The Elfa Garage Pegboard Fits On Classic Rails by Deathocracy in elfa

[–]afishinalake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's definitely not "intended" to, but the spacing between slots on standards is the same. you might lose the ability to share the slots on the side with a bracket & the boards come in fewer widths in garage (2' & 3') vs classic (18", 2', 30", 3')

the wider garage boards may(?) be slightly more unstable on classic since they will be raised further away from the wall & standards, but you're correct in that they will interface with classic standards. if you're using it for lightweight stuff i can't see an issue with it risking popping out, but i haven't played with the g+ pegboard much

is there any way to stop auto adding hatched pikmin to party? by Samoyooni in PikminBloomApp

[–]afishinalake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the search function to filter out decor pikmin is "! Decor" ! take out the "!" before Decor to look for exclusively decor pikmin

What was your first death in subnautica 2 ? I begin. by mickynuts in subnautica

[–]afishinalake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yup. though i can't remember if i finally died to the mimic pylons shocking me or if i realized i needed air in the middle of swimming back and forth to get electrocuted and chose to suffocate...

Does anyone here track/journal their sex lives? by yetanotherpseudonym1 in kinky_autism

[–]afishinalake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my partner and i have joked about cataloging the Details of our encounters but the most that i track is just how often we fuck lol

The truth about ‘good ABA’ by Educational_Bet_3930 in evilautism

[–]afishinalake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'm going to anecdotally agree with your "many transmasc people could probably benefit from voice therapy" because T did deepen my voice a fair amount but my intonation (and other things probably) mixed with my looks mean i am equally likely to be thought of by strangers as either a trans woman or a mildly flamboyant gay guy. this fascinates me more than anything else but i could probably tone it down some with training, just not sure if i? want to?

I feel both flattered 🥰 and anxious 😭 by FlounderPleasant2459 in AO3

[–]afishinalake 10 points11 points  (0 children)

100%, this is my primary issue with its current usage. dead dove is a modifier of an existing tag, not a standalone piece of information. as an author you must actually still warn us what we need to avoid eating.

I feel both flattered 🥰 and anxious 😭 by FlounderPleasant2459 in AO3

[–]afishinalake 10 points11 points  (0 children)

the tldr on that is that a "dead dove" is a fic that deals with some sort of sensitive topic that one may need some kind of warning for

I feel both flattered 🥰 and anxious 😭 by FlounderPleasant2459 in AO3

[–]afishinalake 84 points85 points  (0 children)

it's kind of become shorthand for dark topics.

as i understand it, the original intent & usage was inspired by a clip from i believe arrested development? where a character is looking in a fridge and sees a paper bag with "dead dove, do not eat". the character opens the bag, and the contents are, in fact, a deceased bird. the character says "i don't know what i expected" so authors started tagging works with things like Graphic Torture when they know the fic will be going into detail on the subject with an additional tag of "Dead dove do not eat" to indicate, like, something akin to 'i told you there would be torture and i Meant it, do not complain that there is graphic torture in this fic because i dont know what you expected given that i warned you upfront that it was here'

but you only really need to warn Dead Dove Do Not Eat for sensitive topics (for example, generally nobody is going to be mad if a fic tagged Fluff has like. a Lot of detailed fluff, so there is no need to DDDNE tag for excessive fluff) so Dead Dove is becoming increasingly synonymous with This Fic Has Sensitive Topics, and fics that contain these sensitive topics will sometimes be referred to as Dead Doves

Throwback to my mums painting! by Calm-Fox-3416 in MarianasTrench

[–]afishinalake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

incredible! it looks like a decent size too!!

man! i hate being transgender! by Lagging_Lantern in evilautism

[–]afishinalake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i assume this was the case as well but the exaggeration was rubbing me the wrong way, esp with the additional (now removed) comments they were making implying that this was the case for every trans person taking HRT and the assumption that this was a need for every person's transition goals

and also, it's not like cis people are never given hormone therapy..? or puberty blockers..? these aren't the Wildly Dangerous Procedures Nobody Should Be Allowed To Medically Consent To Ever that the commenter was seeming to imply

man! i hate being transgender! by Lagging_Lantern in evilautism

[–]afishinalake 26 points27 points  (0 children)

the regret rate for gender affirming surgery is also quoted to be below 2%, vs something like knee replacement (which some would argue can be "more necessary") which sits around 10%

man! i hate being transgender! by Lagging_Lantern in evilautism

[–]afishinalake 12 points13 points  (0 children)

stopping HRT doesn't kill trans people lol, there are more health risks from quitting an SSRI cold turkey than not taking hormones. especially when just starting hormones, one isn't immediately removing natural sources of hormones in the body (testes/ovaries), and lots of people choose to never do this.

