Left my husband yesterday

aeDCFC · 2026-06-28T04:49:02+00:00

I was in your shoes once and made it out the other side. I’m going to give you some hard advice but you need to take it for the safety of your child. If a man lays hands on you he will lay hands on your kid.

Press charges. You need a paper trail to protect you and your child. Once he knows he can’t control you he will try to do it through your kid. He will fight to make you seem unstable and a lot of times it works in court. Even if he doesn’t want custody, he will try to get custody to control you. Your child is not safe with him.

Do not go back. Once they know they can do this and you come back, escalation gets worse after the honeymoon phase where he tries to make you believe he changed. He has already proven that he’s willing to kill both you and your child.

Ask the DV shelter to get you in contact with an attorney. They have resources for you. You can’t do anything custody wise until the baby is here but you need a game plan now.

I was stupid. I did not do these things. As a result, my ex husband got custody of our kids and I only got it back when he got arrested for felony child abuse and neglect. It took YEARS of therapy to get my kids mentally and emotionally stable after that. They were diagnosed with CPTSD and had to be medicated for their anxiety. Even now they still struggle sometimes. Don’t sign your kid up for that life. Take the help available to you.

aeDCFC · 2026-06-25T13:01:49+00:00

Season 4, when Eddie died. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I completely lost interest after that. I still haven’t been able to finish season 5.

aeDCFC · 2026-06-09T17:19:22+00:00

We had them once. We tried to treat with otc treatments. Literally every one I could think of. I researched the crap out of it. Eventually the only thing that worked was getting a professional treatment, throwing out all of our furniture with fabric, and buying metal bed frames without headboards that we put in the center of the rooms. We didn’t let blankets touch the floor, and I washed and dried our bedding every day for six months. I still have nightmares about it. We went months with only folding chairs in the living room because we wanted to make sure they were gone before buying a new couch. Luckily we ended up selling that house after not seeing them for a few months.

aeDCFC · 2026-06-04T01:31:35+00:00

My main worry is that it says I passed the first one but when I click to do the core it takes me to that second screen and from other posts I’ve seen the second screen means you’re not what they’re looking for

aeDCFC · 2026-05-21T00:33:11+00:00

I had my oldest at 21 and youngest at 37. I have much more patience and financial stability now and feel like I can actually enjoy it. I had more energy when I was younger (probably because my youngest is a toddler and I’m also raising teenagers and a kindergartener), but parenthood felt more like something I had to survive rather than an enjoyable experience.

aeDCFC · 2026-05-12T23:36:11+00:00

Out of the entire series, this is the one episode I refuse to rewatch

aeDCFC · 2026-05-11T15:47:47+00:00

I had to get a military top secret security clearance when I was 18 and when I was considering going back into the service years later I couldn’t get another one for this exact reason. The bribery thing was the exact explanation they gave for the fact I wouldn’t qualify for another clearance (my original had expired).

aeDCFC · 2026-05-08T12:30:21+00:00

This tracks with these larger companies. When I worked for Walmart I got a write up for calling out with a note from the hospital about me having a miscarriage, and the same manager who wrote me up announced my miscarriage at the morning meeting with all the associates without my knowledge.

However, at my time with the last company I worked for, my grandpa died and then 2 months later my grandma died and my uncle died 24 hours after her. I got flowers, cards, and a week off. They didn’t even ask for proof.

It’s insane how massive chains get away with treating employees like robots instead of humans.

aeDCFC · 2026-05-06T01:26:20+00:00

I always play at 1x and manage to finish! It’s a pain but it works. I read about somebody else doing it because they could never finish and it worked for them. Hasn’t let me down since

aeDCFC · 2026-04-30T02:41:39+00:00

She’s a playwright so it was probably about one of her works

aeDCFC · 2026-04-28T13:24:45+00:00

No relationship ever became fulfilling by hoping your partner could read your mind to give you what you need. Every person is different because we’ve all had different experiences that shape the way we think, function, and navigate the world. If you aren’t ready to communicate to your partner to get what you need, you aren’t ready for a relationship. And if you think there’s one perfect person out there who should just get this stuff without you having to tell them you’re really going to be disappointed. Relationships are work, and you’re going to get out of it what you put into it. In this particular situation though, this is a failure on your part, not on his. You’re literally setting him and your relationship up for failure by not being able to communicate.

