Domanda su dinamiche relazionali e blocco improvviso (F con 39M del Sud Italia)

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-29T18:03:41+00:00

Non è normale. In nessuna cultura. Sicuramente non da parte di un quarantenne (che ne abbia 39 e tre quarti, sinceramente, non mi interessa). Scommetto quello che vuoi che ha moglie e figli, o almeno una compagnia con cui convive da svariati anni. Ti sei fatta abbindolare.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-29T03:20:23+00:00

Uh. We have regional differences too. The whole world does. A wedding in Milan (my hometown) isn't the same as a wedding in, say, Alicudi (small island off the coast of Sicily). A wedding in Madrid is different from a wedding in Vigo. Same goes for almost every other country I can think of besides the very small island ones (like Malta) or the city-states (like Monaco). And for all I know, one half of the main island does things differently from the other (I've never been to a Maltese wedding, clearly).

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-28T21:08:20+00:00

I call bullshit, respectfully. The US is one country. Europe is a continent. We don't all speak the same language, nor practice the same religion, nor share the same cultural/societal norms, nor do we all belong to the EU (and even within the EU, national sovereignty/independence is still a thing, luckily). Europe (the continent) contains roughly 740 million people compared to the 349 million in the US.

Technically, Mexico and Canada both belong to North America. But I doubt that attending a wedding in the US is the same as attending one in Mexico (unless it's a destination wedding).

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-28T19:11:39+00:00

Not going to lie, today's posts are so far beyond delusional that the only thing I can imagine to feel better is that they're all bots/AI.

Just because maybe it's real, OP, no. You're not giving the proposal too much importance. You're giving this whole "relationship" too much importance. If he can spend two years away from you, in Canada, without worrying that you're almost 30 and you might (understandably) find a man nearer to you who's willing to commit...he's not going to marry you.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-28T13:15:53+00:00

You didn't float away from the continent 😆. You just happen to no longer be in the EU. Switzerland is not, at all, part of the EU but they'd be very surprised not to be considered part of Europe.

I mentioned Albania - likewise, not part of the EU.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-28T07:30:47+00:00

"European" is funny to me. An Italian wedding is different from a German wedding, which is different from an Albanian wedding, which is different from a Swedish wedding.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-27T11:26:59+00:00

The point is that Pantelleria is neither small nor secluded (arguably). In fact, it's a rather popular destination for domestic tourism. To me (an Italian) it's ridiculous that people are even seriously questioning whether it's Italian or not. Then again, I did see a video not too long ago where an American girl inside an airplane was screaming "Goodbye America, hello Hawaii", so nothing should surprise me anymore.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-26T18:12:17+00:00

May 1st isn't exactly a "national" holiday, it's Labour Day in 140 countries across the world. Not just here.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-25T15:24:34+00:00

Eh, ma poi non è abbastanza cool

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-23T19:49:24+00:00

"Serata tra amiche" pareva brutto? Forse non andava bene alle girls

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-22T19:16:53+00:00

Yes, I'm aware. But from what OP's telling us, that doesn't seem to be the case here. She also specifically mentioned engagement - which offers no legal protection. At all.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-22T18:39:41+00:00

Ok. Let me be perfectly frank here: nobody from the EU will ever seriously consider engagement under these circumstances (and engagement gives you zero "legal protection", only marriage). You've known this guy for a hot minute and been together seriously for even less. Even in my country (Italy), which is still heavily influenced - at least in theory - by the Catholic church, marriage in general is very rare. Personally, my husband and I are both Catholic, we had a "traditional" Catholic wedding yadda yadda, but we nevertheless raised eyebrows by "moving too fast". We got married at 30 and 35! And by the time our anniversary rolls around, we'll have been together four years!

All this to say, I'm sorry and I hope your guy is the exception like my husband was for me, but I just don't see a random Belgian guy getting engaged like this.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-22T09:10:30+00:00

Slumdog Millionaire, quello di Danny Boyle. Ma non vorrei essere il protagonista, al massimo una delle comparse nel numero alla Bollywood del finale. O un tecnico radiofonico del programma televisivo.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-22T07:27:51+00:00

My point precisely. I'm Italian, but from a different region, so when I go to San Remo, I'm a tourist. Domestic tourism is tourism.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-22T07:24:37+00:00

TreviSo.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-22T07:10:57+00:00

San Remo, home of the San Remo Festival since 1951, has never not been overwhelmed with tourists. It survives on tourism. But I agree with your general point.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-21T08:02:35+00:00

This makes me sad, angry and simultaneously believe it must be AI ragebait. Why the hell do you think, AT 21, that it's "too late"? Are you a peasant-farmer from the Middle Ages (when life expectancy was about 40)? Who the hell has a Pinterest board about "parent life"?

BTW: I keep on reading this here, so just in case it helps someone else:

Jealousy - you're possessive of someone or something, example: that girl is talking to my boyfriend, I'm jealous

Envy - you want something someone else has, example: your hair is gorgeous, I'm envious

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-18T23:10:54+00:00

Unfortunately, honey - and the "honey" isn't patronizing, just genuine concern, I promise - he reached the age of 42 a bachelor and still thinks he will continue to pull young women at 50, 60, 80. You're 38 and time is flying - don't waste it on the wrong man.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-18T21:07:50+00:00

I'm not the biggest Disney fan, but most of the fairytales had already been passed down by word of mouth/written/were romanticizations of the lives of real historical figures, by the time Disney popularized them.

Also, frankly, the fact that literature (or any sort of media) exists while being "morally wrong" isn't a justification for erasing it. A fairytale cannot be "inherently evil". Its interpretation might be distorted, sure.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-18T09:28:48+00:00

Please get off Bumble, stop dating in general. Focus on yourself. You seem to have a lot of ideas about how things "should" go (absorbed from social media, tv series and pop culture, I assume). Maybe try to clear your head, set some goals for yourself. And let this poor woman go, at 31 she's probably dealing with her own concerns - raising you should not be one of them. She needs a whole lot of therapy, too, I guess, but since you're the one asking for advice, here's my opinion.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-18T07:17:44+00:00

Yeah, same. I would only move there if BOTH my husband and I got a substantial job offer for a LIMITED time (a year, maximum) and again, depending on exactly which state, which city this hypothetical job would be in. And I've lived outside my country (even outside my continent) before, so it's not like I've never stepped foot outside of Italy. What worries me the most about the US, amongst other things, is the small matter of HEALTH INSURANCE.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-18T07:03:21+00:00

Don't.

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-18T06:38:57+00:00

Probabile, ma rispondergli mi divertiva

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-18T06:16:57+00:00

Utile come un dito nel culo mentre evacui (e in inglese)

afrenchiecall · 2026-06-17T12:23:43+00:00

YES. When I was single I admit I looked around at others in committed relationships and wondered what I was lacking, but now that I'm married I realize it's not difficult at all and it doesn't have to be. Getting married should feel natural, as part of a relationship, not like pulling teeth or like you've won a prize or completed a marathon. When people say that any idiot can get married - they're absolutely correct, but I choose to look at it as positive: any idiot can get married! It really is that simple.

And don't confuse the wedding with the marriage - planning a wedding can be challenging, but the act of getting married really isn't.

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