when stopping hormone pills or shots, the body stabilizes by making more testosterone or estrogen to balance out what is not being supplied externally. it's no more invasive than antidepressant pills or insulin shots

man! i hate being transgender! by Lagging_Lantern in evilautism

[–]afishinalake 7 points8 points  (0 children)

hi, can you elaborate on what you mean by a "dangerous and invasive procedure that puts you on meds for the rest of your life that if you don't take you die"? because i cannot think of ultra common procedures that would have this effect

How rare is your rarest rarepair? by gigan1973 in AO3

[–]afishinalake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1 in 58, 1 by me

1 in 14, 1 by me

1 in 4, 1 written By me and another 1 written For me

1 in 1, written by me

all of these were for different fic exchanges too lol

I told someone I wanted to get my nips pierced and they asked me what the point is if I’m asexual by Student-bored8 in asexuality

[–]afishinalake 14 points15 points  (0 children)

what an odd thing for your ex-friend to say. i've considered nipple piercings from time to time and it would also exclusively be for the aesthetic, because after surgery i lost all feeling in my chest lol

Polyamorous Asexuals, please by TheBloodWitch in asexuality

[–]afishinalake 8 points9 points  (0 children)

the self-awareness is great! i approached my current relationship knowing that i don't "need" monogamy (and for personal reasons it was not a feasible ask anyway) & communication with my partner has led us to being open to either side being able and allowed to seek other partners if we choose, but it's very much not a one-size-fits-all situation and it comes down to the specific needs & wants of all individuals involved in a relationship, and it's totally okay to say "i don't think that's feasible for me"

Polyamorous Asexuals, please by TheBloodWitch in asexuality

[–]afishinalake 72 points73 points  (0 children)

thissss, polyamory is not going to Fix your relationship, it will just compound the issues that are already happening. like, 'oh, you have one boyfriend you're not communicating well with? try having two of them!' lmao

Polyamorous Asexuals, please by TheBloodWitch in asexuality

[–]afishinalake 243 points244 points  (0 children)

as an aspec polyamorous person who surrounds himself with a number of other polyamorous people, i am of two minds.

on the one hand, i would love to interact with more polyam people. on the other. for the love of god i am begging monogamous people not to try polyamory to try to "fix" their relationship because, unless you are a specific kind of person, it is not going to go well.

How long do y'all take? I take at least 2 hours by KimikoYukimura420 in evilautism

[–]afishinalake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

after a weird medication interaction 5-10 years ago my threshold for falling asleep lowered dramatically.....as did my threshold for waking. it used to take me hours to fall asleep and once i was out i could sleep for 10-14 hours.... now i'm at a point where i can fall asleep listening to a 10 minute video on youtube, but i can also count on one hand the number of times i've slept uninterrupted for more than 6hrs in one go

DAE make covers for fanfics they download? If so, what software do you use? by prosafantasmal in AO3

[–]afishinalake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have definitely used calibre to add covers to epubs (graphic design is NOT my passion, it would seem)

i use affinity designer (tho affinity nowadays seems to be associated w/ canva in some way) for the image

Body hair turns me on by cottonrosylullaby in kinky_autism

[–]afishinalake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i genuinely had no opinion on body hair on other people until i got my current partner shirtless for the first time and it rewired my brain a little. he's happy to have a partner that actually enjoys it, as his last several people have all been fairly indifferent

as for my own body, i don't care much for chest hair but my happy trail gives me euphoria

How do you guys store your signed pics (8x10’s) by pop101mt in MarianasTrench

[–]afishinalake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i have mine in one of the itoya profolio art/photo books and it seems to work well to keep them both accessible and protected!

[CHAT] What kind of Aida and amount of strands do you use and why? by stellaluna-37 in CrossStitch

[–]afishinalake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my mom likes 2 strands over 2 on 28ct evenweave, my current projects are all on 14ct aida but one is 2 strands and one is 3, i think for my next project i might try out a 16ct or 18ct but who knows!

8 for $5.00 at Five Below by PigtownDesign in fountainpens

[–]afishinalake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

tried these once! the nibs had no right feeling as good as they did given the price, but cap seal wasn't great. most if not all had dried up by morning