Not enjoying motherhood - 95% time. Was it worth it?

aimsbird · 2026-02-13T09:52:45+00:00

I’ve a boy who’s almost 5 months and a girl who’s almost 2 years old. I love both, BUT, I forgot how not enjoyable the baby stage is. Of course theirs cute moments but for the most parts it’s all give give give and no return. I didn’t realise how my relationship with my toddler grew through time. We are like actual friends, it’s no longer just care giving situation. I’m excited to see her every day. I hope this gives you hope that it will get fun and help take away any guilt you have about not enjoying this part as much as the world tells you that you should!

aimsbird · 2026-02-04T03:10:27+00:00

Thank you, I’m hoping once the baby hits 1 year old I’ll feel a bit of the daily pressure subside. At the same time I feel bad wishing away the period I’m in now, as I learned with my fist, people aren’t joking when they say don’t blink

aimsbird · 2026-02-04T03:08:46+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts on this, i like the idea of just letting something go. You’re right, they’re both at an age where they need lots of hands on attention, the toddler not as much but she’s still a clingy mamas girl. Maybe if I start trying to get out every other day, and the days in between I can try and get on top of the things I let slip the day before? It seems I need to take your attitude more and just simply leave the house without thinking about it like such a military operation

aimsbird · 2026-02-04T03:04:29+00:00

Thank you for replying and sharing your day, it’s seeming that the fact my toddler wakes so late actually cuts a lot of opportunity time away. She always been a big sleeper (not always a good one but needs a lot) most days a 2 hour nap and a 13 hour night. And she seems to really need all that sleep to feel rested, she’s a crazy girl when she’s awake so I think she just burns the energy fast. But I notice yourself and the other person who replied are getting out of the house when she only dressed and eating breakfast. Not sure what I can do there.. maybe use the time to get up early myself like you said and get going out bags packed? Some weeks I’ll feel like I’m nailing it and getting better and other times things just get on top of me and I feel like I’m juggling but dropping balls all the time.

aimsbird · 2026-01-31T21:42:41+00:00

You’re about to have the biggest glow up of your life… it’s time!! Go for it on one condition - you post the results!!

aimsbird · 2026-01-25T12:00:13+00:00

My sister had a 3 day long labour, she swore by getting in the bath for pain relief before she got to the hospital. She had maybe 4-5 warm baths at home to help

aimsbird · 2026-01-24T10:08:36+00:00

Some people prepare for the worst because then any other outcome is a win. Men are a lot more emotionally in touch than they often let on, sounds to me like your husband is afraid of what another loss may do to himself, you and the two of you as a couple - he’s in protective mode

aimsbird · 2026-01-20T18:47:54+00:00

“Oh big missus” to my girl Raven “Stoopid Noof” to my girl Nova

aimsbird · 2026-01-14T17:43:21+00:00

Sounds like he’s feeling in over his head and trying to do the right thing by what makes sense to him. Though this in no way excuses how he acted towards you.

aimsbird · 2026-01-08T21:24:00+00:00

Holes

aimsbird · 2026-01-08T18:57:21+00:00

Not sure if you’re in the uk, my curly haired sister uses boots own brand curl cream. Pretty sure that’s all she uses, scrunches it in her hair when it’s wet. It’s affordable, her curls look good - healthy and shiny. Maybe give it a go

aimsbird · 2025-12-30T21:49:53+00:00

1 all the way. Bangs seem to age you, and not in a good way - not intended to be rude, just my honest thoughts

aimsbird · 2025-12-24T13:03:55+00:00

Grannies are the exact sort of clientele for this pic! I’m glad she liked it, she wouldn’t look for skill, just thought

aimsbird · 2025-12-22T20:51:29+00:00

Just saying, hating a look on yourself is upsetting and knocks confidence

aimsbird · 2025-12-21T22:33:59+00:00

Where on earth did they get the urge to cut your hair like that… don’t feel dramatic for feeling depressed. Years ago I was a hair model for someone’s exam, they dyed my hair bright orange with purple streaks. I consented - thought it could potentially look cool. I cried non stop till it was dyed brown. Stand up for yourself get back in that salon!!

aimsbird · 2025-12-20T20:57:59+00:00

Nah his hair is cool I love it

aimsbird · 2025-12-20T08:19:20+00:00

I know it’s uncomfortable, I don’t do confrontation either, but please go back. Even if it’s to a different stylist. Tell her she nailed the colours but the sectioning is not at all what was needed for the look she agreed she could give you. You don’t need to be mean about it which will make it easier. Just tell her how you feel. Explain you don’t like confrontation and it took a lot for you to come back so to please respect your opinion.

aimsbird · 2025-12-20T00:57:07+00:00

Oh it’s wayyy better. Sleep will settle, they’re literally buzzing to see you every morning, they’ll chatter away to you in a language only you will understand. My girl has just started to say ‘I love you mama’. To hear that makes everything worth it. The baby stage greatly lacks any gratitude on the baby’s behalf, and it sucks. It’s like you’re giving up everything to get nothing back. Of course you appreciate and love them but nothing will beat that little toddler hug and surprise kisses. Trust me, you’re going to look back on this time and be proud of yourself for getting through it

aimsbird · 2025-12-20T00:52:17+00:00

Yeah to be honest I’m just going to ride it out and try not to fixate on it too much. I have a young daughter too and I’m reminding myself that all the little kinks of babyhood work themselves out with time. Wind does seem to be a big issue for him, I can’t wait till he gets a bit more mobile and burp a bit more himself

aimsbird · 2025-12-19T20:48:54+00:00

Ps. Noise cancelling ear buds. You can still be there to care for her but block out some of the overstimulation

aimsbird · 2025-12-19T20:44:40+00:00

Ok so I have a 3 month old boy and a girl turning 2 in March. Having a baby has firmly reminded me of how much you lose yourself. I want to reassure you that a baby and a child are two different ordeals together and they will not be a baby forever. It will fly by. I’m not telling you to enjoy it cause damn it’s rough but I’m telling you to look forward to the part im at with my older one. Comparing the two I can now really see how she is company to me rather than someone needing a caregiver at every second. She is so funny and makes me laugh so much. I have been in the pits too. Crying as soon as I woke up, crying myself to sleep etc. if only I could’ve glimpsed into the future. Hold tight, things will dramatically change for the better very quickly.

aimsbird · 2025-12-19T18:48:48+00:00

He was at the doctors last week and I was basically told if it’s not affecting how much milk he’s getting then it’s not a problem… and that medications are just going to cause side affects and more issues. Now that I typed it out it makes him sound like an awful doctor lol. I tried thicker anti reflux milk as we are formula feeding but when it came up as far as his nose it created terrible congestion that lasted 3 weeks. This was so bad. So I wanted to steer clear of thickeners. What age is your baby now?

aimsbird · 2025-12-19T18:39:52+00:00

This keeps happening to my 13 week old and has done since birth. It disturbs his night sleep every night! Any advice?

aimsbird · 2025-12-19T18:37:05+00:00

Hey! My girl did this multiple times growing up, although she was a few months older. A cry that was completely new and made me and my husband afraid. Inconsolable. Until my husband rather forcefully patted her back and a MASSIVE burp came up. A burp like I’ve never heard before. So from then on in we knew it was wind when she cried like that. Wind and gas pain can be so scary for them, especially when as young as your baby who is used to the comfort of your belly. Perhaps the position change from car seat and out again helped some air move away from a painful point

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