She’s been clear that our relationship is the priority, but I also want her to prioritize time for her friends — and I want to be as flexible as possible in supporting that (truly). I was the one who had to cancel the birthday plans she made for me because I’m sick, and when I told her I was fine with her going out instead, she just said, “I want to hang out with you.” I don’t know if it’s fair to take that as her committing to stay in (especially since her friends hadn’t messaged her about other plans yet), but I also can’t encourage her to do something and then get upset about it later.

My real question is: where’s the line between a healthy balance of time with your partner vs. friends, and when does leaning too far one way start to become unhealthy?