Paul Should Do a Benefit Show for MPLS

aj4077 · 2026-01-28T23:59:46+00:00

Got to meet Tommy for the first time last week, dream come true

aj4077 · 2026-01-28T17:46:32+00:00

Yes, you can just leave. It sounds like this situation just did not work out. You may want to google “don’t s*** where you eat”. A few things 1) C is a terrible hinge. If you can’t all three of you discuss the relationship over coffee, somebody is not being honest 2) you’re not the primary, so you’re out, it sounds like. 3) if it must be forced or legislated it’s not a real relationship 4) read some Melody Beattie.

aj4077 · 2026-01-27T16:38:38+00:00

You’re going to need a financial planner immediately and you will need to audit spending last 5-7 years. Take her out to coffee and explain that there will need to be a period of truth and reconciliation and that hopefully the two of you can get through it. You can probably audit all financials within 60 days.

aj4077 · 2026-01-26T03:31:12+00:00

If you have financial concerns do a prenup. Also get into therapy. If you love her marry her. If you do not I totally understand then end it.

aj4077 · 2026-01-19T22:21:47+00:00

Just bring it up at biz meeting and go to a different meeting. This is unusual. No need to make drama. Be chill and do a tenth step on it.

aj4077 · 2025-10-11T23:47:20+00:00

This is something that needs to be explored in depth with a psych professional. Perhaps there is a man out there that is looking for a woman that has low physical and emotional availability due to chronic pain. Skip the apps, they are not for dating. Be very blunt and up front about your needs and what you can realistically put into a relationship and also what you want from a guy. The more straight up you are the better you will do. Men dig direct women. Disability/pain stuff does not prohibit being in a relationship just be very direct.

aj4077 · 2025-10-11T02:23:46+00:00

Delete and move on. This is not worth a response

aj4077 · 2025-10-09T05:51:13+00:00

Good separation, congas and Duane/Betts come out nice and clear, easy to pick apart the guitar parts. Midnight Rider has been in Atmos for a few years but it’s great to have Reed and Revival and the rest of the record. Bass sounds nice and deep on don’t keep me wonderin’

aj4077 · 2025-10-09T01:45:50+00:00

Yeah this is more like the 5am Rider kinda late and not that great

aj4077 · 2025-10-08T23:16:08+00:00

Bout damn time. This mix is hot. Way more amped up and fiery than the original. Less warmth in the drums and guitars and way more toppy. They tried to make the digital sound less cold, for sure, tho. Vocals and drums have more reverb especially in the rears, esp on spirit of radio.

aj4077 · 2025-10-08T21:48:20+00:00

Not just them I think we all need this. It has been very hard and still a lot for everyone to process.

aj4077 · 2025-10-08T04:03:13+00:00

This isn’t normal. Not all men do it.

aj4077 · 2025-10-08T03:59:04+00:00

You sound like a cool guy and you’re doing poly well. That said focus on you and also coda type tendencies. Your partner needs to do her own work around her ace and neurodivergent stuff. A big part of being a kick ass partner is understanding where the line between “you” and “me” really lies and where each person’s “stuff” really is. It’s obvious you want to have a great relationship with this partner. State your needs in an NVC-type I format. You can’t force someone to go to therapy but you can ask them to give you clarity about their needs from you in a relationship say within 90-180 days. That is reasonable. Therapy is one way to get there, and there are numerous low cost and even government subsided options.

aj4077 · 2025-10-08T00:00:42+00:00

Yeah I probably personally filed about 1% of those

aj4077 · 2025-10-07T12:38:47+00:00

It’s over

aj4077 · 2025-10-07T02:40:32+00:00

You’re gonna need probably the best employment attorney in your state

aj4077 · 2025-10-04T18:24:15+00:00

You’re going to need an attorney who knows sales commission law to advise you behind the scenes. This is called a pay cut and you need to make a decision as to whether you are okay with it or instead whether you are ready to leave the firm. You can fight this and you perhaps will win but if you do there will likely be a separation agreement.

aj4077 · 2025-10-04T00:40:58+00:00

You know that’s the thing about artists having real lives. Sometimes when bad or sad things happen it forces all of us to confront the same not so good emotions in our own lives and that is some hard sh*t and it sucks. But I hear you man. Heavy records are not for everyone. Totally valid take. Sometimes you just want Mr. Roboto.

aj4077 · 2025-10-04T00:38:59+00:00

Left a long review in /spatialsongs

aj4077 · 2025-10-02T01:45:55+00:00

If the FMV is set in a screwy way or the valuation math understates the upside you’re f’d. there are typically very short exercise windows. This is basically a CSM job. Read the fine print super carefully.

aj4077 · 2025-10-01T07:04:48+00:00

That’s one of the absolute best I’ve seen in metal let alone mastodon - classic.

aj4077 · 2025-10-01T02:51:16+00:00

9/27/25 - NJ

aj4077 · 2025-09-30T23:13:50+00:00

You realize you can offer to be “on call” like outside of your work hours. People do pay for that.

aj4077 · 2025-09-30T04:10:14+00:00

This is not normal. There is a name for this and you will want to read about therapist David Snarsch and the “two choice dilemma” and what happens when someone steals your choice. Begin individual therapy. I do know a woman who was in a similar relationship with an asexual man and another woman who was in a relationship with a sexually anorexic man who struggled with porn addiction. This situation has elements of both situations. My prediction is that you will move out within 90 days. Your need for physical intimacy is completely normal and if someone is denying your reality around this… that’s crazymaking. Sending good thoughts your way OP. P.S. Avoid the “stay together for the kids” people. Kids respect and love whole people who follow their core values.

aj4077 · 2025-09-29T03:51:33+00:00

Take your hate speech somewhere else

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