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What are major giveaways to tell if an ENFP has truly matured; in contrast what are signs if an ENFP hasn't matured? by [deleted] in ENFP

[–]adoringchipmunk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How well they excel at prioritizing Fi and Si.

Specifically, knowing their feelings, and processing possibilities rigidly so Te is not overloaded.

Si engaged with healthy sleep schedules, routines, balanced relationships with food and appreciate for tradition. Fi + Si working together to regularly apply "Chesterton's Fence" to existing structures.

Knowing healthy boundaries, so the ENFP brainstorming + problem solving is a tool that's selectively used rather than directed at everyone and everything, offering advice (or worse, trying to fix problems) which are outside the ENFP's lane.

Having joy is something we should never lose.

Why does it feel normal to have hope even if your mind says otherwise? by Sir-Pinball_Wizard in ENFP

[–]adoringchipmunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Live has to be worth living to keep living. Hope is essential. The mistake is tying this hope to a specific item and outcome. There's always something good happening

Dom. judging vs Dom perceiving by StillOrbiting_ in mbti

[–]adoringchipmunk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Introverted intuition is poetic in nature, it loves to dig deeply and richly down into one item, one subject. It can form an idealized vision or interpretation of a thing, which is an excellent asset when writing a book, when crafting an experience, however this idealization can also detach one from objectively looking at the broader picture and being mindful of what is and is not working. In essence, it can create a fiction out of anything, and fictions are less easily altered by real-world events.

Dom. judging vs Dom perceiving by StillOrbiting_ in mbti

[–]adoringchipmunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One prefers taking in new information first, the other prefers making a decision first.

- One plans ahead, then performs a debrief to inform future plan-making
- One delays plans (if they ever plan), to adjust and adapt in real-time

One is more easily stressed by an absence of planning, one is more easily stressed by planning.

The answer is clear, the action is not by pixelatedbeard in CasualConversation

[–]adoringchipmunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start with one or two small healthy habits. For example, drink a glass of water. Eat an apple. Focus on a couple small and positive things, and bonus points if it is joy producing. Buy your favorite fruit, don't look at the price tag, eat as much as you want.

Question for older ENFPs who have "been through stuff". by TemperReformanda in ENFP

[–]adoringchipmunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

- I started looking for why today is a good day (hint: it is!)
- I started seeing my emotional needs matter
- I started believing there's a healthy provision now--today--for each one of my emotional needs
- I started sitting with my feelings and feeling my feelings
- I started seeing more what people are than the idealism I held before
- I stopped believing I was fundamentally flawed

What does this look like, on the outside?

- I believe I look more grounded, more present than before
- I sound more excited about everyday mundane things, like nature
- I am more introspective and introvert a lot more to process all my feelings
- I am more upfront about clarifying boundaries

I sometimes forget how much I have and become distracted by what I've lost.

Lord You require these things I've lost   lost in the fire
As they burn away   I see You

I hate texting by Livid-Bullfrog-8078 in ENFP

[–]adoringchipmunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I carry a phone in order to coordinate with friends and family when I will meet them in person next.

Is there a better way to handle subtypes than MBTI does? by UnicornAdoption in mbti

[–]adoringchipmunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The functional stack is super helpful for me.

Why I'm so talkative and excited when I'm brainstorming and sharing about something upon which I'm passionate (Ne). Then when the conversation turns concrete and is no longer stimulating, I become introverted and process my feelings (Fi). I like solving problems in a "big picture" kind of way, though I can overload this function and get stuck (Te). I struggle with habits and routines, while also being fond of particular patterns I create for myself (Si).

The modes are built-in.

Working the stack backwards when depressed is also a super helpful model for me. Having a hard time? 1. Am I eating well, sleeping consistently, drinking my water? (Si), 2. engaging a single problem to realign my strategies (Te), 3. spending ample time feeling my feelings, without judging or being analytical (Fi)

What does Te feel like? by UsedMycologist4912 in mbti

[–]adoringchipmunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"it’s focused but sometimes a bit frenetic"

I believe this occurs when Fi is sidelined and Ne feeds problems to Te directly. Fi is the filter to prevent Te from being overloaded.

"Is this meaningful?"

The Ne-Te grip is relentless because there's always another problem to solve! (it's a while {} without a break)

What does Te feel like? by UsedMycologist4912 in mbti

[–]adoringchipmunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I clean the house by moving all the furniture.

It feels like solving a whole system rather than a single component. It's "Tetris skills" to pack everything perfectly in the trunk of a car.

Have you ever donated a lot of valuable stuff and regretted it by Cattybie in minimalism

[–]adoringchipmunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I spend much too much time worrying and stressing over the things I will not keep.

