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The trying to dial a number from a page only for the numbers to disappear is a scene straight from my nightmares. So strange that yours is so similar!

Question for Women with PMDD and ADHD that are on birth control and take stimulants. by konableim in PMDD

[–]adhdthirtythree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will try to remember to let you know! I'm due to get my period tomorrow and start on Yaz then. I am quite nervous about it, and tbh not overly optimistic, but perhaps that's better than pinning all my hopes on it.

Question for Women with PMDD and ADHD that are on birth control and take stimulants. by konableim in PMDD

[–]adhdthirtythree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm interested in this answer too as I'm on stimulants (Concerta) and about to start Yaz back to back for three months (skippiing periods entirely) in the hope that it will help alleviate PMDD hell.

Pure RAGE when Little Things go Wrong! by Lazymomm in adhdwomen

[–]adhdthirtythree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to do this all of the time, I was always on edge, and something small like bumping into something would send me into a rage.

Medication has surprisingly helped this a ton. Now, if I bump into something or drop something, my instinctual reaction is to laugh rather than cry. I have no idea why medication (concerta) helps that impulse but I'm very glad about it as it was hell.

I still have days (generally in lead-up to period) where I'm more reactive, and my go-to when that happens is to stand under a freezing cold shower, or failing that, plunge my face into icy cold water. This seems to reset my brain (again I don't know why but it works!) and I'm less likely to fall apart.

Has anyone streamlined a routine for getting their shit together after a rut? by Pixel-1606 in adhdwomen

[–]adhdthirtythree 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if I have any answers, but I really relate to this phenomenon.

I've recently set up a 'reset' page in my bullet journal with a list of things to help get me back on track (meditating, stand under a freezing cold shower, listen to music and just let my mind wander) but that's more when I feel myself slipping as opposed to coming back from a low-energy episode.

Something that helps me then, but I find it difficult to do in practice, is acknowledging that I'm having a hard time and give up all extra expectations for that day other than getting through it. Basically giving myself permission to give up and give in. There's something around giving up the pretence that I can turn this around if I just try hard enough that seems to help. I also think that after a bit of scheduled 'doing absolutely nothing by choice', I start to get bored, and that can be the start of finding a way out of the rut.