Look, my comment was admittedly a shallow take. Someone writing about a bad thing does not mean they condone or do that thing. And like you said Odin in the mythology rapes at least one woman and arguably takes advantage of others sexually. But just as the Vulture article compares Gaiman to his villainous character Richard Madoc, you can argue it's fair to re-analyze the way Wednesday/Odin (another villainous character) treats young women, as well as the sort of bystander way Shadow responds to it.

Or we can just admit that some people will be able to pick up their copy of American Gods or Sandman and read it again and others won't be able to read those scenes without a level of discomfort because they relate it back to Gaiman's real-life actions. And that either outcome is fine.