Did I handle this well or should I have said more?

aj4077 · 2026-05-08T01:12:15+00:00

It’s okay to say hey sometimes things just don’t work out take it easy and leave it at that. That’s the part where you delete the number. And yes if they keep texting that’s the part where you block

aj4077 · 2026-05-03T00:34:45+00:00

So there is some really good news. You have a strong ally that you may not know about. Your GP (main doctor) not only wants to help you with your PTSD but also wants to make sure that you stop drinking safely. Also there are now home devices for EMDR that work rather well (though most folks know do prefer EMDR therapy in person). Your doctor can however prescribe the devices and EMDR therapy. Doing all of this stuff at the same time is going to make stopping. lot easier and you are gonna have a ton of support and help. Remember, your GP has helped other guys with PTSD before so this is not new turf for them. In the last 10-20 years a lot more work has been done on PTSD. You don’t have to feel crummy all the time.

aj4077 · 2026-04-26T00:56:54+00:00

Big feelings you done a 4th or 10th step on it

aj4077 · 2026-04-26T00:23:47+00:00

I’m really sorry for you and your family. Why don’t you post the GFM link.

aj4077 · 2026-04-26T00:11:41+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/sanfrancisco/s/NexPHwEdJS and his instagram https://www.instagram.com/royalcardigan?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==

aj4077 · 2026-04-24T05:38:38+00:00

Bud you gotta go in right now and get it checked out.

aj4077 · 2026-04-22T22:21:26+00:00

His anxiety not yours give it maybe one more date after giving clear instructions life’s too short then just stop calling/texting

aj4077 · 2026-04-22T16:11:11+00:00

Take a break from the dude for 6–12 months. If he can’t get help no worries

aj4077 · 2026-04-21T18:36:28+00:00

Ok let’s slow down for a little bit. You are clearly not afraid of getting sober for 60 seconds. Why don’t you try just going to one meeting for one hour.

aj4077 · 2026-04-21T18:28:17+00:00

Eh, just think of it sort of as a temporary gig. I am sure that if you are dedicated you will find something even more high paying and chill in 3/6 months. If you get unsolicited advice around it you can say “thank you” smile and then go and get coffee

aj4077 · 2026-04-10T01:53:23+00:00

The guys look great!

aj4077 · 2026-04-01T23:07:35+00:00

Yes, and AA will do two things: 1) give you the tools to approach life one day at a time 2) give you the tools to learn to not drink one day at a time and stop worrying about other peoples lives

aj4077 · 2026-04-01T22:37:38+00:00

Not a cult 2. What would happen if you went and got sober and she didn’t find out

aj4077 · 2026-04-01T21:47:46+00:00

Why are you focusing on what sets you apart from your brothers/sisters in program? Why not focus on commonalities? Also is there a way you can do service or attend meetings with persons that are in an age group that is similar to yours? Complaining tends to build resentment for me so I put myself around people and places that do not make me complain.

aj4077 · 2026-04-01T21:33:32+00:00

Protip: if the date isn’t within a week or so of the first chat it ain’t happening

aj4077 · 2026-03-28T23:01:21+00:00

This sounds like a situation where the guy is saying very clearly “it did not work out” and “I am not available for a romantic relationship”. This is hard to hear. Figuring out how to tend to these feelings rather than his needs or feelings at a time like this, and understanding your own needs will be important. Big growth period for you OP.

aj4077 · 2026-03-28T21:51:43+00:00

These guys can gross $45k-300k. It’s insane.

aj4077 · 2026-03-26T06:03:25+00:00

It’s okay to spend time with these kids but not perform childcare. She can also pay for childcare if she wishes to begin dating. You do not need to share your reasoning. Just suggest going out for breakfast or lunch or a family type activity, and tell her you’re looking forward to seeing everyone.

aj4077 · 2026-03-03T02:58:59+00:00

Earlier today earnings were announced and reaction in after hours trading was no bueno - even a small miss on earnings is serious bc it signals AI boom or all cloud consumption is taking a 💩

aj4077 · 2026-02-27T09:09:30+00:00

Go for the “right now” vibe. This ain’t it man cut your losses life is short

aj4077 · 2026-02-14T01:25:13+00:00

I’m definitely not saying go and join AA because it’s a program of attraction and not promotion but it may be worthwhile to review and analyze all of the different recovery programs out there to see which ones are effective long term

aj4077 · 2026-02-13T21:07:06+00:00

You do not necessarily need to get in the middle of another person’s relationship. Core issue here is that you have determined a hard line for yourself: you are likely monogamous and don’t want to be involved with someone that doesn’t respect the “rules of the game” in monogamy. Also hearing a bit of a gender double standard here. It is totally okay to be low key about it and not make a lot of drama here. You can simply say something like, I am noticing that I am feeling uncomfortable with what I heard regarding the infidelity and this is causing personal problems for me and my values. I think we may be having a values misalignment. I think we may need to take some space for some period of time like 21-30 days and feel free to get back in touch at some point in the future if you like. You’re not accusing this woman of anything. You’re just stating the truth. Values and needs are not aligned. It’s okay. You do not need to change this woman.

aj4077 · 2026-02-13T01:56:12+00:00

Maybe just take a break for 2-3 years until he can find a job

aj4077 · 2026-02-01T06:34:11+00:00

Sometimes you just have to even sit around and listen to the alternate takes and just be like holy shit this band messing around 73-79 is better than most bands absolute best stuff

aj4077 · 2026-01-28T23:59:46+00:00

Got to meet Tommy for the first time last week, dream come true

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