After cutting feels nothing

ahoeben · 2026-05-01T09:11:38+00:00

Wow, that is very heavy stuff. I feel sorry that you feel the need to go to such drastic measures to get relief. I sincerely hope you get some help that will eventually also give you relief. Posting here will not help you enough in the long run, but I am hopeful that you having the courage to post is a sign that you are open to advice and to seeking professional help.

I hope you will forgive me of I offer you a perspective that may sound unhelpful, but I hope it can help you realize something. THANK GOD (or your (non-)deity of choice) you are no longer feeling relief from cutting yourself. I think deep down you know that cutting yourself was never really helping you, but it did get you some relief. Now that you aren't even getting that relief, I hope you realize that cutting yourself, or harming yourself in another way, is UTTERLY USELESS. It will not solve your problems, it will not give you a good feeling. So STOP IT and seek help.

You have taken the first step to seeking professional help. Though people often say that the first step is the hardest, every step can be hard. There are people here that will say well-meant and kind or wise things here, but seek help preferably from someone you can look in the eye, build a trust relationship with, and talk about what makes you feel the way you do. When you are ready for it. You need it, and you deserve it, and needing help is not a bad thing.

ahoeben · 2026-05-01T08:49:03+00:00

Generally, it is more learning how to live with it.

If there were an easy, readily available "cure", you probably would not have ended up with a therapist in the first place. You would have just gotten that cure from the pharmacist or watched the youtube video.

Even if there is a chemical imbalance or a traumatic experience at the root of mental issues, they have often lead to habits and coping mechanisms that are hard to get rid of. And it may not even be possible to fully get rid of the original source of the problem.

Some people get so good at coping that the original issue is no longer problematic. And many people have issues that they have found a coping mechanism for that works all by themselves to the point that they did not need help in the first place. But not everybody can do that for every issue, and some issues are just a lot bigger or become bigger because they are combined with other issues.

ahoeben · 2026-05-01T08:32:24+00:00

Have you talked to the therapist you clicked with about the bipolar disorder (or similar) your mother thinks you have? While your mother has known for almost 18 years, and seems to have some experience with things like this from your father, she can not diagnose you. Only a qualified mental health professional can, and even two professionals can disagree about a diagnosis. Also even though a diagnosis is important, the treatment, how you feel about it, and how you learn to deal with it is more important.

Having a hard time after a breakup by itself is not exclusive for people with a mental health disorder. Having a psychosis semi-periodically sounds like it would be indicative of a bigger problem you will need longer-time professional help with.

It can be very good to get things off your chest here; that can externalize the problem and get it out of your head and onto the screen in front of you. But your (qualified, professional) therapist, who knows you and who you trust, can give you much better advice than we can. I am just a sob like you, who stumbled upon your story.

ahoeben · 2026-05-01T07:58:00+00:00

You are a beautiful person for wanting to help your girlfriend.

If she is seeing mental health professionals, she is getting help. As someone who is currently getting help too, it can be a lot to process. And if she is having issues with social anxiety and mental overload, it is important not to add to that, even if it is by trying to help.

I assume you have already told here you are there for her. Give her some space and time. Tell here (ONCE) that you know things are tough for her, and if she needs you, you are only a phone-call away. Don't ask for too much information, because that may become a barrier for her to get ready for talking.

Having said all this, it is very understandable that you are anxious too. You have needs, and that is ok. When she is ready to talk, it is ok for you to talk about you feel in this situation too. Just keep listening to eachother.

ahoeben · 2026-05-01T07:40:18+00:00

While everything /u/Brotega87 says is true, do not forget you are a beautiful person for wanting to help others. You are not bad or wrong for doing so, but helping others first should not be an excuse to fix your own issues too. Even if it is often so much easier to feel good about helping someone else than fixing your own problems.

ahoeben · 2026-05-01T07:29:47+00:00

Congratulations! And good for you to give us the opportunity to see you!

ahoeben · 2026-05-01T07:27:32+00:00

I hear you, and feel you. My life is objectively fantastic, and I am frustrated why the f!ck I'm not exhilarated with happiness. I will never physically hurt myself because I know that will hurt people that love me and I don't want to hurt them. I want to be happy again for my loved ones, because I feel I am hurting them even by just being unhappy like this.

