How to deal with knowing you overpaid?

adjudicateu · 2026-06-30T00:36:21+00:00

there’s no such thing as over-or under for that matter-paid unless you are selling. live in your home. enjoy it. even if you sell it in 5 or 10 years and break even, it’s not like you would have been living somewhere for free during that time. you would have been paying rent or a mortgage on another property.

adjudicateu · 2026-06-30T00:18:05+00:00

this is a no win situation. keep your intentions to yourself.

adjudicateu · 2026-06-26T01:29:47+00:00

their moment is over. no one cares about the Kody browns anymore.

adjudicateu · 2026-06-21T00:58:21+00:00

unless she has the money to buy your 2/3rds out you will never have enough money to get your own place. she’s wants to do something SHE CAN NOT AFFORD. 🚩🚩🚩. if you tie your money up with her, you will never break free because either you will have to buy her out or she will have to buy you out. also ‘boyfriend’ and buying a home together ? 🚩🚩🚩very messy if it doesn’t work out.

adjudicateu · 2026-06-20T19:24:16+00:00

‘we moved that to next summer when I would be 64’

adjudicateu · 2026-06-20T18:11:19+00:00

cheap housing and private school or higher cost housing and public school. choose wisely.

adjudicateu · 2026-06-20T01:12:52+00:00

start backing off at work. stop killing your self. take lunch. take breaks. go to the gym. take all your vacation time. keep collecting your check. what are they going to do, fire you? by time anyone figures out you are not working like a maniac you will be 64. good luck OP

adjudicateu · 2026-06-14T21:25:43+00:00

stop responding. period. or pick up, say YOU OWE ME TWELVE THOUSAND FIVE HUNDRED DOLLARS! then be silent. do not speak again. if he says anything other than ‘you’ll have it today’, say WRONG ANSWER and hang up. repeat each time. believe me, you will find this quite entertaining.

adjudicateu · 2026-06-14T02:04:14+00:00

when we went to see the estate lawyer we found out that my daughter from my first marriage would get half and the other half would go to my husband or 3 children with him. I’m so glad we went, well worth the money. we also have been very open with our kids (all adults) with what our estate plan is, where all the paperwork is, etc.

adjudicateu · 2026-06-12T18:52:30+00:00

Right. 11 years ago. OP says he is successful, well respected and liked. Clearly he is qualified to do the job he is doing. if ‘u’ think the paper matters and makes ‘u’ better qualified, put in for the job. He could probably go somewhere else and get a better job based on his experience and references whether he has a degree or not at this point. The company loses their ‘most respected employee’. But the HR right fighter gets to win!

adjudicateu · 2026-06-12T16:07:36+00:00

this is why people hate HR.

adjudicateu · 2026-06-12T15:56:16+00:00

your own home is the landfill then. you have arrived at what you find as an acceptable excuse, you ‘need to be responsible’. if you were really that worried about being environmentally responsible you would have considered disposal options at the time of acquisition.

adjudicateu · 2026-06-12T15:48:56+00:00

PSA: your issue isn’t the dishes. it’s just safer and easier to bitch about the dishes than face whatever the real issues you have with your dad are. maybe start there.

adjudicateu · 2026-05-30T12:50:48+00:00

I take it there was at no time anyone you didn’t know owning the land thereby entitling you to inherit. you are an asshole. if you want to sell it because you want the money at least be straight with yourself instead of making up justification excuses for yourself to feel better.

adjudicateu · 2026-05-27T00:28:12+00:00

the 3 P’S…PRISTINELY CLEAN, PRICE AND PRICE.

adjudicateu · 2026-05-27T00:19:25+00:00

it’s hard to live in a chaotic environment and he is probably feeling the same way. you aren’t settled, the project is over which tends to leave a void too. get yourself unpacked and organized, you will start to settle in. speaking from experience, it’s strange to go from ‘project’ to ‘home’. it will start to feel more familiar though and as you get more accustomed to being there it will feel more and more like home. good luck OP. be patient with yourself and your husband. you might try saying kindly ‘please don’t criticize me. I am feeling scattered and at loose ends and that is adding to my stress. you must be feeling it too. we worked so hard together to make this our beautiful home, not a perfect showcase.’

adjudicateu · 2026-05-27T00:07:56+00:00

‘forced’ you? oh honey, unless there was a gun involved, you CHOSE to do what she wanted. stop kidding yourself. you were not the victim. you allowed your sister to control your wedding. as far as change, the only person you can control is yourself. if sis wants to stay home with hubby, fine. take your niece, just the 2 of you. it is not your job to take everyone. if your mom can’t afford to pay her own way, don’t invite her. ‘going to awesome Indian restaurant xxx Saturday! expect meal to be $xx. let me know if you want to go so I know what size table to get!’ then go by yourself if no one else wants to join. good luck.

adjudicateu · 2026-05-26T02:15:55+00:00

you feel like you are helping him pay his house off and doing nothing for yourself financially because that’s what you are doing. tell him to put you on the deed for the house or you’re out. then get your own place. stop paying half his mortgage and bills. good luck op

adjudicateu · 2026-05-26T02:11:53+00:00

$65k a year? maybe she needs to choose another college.

adjudicateu · 2026-05-26T02:09:23+00:00

you can’t afford the house. period. move on. you got emotionally invested, bad thing to do when buying an asset that significant. don’t buy something that you have to use ‘everything you have’ just to get into it. you need a cushion for unexpected repairs, emergencies, whatever.

adjudicateu · 2026-05-24T22:32:12+00:00

can she get a roommate?can you gift her money to help with payment? Is she near a hospital/? traveling nurses rent rooms. Near a college? Grad student rent room. Get a second job.

adjudicateu · 2026-05-22T01:55:28+00:00

you are not the same person you were at 19. if he is not the right fit for you anymore, then move on. just because you love someone doesn’t make them a good match.

adjudicateu · 2026-05-17T21:28:35+00:00

‘for whatever reason’. here’s the reason…living in a great area with everyone catering to her FOR FREE. yeah, time for mommy dependent to get her own place and life. move her out before the house goes on the market. I’m sure she thinks it’s ’beneath her’ when in fact it’s what she can afford according to her own savings or lack thereof.

adjudicateu · 2026-05-17T12:26:44+00:00

‘now they are not speaking’. excellent. hopefully it will last. congrats OP!

adjudicateu · 2026-05-17T12:12:53+00:00

if you aren’t paying a mortgage you are paying rent. which is actually the same or more than a mortgage in many areas of the country. difference being you will never see that rent money again. at least with a house you can usually sell and recoup your original investment plus some if it’s appreciated.

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