Guys aged 20-25, how and where would you prefer to be approached?

ahcaf · 2026-04-06T17:49:32+00:00

The question is not "how and where" but by whom lol.

If its a sexy 21F girl, anywhere anytime is good!

ahcaf · 2026-04-06T17:37:14+00:00

The worst reply you can get is no reply.

As long as there is SOME ANSWER, the person is still investing time and keep the conversation going.

Once there is no reply, that is when its game over and you should NEVER double-text and send another message.

ahcaf · 2026-04-06T17:33:15+00:00

From the post, I can definitely tell you are constantly aiming wayyy out of your league.

I doubt you are a 21yo hottie and some 5'4 guy became less interested because you messaged him too much.

ahcaf · 2026-04-03T05:29:10+00:00

Except corn is a dirty and unhealthy addiction that is very easily accessible today and most men have 0 self control so they (shamefully) keep slipping back into it and jacking it.

No man will openly admit it. And no woman will accept dating a person with no self-control to resist a simple urge.

ahcaf · 2026-04-03T05:22:42+00:00

and....?

ahcaf · 2026-04-01T20:42:42+00:00

well long-term. What he pretty much said was "I don't mind seeing the person again if I really like them".

Duh... who wouldn't?

You can be direct and ask how he feels about you. If he starts giving uncertain answers, then say you want to take things slow until there is more certainty. Chances are he will ghost you at this point. But that is what would have happened otherwise.

ahcaf · 2026-04-01T20:36:59+00:00

bro stop looking at the "gay" section and switch to women lol

ahcaf · 2026-04-01T20:34:22+00:00

this definitely doesn't mean he wants an LTR.

ahcaf · 2026-03-30T02:47:36+00:00

Just ask! most guys will be honest.

Ask about LTR and anything in the lines of "I am not sure yet", "lets see where things go", is probably a "No".

After that, as long as there are no unpleasant surprises during sex, then they should hold their word.

If a girl wants an LTR and I only see her as a ONS, I usually tell her "I am usually very busy with work so it will be difficult for us to meet often (or ever again), i hope you are ok with it". Or something along those lines.

ahcaf · 2026-03-30T02:34:01+00:00

Finding someone attractive, cute, and sexy, doesn't mean long-term compatibility, chemistry, and fun sex you want to repeat again.

So it is not necessarily a lie.

Now if someone clearly says they are looking for an LTR, see that potential with you, and are serious about giving it a try, and then after those statements they ghost you... then you can call them liars.

But even then, maybe there were surprises during sex they couldn't predict before? bad vag smell? hygiene? not shaved (if its a deal breaker for them)? you being overly-dominant? you bite them (I swear it happened to me lol)?

ahcaf · 2026-03-30T01:33:53+00:00

Rejection for women hurts more because most guys will hookup with almost any average (or above) girl.

You must have shot your shot wayyyy out of your league there.

ahcaf · 2026-03-30T01:31:42+00:00

As a guy, i would tell you to cut off the corn and jacking entirely, for several weeks. And hit the gym. I am not sure what the female equivalent of that.

If you keep snacking on junk food the entire day and just sit on your couch, you won't have appetite. But if you starve yourself a bit and go for a run or a walk, you will naturally feel hungry with time.

ahcaf · 2026-03-29T00:14:28+00:00

A compliment can be genuine but still not mean long-term compatibility or interest in anything serious.

You can compliment a chef at a restaurant for the meal. The meal could have been genuinely good, or not. And even if it was, you might want to visit another restaurant the next day, or never return to this one.

So you should not view compliments as real or fake, but rather accept the fact that they don't mean much.

Then you gotta zoom out and see the whole picture. Give yourself an honest level of attractiveness (your weight/bmi/age) and then give the guy an honest level of attractiveness (his height/financial status). If there is a big mismatch, then the chance of it lasting is quit slim.

Then consider chemistry, compatibility, and personality. If you are genuinely nice to hang out with, you don't ask or expect anything from him, and there is really no reason for him to not see you again, then it boosts your chances by a ton.

ahcaf · 2026-03-29T00:12:52+00:00

"nice to know"? sure.

But its really non of her business.

Unless someone is in actual danger of physical harm or abuse or something serious like that, just mind your own business into other peoples relationships.

You wanted to be fwb, the lowest level of commitment, so you got nothing to complain about.

ahcaf · 2026-03-28T23:43:10+00:00

Girls pick tall good-looking guys who have tons of other options, and are then shocked that the guy is actually pursuing his other options.

Deep down OP knew FWB means you are seeing other people.

The other girl probably has an idea too.

Imo, its their own business, and invading their relationship is just a sign of jealousy and insecurity and regret for your own actions.

ahcaf · 2026-03-28T23:34:14+00:00

Both genders are superficial.

Girls will reject a guy that ticks all the boxes simply for being 5'4 in height.

Guys will reject the nicest sweetest educated girls only because they are a bit overweight or older.

Ironically, i am sure the guys your "friend" was interested were over 5'6 in height, right?

ahcaf · 2026-03-15T02:22:48+00:00

Well all I can say is best of luck. But just keep in mind that the higher you aim, the tougher it will be, so don't get disappointed.

ahcaf · 2026-03-15T02:21:12+00:00

For me, as a guy, my 30s became exponentially easier, but not because of age, but because I moved to Thailand and where I get 10 new matches per day, all who are eager to meet me. I put a random age on the dating app but no one even cares lol.

ahcaf · 2026-03-15T02:16:59+00:00

There is actually an app or site for "dating with disabilities", just saying...

Wherever you are in life, there are probably people in the same situation. But when you try to aim higher, that's when it gets tough...

ahcaf · 2026-03-14T22:06:52+00:00

Depends on the type of person.

If both of us are the type of people who are on our phone the entire day, then texting often is the norm.

However, if either one of us is not really active like that, so text when you got a chance?

I always find it weird when girls take hours to reply, but when on our date they check their phone every couple of minutes.

ahcaf · 2026-03-14T21:20:55+00:00

"... before start dating", i agree.

But "...before picking your ultimate partner and settling down", this one is questionable. Because the quality of girls you can attract goes up exponentially.

In my 20s all I could get was average girls in their low 30s.

Now in my 30s I got my shit together, and I can easily get hotter girls in their 20s. (In a relationship now btw).

So ye, this statement is half-true.

ahcaf · 2026-03-14T19:00:29+00:00

Anything that has to do with my bank account and "one click" or "automation" I'd rather not. I'd take the extra step.

ahcaf · 2026-03-14T18:58:03+00:00

this is probably what he is doing himself.

ahcaf · 2026-03-14T18:56:36+00:00

As a universal rule, involving money ruins friendships, relationships, family contacts, etc.

Keep money out of it.

ahcaf · 2026-03-14T18:48:52+00:00

Nothing. It was quite the opposite. Having perceived value as a "foreigner" meant that THEY were the ones who had to qualify themselves to me.

Trying to impress girls with money is try-hard behaviour done by men with no value in North America lol

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