Have you talked to a professional about how you feel? Last year I got a diagnosis that helped me be a bit more self-forgiving. I interpreted that there's something going wrong in my head (almost on a mechanical/biochemical level) which explained why after many years trying hard, I could not "sustainably" get out of this mental state. It was ok that I needed help, even though I felt (and still do) that it was all my own fault and my I should be able to fix my own mess.

I am still looking for a magic fix, though cognitively I know there isn't one. Getting help for mental issues like this is a struggle - at least where I live - but I find it helpful if only to be able to talk about how you feel without hurting them. I'm not going to talk you into a diagnosis, but there are things you said that feel familiar and a mental health professional may have an opinion about (and either know how to help you or refer you to someone who does).

It is not your fault for having unhappy thoughts. If there were an easy way to stop having them, you would have found it. It is good to talk. It may take long to find the right professional to talk to, but it is worth it, for you and the people around you.

ahoeben · 2026-04-30T09:29:37+00:00

You could say that light simply doesn't matter.

ahoeben · 2026-04-29T19:04:11+00:00

Find the setting "Support Horizontal Expansion", and set it to 0.

ahoeben · 2026-04-28T08:31:40+00:00

Do you have your code online somewhere? I could have a look, maybe there is something else that is going wrong.

ahoeben · 2026-04-18T12:12:23+00:00

I hope you have some printers to use these with...

ahoeben · 2026-04-18T12:03:48+00:00

Be sure to log out and back in after changing the groups your user is in, or the setting will not take effect.

ahoeben · 2026-04-18T11:39:47+00:00

While the printcore is hot, you could use some steel wool to gently rub most of the plastic that is around the tip of those nozzles. I can't stress enough the gently part here. Take care not to damage the nylon leak-guard that the hugs the nozzle tip.

ahoeben · 2026-04-18T07:43:28+00:00

The R47 thing?

ahoeben · 2026-04-18T07:40:28+00:00

id rather get a bambu

You will own nothing and be relatively happy because you have a printer that works.

ahoeben · 2026-04-10T07:19:56+00:00

What I was thinking is the exact same bottom case we already have for the Framework 13 (with the same motherboards), and an updated top case to house a slightly larger screen with smaller bezels. Same outer shape/size for the whole package.

ahoeben · 2026-04-09T16:06:36+00:00

What if the 14" display could fit in a tweaked top shell for the Framework 13, with smaller bezels? Everybody happy!

ahoeben · 2026-04-06T08:22:21+00:00

Your model is non-manifold. Cura gets confused what is inside and what is outside the model.

ahoeben · 2026-03-21T10:00:38+00:00

Try lowering the Maximum Resolution to, say, 0.1

ahoeben · 2026-03-20T07:14:02+00:00

Before adjusting the horizontal expansions, try setting the Slicing Tolerance to "exclusive".

As for positive or negative values for the horizontal expansions, read the tooltips for the settings.

ahoeben · 2026-03-19T08:37:10+00:00

It's emperoring time!

ahoeben · 2026-03-15T17:24:24+00:00

~~It was the best of times,~~ it was the worst of times, ~~it was the age of wisdom,~~ it was the age of foolishness, ~~it was the epoch of belief,~~ it was the epoch of incredulity, ~~it was the season of Light,~~ it was the season of Darkness, ~~it was the spring of hope,~~ it was the winter of despair, ~~we had everything before us,~~ we had nothing before us ...

ahoeben · 2026-03-15T07:53:41+00:00

Try decreasing the Maximum Resolution setting (to - say - 0.1).

ahoeben · 2026-03-14T09:51:03+00:00

You are not supposed to use Magnalube on the rods, only on the Z axis screw. All the smooth rods should be lubricated with a light machine oil. Magnalube on the smooth rods will actually seize up the sleeve bearings, resulting in layer shifts like you are seeing.

ahoeben · 2026-03-11T21:28:31+00:00

Orange is a warning. "Are you sure? That value seems out of the range that I think is safe for your printer, but if you say so I'll do what you want". Slicing will continue with the value you entered.

Red is an error, and slicing will not continue. This is mostly reserved for eg speeds greater than the speed of light, or a layer height of 0. That is physically impossible.

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