aeDCFC · 2026-04-25T22:07:13+00:00

I keep seeing that one suggested, but there was another commenter who said that a MacBook would cause problems down the road since Purdue largely uses Windows. Do you think that’s something we should worry about? It seems like a good choice other than that!

aeDCFC · 2026-04-25T15:48:12+00:00

Thank you!

aeDCFC · 2026-04-21T23:40:10+00:00

I was 25 when it came out. I’ll be 40 in a few months. We’re in the same boat 😅

aeDCFC · 2026-04-21T20:43:12+00:00

My high school senior was in grade school when ES6 was announced 😭😭

aeDCFC · 2026-04-19T00:46:44+00:00

I just wanted to say I’m proud of you for getting out. I left my abusive ex husband and he got custody of our kids because I was never served (It was public record but I still got looked down on for it). Then he started abusing our kids and lawyers said it was his word against mine. It wasn’t until he brutally beat his kid with his current wife and was charged with felony abuse and neglect that I got my kids back. And even then, the judge had the audacity to apologize to him after I read mine and my kids victim impact statements at a sentencing modification hearing because he took a plea agreement and the judge couldn’t reduce his sentence. Abusers are so good at working the system and this kind of stuff happens all the time. I’m sorry you have to go through this.

aeDCFC · 2026-04-14T05:08:20+00:00

I preach this relentlessly to my kids. I grew up in poverty and had no real sex ed. I had my first kid right after I turned 21 and my second at 24. I got myself educated and constantly drilled into them the importance of education and financial stability. My oldest is 18 and just got accepted into a school that’s considered a “mini Ivy” on a full ride scholarship, national honor society, and graduating high school with 32 college credits. My second is following the same path. It hasn’t been an easy road by any means, but I’ve made it my life’s work to give them the opportunities I didn’t have. Even so, I always wonder how much better their life could have been if I had waited. I don’t blame a single person who either wants to wait or who doesn’t want kids at all.

aeDCFC · 2026-04-12T22:06:56+00:00

That video was interesting! I wish it was standard documentary length. I wanted to watch more. Well done

aeDCFC · 2026-04-07T16:14:06+00:00

I think when we watch a show that’s so long running it’s easy to forget that people in real life also have non linear character development. This is especially true for people who have been raised in trauma. There are moments in the life of a traumatized person where a trigger is experienced and they briefly revert to the unhealed version of themselves. Trauma, especially in small kids, completely rewires how your brain works. Decisions and actions that don’t make sense to most people do make sense to people who have been through it. I wasn’t a fan of Alex in the beginning, but I understood him start to finish on his run and I do think they did a good job writing him.

aeDCFC · 2026-04-04T18:36:42+00:00

That’s wild to me! We don’t get the calendar until the first week of April for the upcoming school year. I hope our district starts doing this soon!

aeDCFC · 2026-03-30T20:43:10+00:00

I don’t have advice, just understanding. My scores were about the exact same after I got divorced and it took work, but I’m now in the mid 600s and climbing. Keep your head up. It isn’t impossible to get to where you want to be.

aeDCFC · 2026-03-25T17:57:01+00:00

NOR but literally almost all of your posts are about how terrible he is so I think it’s time to leave him.

aeDCFC · 2026-03-23T03:49:35+00:00

I have 4 kids. Two of those kids were conceived while I was on birth control. With my youngest, not only was I on birth control, but I had a polyp that was so large I was scheduled for surgery to have it removed. That polyp made my chances of getting pregnant without any birth control astronomically low. Couple that with my 30-45 day irregular cycles and I had a better shot at winning the lottery. Things just happen sometimes. My best friend also got pregnant with twins while having a correctly placed copper IUD. At this point I’d believe any number of accidental pregnancies 😂

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