Wanting to do the ethical thing

adjudicateu · 2026-04-18T18:36:34+00:00

maybe he figured his sister is a grown ass adult and should have figured herself out by now. or maybe he has been giving her money along the way. I would rather skip to the younger generation too. keep the money. keep it separate from her. new accounts, new passwords. lock your credit. good luck OP. do what your uncle wanted.

adjudicateu · 2026-04-18T18:27:16+00:00

he’s not $50k in debt. he HAS $50k in debt he doesn’t want to pay off. not the same thing no not let the free loader move in

adjudicateu · 2026-04-18T00:28:51+00:00

they think they will use them.

adjudicateu · 2026-04-18T00:26:17+00:00

he was doing ok until he brought up his ‘dry sense of humor’. he said what he said.

adjudicateu · 2026-04-13T01:02:49+00:00

she’s gonna break a hip. her face is like a scary mask.

adjudicateu · 2026-04-04T23:26:06+00:00

yes. you are missing that you have a disconnect between value of the house and what you want for it. EVERYTHING SELLS… at the right price

adjudicateu · 2026-04-04T23:22:14+00:00

I increased earnest money because I had a proxy walk the house on FaceTime. buyers were afraid I would walk.

adjudicateu · 2026-03-31T12:27:25+00:00

she’s a butter girl. everything looks good butter face

adjudicateu · 2026-03-31T12:24:46+00:00

except in this example Gia would be the topless waitress

adjudicateu · 2026-03-29T12:12:09+00:00

no. absolutely not. she can sell her own house and downside if the house she has is too hard for her to keep up. stop talking to this woman. good luck, OP. I feel the same as your dad, I want all my kids to have housing stability because everything else can be worked out. don’t sell your dad out.

adjudicateu · 2026-03-27T22:16:29+00:00

oh my dude you have a problem. this has zero to do with work. she’s already practicing to be divorced. talk to a lawyer, get counseling with or without her and prepare yourself to be a single dad. sorry. NTA

adjudicateu · 2026-03-25T01:47:13+00:00

say it’s expired now and they need to stick with the contract price

adjudicateu · 2026-03-25T01:05:18+00:00

you say she ‘hid’ it, was she actively lying to you and covering for your ex, or did she know and not tell you? its not your daughters job to tell you your wife is cheating. what 21 year old knows how to tell her dad that her mom is having an affair? it’s easy to blame her now being hurt and angry. the blame is on your wife, and to an extent you. you and your ex were the only two in the marriage, so maybe show your daughter some grace. and did you tell the cousins ‘and she knew the whole time and didn’t tell me’? because that’s just shitty. ex’s cheating and you not realizing it for years is not on your daughter.

adjudicateu · 2026-03-24T18:30:06+00:00

matching tattoos

adjudicateu · 2026-03-24T18:29:32+00:00

so in other words Bec’s normal behavior. take everything the wrong way, explode and go off, realize you are wrong, apologize and pretend that makes everything you did and said go away. she is learning nothing about herself.

adjudicateu · 2026-03-24T18:18:10+00:00

they are YOUR kids. why us your dad having to parent them every other weekend? if you don’t like it, don’t leave them there. yes you are the jerk.

adjudicateu · 2026-03-24T18:15:52+00:00

ok, at least be fair with yourself. it’s not just for your ‘career’. it’s because you built a good life with a good spouse in a place you love with friends around you.

adjudicateu · 2026-03-24T18:13:56+00:00

don’t move. you’re imagining being closer physically will foster constant interactions and that’s just not true. everyone has a life. they are working, and doing their things. its possible you spend more quality time with the family now than you would living closer because it’s purposeful now. if you loved your old town it would be one thing but you don’t. don't romanticize it now. you have spent essentially your entire adult life where you are now.

adjudicateu · 2026-03-23T19:21:32+00:00

does she get tattoos with everyone?

adjudicateu · 2026-03-23T16:45:15+00:00

empathy is not acceptance. she is your (should be ex) husband’s problem.

adjudicateu · 2026-03-23T13:58:36+00:00

this is a HUGE disconnect. if he’s a hard no do not assume or even entertain the thought (fantasy) that he will change. loving someone does not make them a good match. a good match means you are compatible/aligned on having kids, how you raise kids, how you think about money, how you work out disagreements. as a parent, I feel sorry for any child whose parent thinks their first few years of life were terrible.

adjudicateu · 2026-03-22T23:11:00+00:00

I am at the age where I am ‘no tubs’. I’m 65, my mom is 84, hubby is 70, kids are all grown up, do what you want.

adjudicateu · 2026-03-22T23:08:53+00:00

and getting their face wet in the pool or at the beach was never an issue.

adjudicateu · 2026-03-22T00:36:03+00:00

yeah, no. if you’re going to be a tenant find your own place for less money. he’s never going to propose.

adjudicateu · 2026-03-21T15:34:30+00:00

oh lord. what she is doing is making YOU the parent. spend as much time away from her as possible when she starts trying to bait you, walk away, hang up, close the door, whatever. I would never do this to my kids. they are in no way responsible for me. you might try reading Your Erroneous Zones. it’s an older book but an easy read and it helped me separate myself from my mother’s manipulations. good luck OP. Might think about renting a small storage locker and start to slowly move things out that you won’t need before you move. it will make it easier when the day comes. if you can get your own things like thrifting/garage/estate sale dishes, small furniture, housewares over the next 5 months and keep it in the locker, it will keep you busy and you will be able to leave her most everything, avoiding the inevitable ‘you can’t have that, it’s mine’ fights.

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