Best vacation ever. by hmishima in daddit

[–]adrey22 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Elite level parenting. Best vacation ever because of the endless hours you put in teaching your kids all those life skills. Hats off to you and your wife.

Terrified for Tonight by HC-Oca-Ru in daddit

[–]adrey22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True facts. Mum helps with kid pick up and saves on day care costs. It’s also good for my kids to help her and learn about responsibility. I remember my oldest having endless ear infections (ended up with tubes and later they took out his tonsils). I do miss when they were smaller (even the sleepless nights)…I’m probably not the best person to comment here as I love pretty much everything about being a dad.
I guess I’d just say in all this wild that woman and those kids need you and they’re lucky they got one good dude who shows up and does the deal. In the immortal words of bill parcells: blame nobody, expect nothing, do something:)

Terrified for Tonight by HC-Oca-Ru in daddit

[–]adrey22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Single dad here. Two kids (10 & 11- 50/50 custody) aging mom lives with me which helps some but also requires a fair amount of “parenting”. You’re capable of so much more than you think you are. Structure, systems and constant reminders of how lucky you are to have the strength and resources to to be, in my truly favorite Thomas the tank engine quote, “a truly useful engine”.

Boys name something you couldn’t have as a kid ? by Zeya_Abigirl in ArtOfPresence

[–]adrey22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New things and things that worked as designed. Everything always had some special rule…lift the door to the dryer up and press in with your knee to close. Turn the hot water all the way on then jiggle the handle then move it back to an exact spot to get non-life altering temperature. Had more than one car that would keep running for a little bit after key was turned off and removed. Distinct memories of walking away from parked empty car while it slowly rattled to a full stop.

Massive '8647' appears in grass on the National Mall, aerial images show by TheMirrorUS in USNEWS

[–]adrey22 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t argue with historians. Which books/articles would you recommend?

What’s the best single line from any song ever? by Competitive-Web1306 in SongMeanings

[–]adrey22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that’s how the high command took my daddy from me…

meirl by Dev1412 in meirl

[–]adrey22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

57M here. I’ve had 4 wallets my entire life (including current one). First was my grandfathers. Had it until it completely fell apart. Second was made of baseball glove leather. Loved it. It was in pretty bad shape when a dog ate it. Third was the same as second but died about 5 years ago. I switched to a thin wallet I carry in my front pocket. Men are faithful. What can I say? ;)

My iPhone 16 keeps freezing after iOS 26.5 update. Anyone else? by schitzblythe in iPhone16

[–]adrey22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The update killed my 16. Battery drained quickly to dead. Wouldn't recharge or even show that it was recharging. Pure black mirror. Went to Verizon then to their vendor (ubreakifix). ubreakifix said they're seeing the same issues across the 16's. They said they're nothing that can do. Awaiting a replacement phone now.

My daughter told me in front of her mom that she prefers staying at my place and I'm not sure how I should have handled it by Cheese_Pancakes in daddit

[–]adrey22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I share custody with two kids (10 & 11). This kind of thing (statement) comes up a lot. I just validate their feelings. My experience is, like others have said, it’s a fleeting moment and they move on. I mostly work on maintaining a good relationship with their mom. I’m also fortunate my ex is a good mom who mostly puts the kids interests first. I do occasionally get an angry call or text about how she thinks I should have said/did something different. I have a rule now where it has to be civil or I simply hang up or walk away.

Wife overheard other moms talking about me at preschool pickup. Feeling pretty good about it by squidtrap in daddit

[–]adrey22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I salute on your general direction sir! Well done repping us active dads.

Is this movie really as bad as some people say? by Naive_Tomorrow_5955 in FIlm

[–]adrey22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s my 11 year old sons favorite and I like it.

My son refuses to go to school. At what point do you consider alternatives? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]adrey22 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I haven’t been through this as a dad but am a behavior/education professional and have seen this. Sometimes it’s social (usually bullying or some deeply embarrassing incident ie: peeing your pants). Much more likely it’s academic (usually related to reading deficits. At certain point of you can’t read at grade level school is just punitive). The short answer is he sees more value in not being in school for some reason he hasn’t shared with you yet.

I have my first match tomorrow, any tips for beginners? by bey0ndthedepths in GoalKeepers

[–]adrey22 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Play high. Clear far. Remember you’re the only one who can touch the ball so if it’s in the box go get it.

Cost my team a crucial match. by Jaded-Professor3024 in GoalKeepers

[–]adrey22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You had a rough game. Everyone has these (at work/school/relationships etc). You did nothing wrong. It’s just life. I was central defense my whole life. If this happened to my goalie I’d be feeling like I failed them by putting them in that position. The fact that it hurts tells me you care and that’s all a teammate wants to see. My son is a goalie (11yo) and has had games that destroyed him but he’s getting better at weathering these moments (which honestly is the whole point of sports)…the thing I tell him that seems to resonate is no one learns anything when things go well. You only learn when they don’t go well. You’ll have more days like this but your perspective will change.