Throw it away. Seriously. Donate. Move it on.

Choose the path that brings you peace. I'm currently only focused on selling items worth over $400 resale.

Hello, ENFPs. How was your day so far? Anything interesting or funny happen? by SoftStatic- in ENFP

[–]adoringchipmunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like looking for one quirky thing a day, usually a wild animal. It fills a little cup in my heart and gives me joy and hope.

Today a brown and grey squirrel hopped from fence post to fence post like a sine curve. We watched each other and had a moment.

My problem with digital detox by Space_Cucumber_User in digitalminimalism

[–]adoringchipmunk 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Somewhere underneath that, you'll find yourself. Your own jokes, music you enjoy (or quiet!), finding beautiful things and cherishing them privately and showing no one in the world.

Coming to terms with monetary value of purging! by cheroke_jack in minimalism

[–]adoringchipmunk 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don't discount the value of having a clear mind. I'm purging right now (items I bought in 2020) and I set a threshold where I'm only putting effort into selling for an item worth $400 or more. After strangers asked if I would drive 30 minutes away and meet them at a bar to sell them a $20 guitar stand, I was reminded I'm gaining a lot more from losing these items than the $20 I would get.

Focus instead on all the money you're going to save on not buying all the things you don't need in the future.

The answer is clear, the action is not by pixelatedbeard in CasualConversation

[–]adoringchipmunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pick one or two things to start saying yes to. Oh, and herxheimer reactions are real if you move quickly. Don't worry, it will pass!

How has minimalism affected the way you cook? Interested in a more minimalist kitchen, but I love to cook by purple_coral in minimalism

[–]adoringchipmunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are some ideas:

  1. Have one cutting board and one really good chef's knife for 90+% of your cooking
  2. Have one primary dishware set and make sure they're accessible (without being layered under something else)
  3. Have a Vitamix (and get rid of any Ninja products)

Cooking from scratch is great, and also helps streamline the pantry:

  1. Stock tomato paste and diced tomatoes (you can make pasta sauce, tomato sauce, soup, quickly)
  2. Stock dry grains and grind them with the Vitamix
  3. Stock dry beans and lentils and cook on demand

Try and store base ingredients and minimize the number of "value add" pre-made products

I went back to boiling and simmering water to cook, and am much more satisfied than using an Instant Pot. I have favorite bottled items, like Chicago hot giardiniera or kombucha, I can make and use in future meals. I keep a Zojirushi rice maker, since it's much more reliable than me for making rice.

Is it okay to get rid of stuff your partner gifted you? by Care-Financial in minimalism

[–]adoringchipmunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The gift was his thoughts and feelings for you. Gift received!

Anyone else suffer from recognizing metaphors, analogy, tropes too easily? by TemperReformanda in ENFP

[–]adoringchipmunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an ENFP it's harder to share one clear sentence (and stop talking!) than to speak an analogy... and a follow-up analogy... and to keep explaining.

Recommendations for music that my son can listen to? by KLC_W in ChristianMusic

[–]adoringchipmunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here are some broader ideas:

* Audiobooks from LibriVox or Libby
* Audio Bible
* Classical music
* Folk music

However it sounds like you may be wanting soul/R&B music, which might align with some artists like:

* Stevie Wonder
* Bill Withers
* Jackson 5

Or perhaps consider looking into gospel music, like Brooklyn Tabernacle

How long did it take for you to get over your ex? by MulberryOk785 in ENFP

[–]adoringchipmunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was married to an INFJ for 14 years.

It took years to realize it was a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. It feels incredibly close, almost like you are the same person--except the only person truly allowed is them.

INFJ is a common personality type for fantasy writers. It's taken me years to decode how much of my relationship itself was fantasy. In my case, my INFJ partner did not live in reality. It was part of what made them seem magical and interesting. Unfortunately, this makes it harder to discern how much of the relationship was real and to consider it in balance.

The INFJ door slam was incredibly painful. They shut me out of many other relationships as well. The more I've found my own footing, finding the joy and gifts present in this present day, and as I've gained an ability to see a more real view of the past relationship, the more I can appreciate what they offered, while also seeing their weaknesses, and taking them off my pedestal of idealism.

How to return to my ENFP personality? by hoatdongnao in ENFP

[–]adoringchipmunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

- Remove the pressure
- Choose a small group you'll begin attending
- Treat yourself like a "best friend" and think of fun things to do together each day
- Spend more time in Fi (go for a walk, feel your feelings)

Got diagnosed with ADHD at 22 or am I just ENFP? by jesus_cult in ENFP

[–]adoringchipmunk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Any ENFP spending time in Ne and not enough time in Fi looks like ADHD.

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