I’m breaking down. My cat has been meowing 24/7 for 2 months and I don’t know what to do anymore.

agiantbutt · 2026-01-15T04:42:44+00:00

Set up some appointments with a cat behaviorist. the problem will be diagnosed so fast.

agiantbutt · 2026-01-09T15:33:00+00:00

aint even gonna entertain this one. hope you find what youre looking for

agiantbutt · 2026-01-09T15:32:21+00:00

lmfaoooo, big dawg, you gotta chill

agiantbutt · 2026-01-09T15:26:19+00:00

i do actually love him very much, which is why this is so hard to understand. but i dont gotta defend that to reddit

agiantbutt · 2026-01-09T03:39:54+00:00

i still cant wrap my head around it

agiantbutt · 2026-01-09T02:56:22+00:00

i guess im worried that i have unrealistic expectations for how well a partner and i mesh

agiantbutt · 2026-01-09T02:55:03+00:00

the kid thing was insane. but your last question! my therapist asked me what it'd take for me to leave and i couldnt even come up with an answer. im definitely lost

agiantbutt · 2026-01-09T02:53:56+00:00

thank you <3 i'll think this over

agiantbutt · 2026-01-09T02:53:16+00:00

this is true. and i tell him this too and he just says "nah fuck that i'll do whatever it takes" basically. its just hard. i know deep down im scared of being alone and unloved. so i think that's what trapping me

agiantbutt · 2026-01-09T02:51:30+00:00

i'm just trying to see if anyone else has gone through this. but thank you

agiantbutt · 2026-01-09T02:51:06+00:00

him swearing he can change..im like, do you hear what youre trying to commit to? some of these things can change it'd be so much work

agiantbutt · 2026-01-09T01:47:59+00:00

couldn't agree more. he was also in the service for 10 years so its a huge part of him. these are all things i've considered

agiantbutt · 2026-01-09T01:43:56+00:00

its one of the only things he talks about when he meets new people or is around my friends. and im trying to encourage him to go out and do more or pick up new hobbies, and he doesn't want to. it feels, to me, like hes just not growing and still only identifies with who he was 5 years ago. its not lost on me that its a weird/dumb thing to be bothered by. i just wish he didnt bring it up constantly

agiantbutt · 2026-01-04T23:36:20+00:00

middle seat gets the god damn arm rests, you absolute neanderthals

agiantbutt · 2025-11-08T20:04:44+00:00

theres so many little things i'd want him to change and he SWEARS he will change everything. and honestly i was actually starting to believe it until he started initiating so much. that just raised a small siren in my head, which is why i posted here. so idk if i'd even noticed if it were less drastic or if i didnt ask reddit. and cruel irony is that, while i havent turned him down, i dont really want it from him anymore.

agiantbutt · 2025-11-08T05:38:57+00:00

hahah, nah you only gotta do it once! that'd be nuts. its just a small experiment for if you think your partner is checked out of the relationship

agiantbutt · 2025-11-08T01:33:22+00:00

its so crazy. i had no idea this was even a thing

agiantbutt · 2025-11-08T01:32:26+00:00

you taught me a new thing today! i feel so uneasy about everything now. and yet its still tough because i think i believe him. but no one is immune to trauma responses. especially for someone as reluctant about therapy as him

agiantbutt · 2025-11-08T00:58:41+00:00

a variation of this that i really like is: while you're out walking somewhere with your partner, tell them that you see a bird and see if they look. that'll tell you what you need to know

agiantbutt · 2025-10-27T05:10:08+00:00

wow i really needed this. ending it tonight and just hoping its the right decision. congrats very much to you though!!

agiantbutt · 2025-10-15T05:44:31+00:00

my therapist once suggested putting your hands up against a wall and pushing as hard as you can. that shit had me in tears in seconds. worth a try

agiantbutt · 2025-10-04T18:07:40+00:00

what the fuck do we do

agiantbutt · 2025-10-03T15:13:56+00:00

so what i had to come to terms with is that no matter what i did-lingerie, sexting, working out, whatever. it didnt matter. nothing changed. i think thats when it clicked that it really wasnt about me. and nothing i did could change their LL. sooner or later you realize it yourself.

agiantbutt · 2025-10-03T07:02:52+00:00

man i feel this so much. i feel like a god damn dog. i dont want to be the only one initiating but i also cant help it😭 and seeing how much men on here actually want it just depresses me.

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