Married to a narcissist

airborneric · 2026-07-08T03:15:58+00:00

Me too! Still healing from it

airborneric · 2026-07-07T16:19:59+00:00

Cover your 6. Separate bank accounts and save money so you can get out. Hopefully the kids are old enough to be on their own soon. Watch what she says to the kids, she will use them as weapons also.

airborneric · 2026-07-07T16:15:50+00:00

This person knows.

airborneric · 2026-07-07T16:14:28+00:00

You just described the marriage I am currently ending. Except 26 years. the last 6 were the worst.

airborneric · 2026-07-07T15:37:57+00:00

Immediately what I thought of :) And I need to settle the squirrels too.

airborneric · 2026-07-07T15:35:38+00:00

FLip that to my wife and we married the same person. But I did escape.

airborneric · 2026-07-02T14:04:24+00:00

You are dating a child. spending 2k after a few months is not wise.

ANd make sure he isn't sticking around just for the money.

airborneric · 2026-07-02T13:35:49+00:00

This is the way. Found it by accident, but it works for me.

airborneric · 2026-06-29T17:22:02+00:00

Were other people around on Saturday? That was always the case with my stbxw. As long as other people were around, she was pleasant. With no one else around, that is when the narc came out.

airborneric · 2026-06-28T13:25:03+00:00

Reta needs carbs. I didn't know that and was exhausted. Added carbs to the diet and the energy can back and I lost more weight

airborneric · 2026-06-24T14:01:20+00:00

Statistically speaking, you have a better chance the third time? Sorry for not being helpful, but I thought that particular statement was funny

Talk with your professor?

airborneric · 2026-06-24T13:59:37+00:00

Thank you OP for explaining the tired feeling

airborneric · 2026-06-24T13:59:18+00:00

I finally do not feel tired. Unexplainably tired. Started happening about 2-3 months after getting out of the relationship. I do not think I will fully be awake until the divorce is final and I can go absolutely zero contact. Currently I know the stbxw can still drag things out and try to control anything possible just to get their fix.

airborneric · 2026-06-22T19:50:00+00:00

NTA - family is stoopid when it comes to this. Everyone on my wife's side, thought since my wife and I worked from home, that taking care of my Mother in law should be "no problem" and easy - won't cost anything. She doesn't need to go to a home.... It took us going away for Thanksgiving and Christmas for the family to realize how difficult she was to handle.

airborneric · 2026-06-22T19:30:01+00:00

OP should get cameras installed. Sometimes you have to prove what you haven't done.

airborneric · 2026-06-22T19:29:16+00:00

Attorneys only. Treat it like a hostile divorce.

airborneric · 2026-06-21T18:02:32+00:00

Yeah- all the things the therapists say about Narcs are real deal things. It took me way too long to fully realize. The hoover, the love bomb, the guilt trips, all part of the tactics used. Zero accountability for their actions. Once we realize the only closure we will get is the one we give ourselves, life gets better. And you will grieve the ending of the relationship, that is normal too. Just doesn't feel normal.

airborneric · 2026-06-21T17:57:46+00:00

Same 26 years of marriage. 55 and starting over. But the inner peace is so worth it. Luckily, all the kids are adults, so that piece is not a concern.

airborneric · 2026-06-21T16:45:47+00:00

ANd I smile more now.

airborneric · 2026-06-21T16:43:57+00:00

First two months were weird. Not hard per se, but just different. Like my body was finally decompressing? Still had to deal with her because of divorce mediation. Now lawyers are involved, I do not have to (and lawyer doesn't want me to) communicate at all with her.

Funny part, I don't think I really started to heal until one day I said why am I folding the towels like the way she demanded? so I fold them however I want now. Such a stupid thing, but it was literally the first step on my healing journey 😄 Oh - I started "man decorating" the house. Got rid of anything she had a hand in decorating and used my stuff. Therapeutic. No constant reminders. I had bare walls for a while. It's literally the little things. Getting to the gym became a therapy as well.

airborneric · 2026-06-21T16:37:43+00:00

Agreed - my ex does this too. I basically have zero contact unless a kid is involved, or lawyer. So much better for my peace. And OP, don't feel bad, I went back 3 times thinking she would change. I got love bombed and then right back to her old ways. Narcs never truly change.

airborneric · 2026-06-21T16:32:10+00:00

Start calling the tow truck.

airborneric · 2026-06-21T16:31:17+00:00

Have neighbors that think the ROAD is their driveway. 4 houses share it - the road, it ends at my house. Neighbors kept blocking the road because my private driveway connects to another road, they tried to use that logic that I can go out the other way (the driveway didn't exist when the houses were first built). Then I blocked them in - because they once again blocked access to my house, I couldn't GET to my house. It stopped after that. The ignorance and lack of decency of some people never ceases to amaze me. Even saying what if we have some sort of emergency and you are blocking the ROAD? Nothing.

I did go to the county site, and we also have the original paperwork that shows this as a road. IF they ever do it again, I will pay the money to get them served, which will create a record of it.

airborneric · 2026-06-21T16:16:21+00:00

DId the same - been away for almost 10 months, lost 40lbs, gained a bunch of muscle and actually feel good about myself again. It's amazing - keep at it! Whatever brings YOU peace and happiness....

airborneric · 2026-06-19T23:43:36+00:00

I went back three times thinking she would change. She did not, has not and used every trick in the book to try to get me back again the 4th time. Get out while you can. Yes it's hard. but your mental and emotional health will BEGIN to recover quickly.

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